I don’t think I attract cute guys, guys never pay attention to me in person? What is wrong…?

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I feel like I’m not desirable enough. I’m not like those blondes with fuller figures. I’ve been told I don’t look my age. I’m 22 but I get told I look 16. My sister asked a couple guys about me without my permission if they want to go on a blind date and without me knowing because I’m the only one single in the family. They said no. When I found out that crushed me. I didn’t know I was this unattractive to men my age. I was crushing on this handsome guy for three years and I even started working out and being fit and healthy he never looked at me in the friend zone forever… Should I just settle… I thought I was a full package lol. Wifey personality, educated, and relationship material I’m losing hope.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

1. Your standards are way too high.

2. You think you deserve better men than you really do (9s and 10s).

3. Subjective, but I don't find you attractive looking at all. Your large brow and nose look very masculine and I would assume you were a transwoman.

4. Your personality must not be enough to offer these guys anything, or else, they'd overlook your appearance.

5. "I thought I was a full package. Wifey personality, educated, and relationship material." No. That's called arrogance. Also, no men care about how educated and wealthy a woman is, since women will likely never share that wealth with a man and will just have higher standards (in regards in income) when seeking a man, anyway. So it's irrelevant to men, unless you plan on dating someone "below your income level" (women almost never do).

Now that you have this humbling experience of men not seeing your personality, or looks, as attractive, use it to work on yourself and better yourself. Be a nicer person, stop being entitled and thinking you're owed a Chad (this does not mean "settle"), and work on yourself so that you'd be in the right state of mind when you DO meet the right guy. You're a (biological) female, I assume, and under 30, so you'll be able to find men in your sleep. Just stop thinking you're owed a perfect 10/10 man, when you are not a 10/10 yourself (almost no one is).

Novacane · Accepted Answer

To be quite frank it's natural that girls find a very small amount of guys as "attractive", so when you do find someone attractive they are usually attractive to the other girls as well. Like I'm sure there are guys that are interested in you but you don't find them attractive, the same story. Also, a lot of guys around your age are more likely trying to experience the field especially if they have options, so why would they settle? With that being said you are not unattractive, but you're just not the MOST attractive person. So just because you are not the most attractive doesn't mean you are unattractive, it's not a one or other, it's a spectrum. I also want people to there is nothing wrong with "settling" a lot of people nowadays see it as taboo when it's normal, any relationship is about settling and compromising. Maybe just lower your expectations a bit? or just keep trying until you find someone, dating is a numbers game.

martyfrazier80 · Accepted Answer

Girl stop selling yourself short you are beautiful! Everybody has a will! Just because this guy you like doesn't like you back maybe you are not his type , or just maybe he knows you like him and he's playing hard to get. Heck he maybe married ! There could be many of reason, but just don't sell yourself short! I detect some jealousy between you and your sisters because I would've never told my sister something painful as that. I can see why you have a self esteem problem! Somehow, you are setting yourself up for a fall! Some no good guys will come after you for one purpose only to use and abuse you just for sex. You're beautiful and intelligent so why are you chasing! Stop trying so hard that right man is going to come along and appreciate you for who you are! Love yourself!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Maybe you should try making the first move? I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you tho, some girls are just invisible to guys and I have no idea why. Could be the energy that you give out? Do you come across as welcoming and friendly usually?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Whatever the problem is, I don't think it is your appearance. You look like a cute girl and if I was your age, I'd be happy to have a date with you.

SkipPerk · Answer

Have you tried asking out men? Too many women wait for men to come to them. Furthermore, do not fall into the trap of fighting with other women over the same few men. Broaden what you are looking for. Shoot for an attractive man who may be a bit older or a bit more out of shape. They might not work out, but try.
What I have too often seen are women all fighting over a few perfect men. This will only lead to unhappiness. Most of all, take control. Ask men out. If anything, it will help you understand why men are often hesitant to ask out women

AncientWisdom · Answer

Attractive guys your age have options. All the girls want them. It’s just a matter of your age probably those guys are playing the field. Lots of average looking guys out there who want a girl so bad. They are usually the ones who will be good husbands. YOU STILL VET THEM THOUGH.
Men who have their head in right get their lives together before they worry about a wife. They are usually looking for that from 32 up by then they have a career and a house , and building their nest. Real men do this beware the veritable cornucopia of adult males who behave like children.

