I don’t think I attract cute guys, guys never pay attention to me in person? What is wrong…?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I’m not desirable enough. I’m not like those blondes with fuller figures. I’ve been told I don’t look my age. I’m 22 but I get told I look 16. My sister asked a couple guys about me without my permission if they want to go on a blind date and without me knowing because I’m the only one single in the family. They said no. When I found out that crushed me. I didn’t know I was this unattractive to men my age. I was crushing on this handsome guy for three years and I even started working out and being fit and healthy he never looked at me in the friend zone forever… Should I just settle… I thought I was a full package lol. Wifey personality, educated, and relationship material I’m losing hope.

[MCheetah]

1. Your standards are way too high.

2. You think you deserve better men than you really do (9s and 10s).

3. Subjective, but I don't find you attractive looking at all. Your large brow and nose look very masculine and I would assume you were a transwoman.

4. Your personality must not be enough to offer these guys anything, or else, they'd overlook your appearance.

5. "I thought I was a full package. Wifey personality, educated, and relationship material." No. That's called arrogance. Also, no men care about how educated and wealthy a woman is, since women will likely never share that wealth with a man and will just have higher standards (in regards in income) when seeking a man, anyway. So it's irrelevant to men, unless you plan on dating someone "below your income level" (women almost never do).

Now that you have this humbling experience of men not seeing your personality, or looks, as attractive, use it to work on yourself and better yourself. Be a nicer person, stop being entitled and thinking you're owed a Chad (this does not mean "settle"), and work on yourself so that you'd be in the right state of mind when you DO meet the right guy. You're a (biological) female, I assume, and under 30, so you'll be able to find men in your sleep. Just stop thinking you're owed a perfect 10/10 man, when you are not a 10/10 yourself (almost no one is).

[Mary087]

Im sure you're perfect lmao.

[MCheetah]

@Mary087
Nope. I just live in reality and don't think I'm entitled to anything just due to my genitals.

[Novacane]

To be quite frank it's natural that girls find a very small amount of guys as "attractive", so when you do find someone attractive they are usually attractive to the other girls as well. Like I'm sure there are guys that are interested in you but you don't find them attractive, the same story. Also, a lot of guys around your age are more likely trying to experience the field especially if they have options, so why would they settle? With that being said you are not unattractive, but you're just not the MOST attractive person. So just because you are not the most attractive doesn't mean you are unattractive, it's not a one or other, it's a spectrum. I also want people to there is nothing wrong with "settling" a lot of people nowadays see it as taboo when it's normal, any relationship is about settling and compromising. Maybe just lower your expectations a bit? or just keep trying until you find someone, dating is a numbers game.

[martyfrazier80]

Girl stop selling yourself short you are beautiful! Everybody has a will! Just because this guy you like doesn't like you back maybe you are not his type , or just maybe he knows you like him and he's playing hard to get. Heck he maybe married ! There could be many of reason, but just don't sell yourself short! I detect some jealousy between you and your sisters because I would've never told my sister something painful as that. I can see why you have a self esteem problem! Somehow, you are setting yourself up for a fall! Some no good guys will come after you for one purpose only to use and abuse you just for sex. You're beautiful and intelligent so why are you chasing! Stop trying so hard that right man is going to come along and appreciate you for who you are! Love yourself!

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should try making the first move? I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you tho, some girls are just invisible to guys and I have no idea why. Could be the energy that you give out? Do you come across as welcoming and friendly usually?

[OlderAndWiser]

Whatever the problem is, I don't think it is your appearance. You look like a cute girl and if I was your age, I'd be happy to have a date with you.

[SkipPerk]

Have you tried asking out men? Too many women wait for men to come to them. Furthermore, do not fall into the trap of fighting with other women over the same few men. Broaden what you are looking for. Shoot for an attractive man who may be a bit older or a bit more out of shape. They might not work out, but try.
What I have too often seen are women all fighting over a few perfect men. This will only lead to unhappiness. Most of all, take control. Ask men out. If anything, it will help you understand why men are often hesitant to ask out women

[AncientWisdom]

Attractive guys your age have options. All the girls want them. It’s just a matter of your age probably those guys are playing the field. Lots of average looking guys out there who want a girl so bad. They are usually the ones who will be good husbands. YOU STILL VET THEM THOUGH.
Men who have their head in right get their lives together before they worry about a wife. They are usually looking for that from 32 up by then they have a career and a house , and building their nest. Real men do this beware the veritable cornucopia of adult males who behave like children.

[PapaDad]

Of course, I don't know you, but from your post it seems you're probably a bit too focused on appearance (not that you shouldn't pay attention to your appearance, everybody should within reason to put your reasonably best front forward). It's who you are that will ultimately attract the right people (and I'd be willing to bet there are guys who have secret crushes on you you haven't even noticed). Make yourself interesting. Do it for YOU. Read, pour yourself into one or more hobbies, learn new things, hang out with people and live and laugh and do not try to force anything. It will happen. There is nothing wrong with your appearance, and anybody who wouldn't date you because they think there is is probably not somebody you want to date, so don't try to "get" those people. You'd be doing WORSE than wasting your time.

[JSmuve]

Depends on what your standards are. Women tend to say they don't get any attention but in reality they get lots, just not from the guys they really want.

Also, if you don't put yourself in a position to be approached and look like you want to be approached, guys likely won't do it. Guys are more wary about taking risks these days because they don't want to give unwelcome advances.

So I don't know what you do to meet guys or where you go during the day, but those are the two big things.

[shaysh87]

Do you know that just because guys find you physically attractive, it really doesn’t mean they “like “ you or want to go out with you. In order for a guy to want to date you, they must be attracted to your personality. Those guys who didn’t want to date you just saw no Romantic attraction. It doesn’t mean you’re ugly. You’re not ugly at all. In fact you’re an attractive girl.

[Mango-man]

My first guess would be that they could be afraid exactly because you look younger (I don't imagine many men looking for wife would go for someone who appears to be 16). Maybe go to places that minors can't access - like dancing courses for adults, pubs that control ID,... So they don't need to be afraid of approaching minor?

[Asker]

I’m not a secular girl. I go to church.

[WhatMeow]

Do you think "church" people don't go to pubs?

[Mango-man]

Being Christian doesn't go against occasionally drinking with friends/alone - if done within normal limits and not as an addiction.

[Mango-man]

Then what about church gatherings for 30s people? Or you could ask your priest (ess) whether he knows of some decent single husband-material man. I bet the priest (ess) would be more than happy to help two souls to get together in marriage.

[Juicyred921]

That’s the thing. Guys don’t want relationships. They want fuck buddies. They get close to you and make you feel special just to tell you that they only wanna be friends. It’s just a game to them. Your a very pretty girl. And maybe some of them think your too young for them. Just be careful and never ever give a man your heart or get caught up in there game

[Markm3212]

you fall into the too cute category. in the pics you posted you look gorgeous and sexy, you do look younger than 22 but dont worry as when your older you'll look younger haha. but a lot of guys will not have the confidence to talk to good looking girls and seem to settle for the less attractive rather than be rejected.

[DonkeyDan]

Are you interested in cute guys or are you interested in guys who are decent and will treat you well. Normally you can't have both.
Personally I don't see any reason why anyone would turn you down for a date, I wouldn't say no to a date other than your age, too young for me, but then I'm an old geeza lol.

[TheBMG]

I don't think anything is wrong with you. I think you have to continue to be patient. You have beautiful skin tones, beautiful brown eyes, and your figure appears to be on the petite side. Nothing wrong at all. Wait for the man who will treat you well. Husband material if that's what you're looking for, not tool/player material. Just my honest opinion. Don't settle but maybe look at who you're found after instead. I hope everything works out for you.

[Asker]

Thank you! I just feel like I’m losing hope. I go to church and it would be nice to meet a good gentleman there but I’m like invisible.

[Asker]

I’m 22, and other Russian girls my age are married. I want get married to the right person.

[TheBMG]

I saw that you are independent and can do many things like remodel, change tire and things like that. I think that is awesome. I would love that. That's how my parents were when I was growing up. They did things for each other. My mom would help my dad with projects and building things. My dad would help with keeping the kitchen clean and cooked dinner with my mom. There is a perfect balance.

Also, my Great-Grandmother came to America from Vladivostok just after the Bolshevik uprising. Maybe that’s why I think your good.

[Asker]

I don’t understand why guys my age are either intimidated by me or don’t find me approachable. I am a short gal, but I am bold. I guess I’ll be one of those that finds the right person at 30.

[TheBMG]

I would not be so hard on yourself. It’s something that brings negative energy into what you are trying to accomplish. Be confident and sometimes when you stop putting pressure to find someone on yourself, that special someone finds you. Again, I pray you find what you are looking for.

[Anonymous]

Probably because your sister was the one asking. Some men avoid blind dates or don't want to waste time with someone they didn't get to know first. Don't worry about things like "full package" and "relationship material" because anybody can check those boxes which doesn't bring out the humanity inside of you. Everybody has different tastes.

Don't lose hope and definitely don't settle. Quality over quantity, better to mold with a single guy you actually want than to attract a bunch of guys you don't really like. Just be yourself and enjoy life, you might find somebody along the way who also shares your joy.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

You are really pretty and I think you are way too hard on yourself
I know how it feels to have low self-esteem look at me I was 350 +
in weight and females of all ages was attractive to me but I couldn't
accept it so I lost 100 + pounds cause I wanted to look better I remember
being in middle school like 9 grade back then and high school grade 10
it was rough cause of my weight then I now weigh less than I did than
so we all have our thing going on but you look great

[loveslongnails]

Maybe they think you have RBF? I don't think so - I think you look a little mysterious. If you're on the low end of the age range (18,19), you're not missing that much. Guys that age are usually jerks who want 2 things - sex and to play video games.

You're definitely a pretty girl, and I wouldn't worry about it very much. Smile and wear some heels with that dress and you'll get plenty of attention, maybe even unwanted attention!

[Asker]

I do think I have a resting b face but I am genuinely an easy person to talk and communicate. Maybe it’s my vibe.

[loveslongnails]

Maybe, so smile more. How old are you?

[lrina]

I think you're very cute and your hair is very lovely. plus there are a ton of incredibly unattractive women that still get dates so you should be fine-- just give it more time ; there will definitely be guys interested in you in the future.

[UdontNeedtoknow]

Nothing is wrong with you. Just remember that the top guys pick who they want or what they want. If you want happiness, go after the guy who makes you happy regardless of his looks. trust me, a normal guy with a lot of personality would want to keep you.

[Valso]

If that's you in the first two images, my personal opinion is that you're much, much more attractive without makeup! I like natural girls - girls who don't use any makeup whatsoever. The 2000 lbs of makeup in the second image is extremely repulsive to me.

I can't speak for other guys but I'm guessing I'm not the only one in the world who likes natural girls. ;)

[SurströmmingLover]

In my opinion, the boys think you are too cute and way out of their league, so you somehow scare them away, or they assume that you must have a boyfriend and probably 2, 3 other guys ¨waiting in queue'' after you break up. Or you look unapproachable (you don't smile at them enough/won't make eye contact). Men are simple creatures, if you give them a clear hint, they will do the rest, if they're interested.

[Nagahime]

Are you a quiet or shy individual? If so, then maybe guys don't say much to you because they don't know how to take you. Or maybe you're beautiful to a lot of guys, and they're the shy ones. Who knows?

[cookiecrusher]

You have a bit masculine face.

And maybe your attitude also comes off as one.

Body looks good.

Style is alright.

Approach the men you like, don't wait.
And don't look for mr perfect. Mr75% will do. Kind of sounds like you want too much/too cute etc.