PapaDad · Answer

Of course, I don't know you, but from your post it seems you're probably a bit too focused on appearance (not that you shouldn't pay attention to your appearance, everybody should within reason to put your reasonably best front forward). It's who you are that will ultimately attract the right people (and I'd be willing to bet there are guys who have secret crushes on you you haven't even noticed). Make yourself interesting. Do it for YOU. Read, pour yourself into one or more hobbies, learn new things, hang out with people and live and laugh and do not try to force anything. It will happen. There is nothing wrong with your appearance, and anybody who wouldn't date you because they think there is is probably not somebody you want to date, so don't try to "get" those people. You'd be doing WORSE than wasting your time.

JSmuve · Answer

Depends on what your standards are. Women tend to say they don't get any attention but in reality they get lots, just not from the guys they really want.

Also, if you don't put yourself in a position to be approached and look like you want to be approached, guys likely won't do it. Guys are more wary about taking risks these days because they don't want to give unwelcome advances.

So I don't know what you do to meet guys or where you go during the day, but those are the two big things.

shaysh87 · Answer

Do you know that just because guys find you physically attractive, it really doesn’t mean they “like “ you or want to go out with you. In order for a guy to want to date you, they must be attracted to your personality. Those guys who didn’t want to date you just saw no Romantic attraction. It doesn’t mean you’re ugly. You’re not ugly at all. In fact you’re an attractive girl.

Mango-man · Answer

My first guess would be that they could be afraid exactly because you look younger (I don't imagine many men looking for wife would go for someone who appears to be 16). Maybe go to places that minors can't access - like dancing courses for adults, pubs that control ID,... So they don't need to be afraid of approaching minor?

Juicyred921 · Answer

That’s the thing. Guys don’t want relationships. They want fuck buddies. They get close to you and make you feel special just to tell you that they only wanna be friends. It’s just a game to them. Your a very pretty girl. And maybe some of them think your too young for them. Just be careful and never ever give a man your heart or get caught up in there game

Markm3212 · Answer

you fall into the too cute category. in the pics you posted you look gorgeous and sexy, you do look younger than 22 but dont worry as when your older you'll look younger haha. but a lot of guys will not have the confidence to talk to good looking girls and seem to settle for the less attractive rather than be rejected.

DonkeyDan · Answer

Are you interested in cute guys or are you interested in guys who are decent and will treat you well. Normally you can't have both.
Personally I don't see any reason why anyone would turn you down for a date, I wouldn't say no to a date other than your age, too young for me, but then I'm an old geeza lol.

TheBMG · Answer

I don't think anything is wrong with you. I think you have to continue to be patient. You have beautiful skin tones, beautiful brown eyes, and your figure appears to be on the petite side. Nothing wrong at all. Wait for the man who will treat you well. Husband material if that's what you're looking for, not tool/player material. Just my honest opinion. Don't settle but maybe look at who you're found after instead. I hope everything works out for you.

loveslongnails · Answer

Maybe they think you have RBF? I don't think so - I think you look a little mysterious. If you're on the low end of the age range (18,19), you're not missing that much. Guys that age are usually jerks who want 2 things - sex and to play video games.

You're definitely a pretty girl, and I wouldn't worry about it very much. Smile and wear some heels with that dress and you'll get plenty of attention, maybe even unwanted attention!

Anonymous · Answer

Probably because your sister was the one asking. Some men avoid blind dates or don't want to waste time with someone they didn't get to know first. Don't worry about things like "full package" and "relationship material" because anybody can check those boxes which doesn't bring out the humanity inside of you. Everybody has different tastes.

Don't lose hope and definitely don't settle. Quality over quantity, better to mold with a single guy you actually want than to attract a bunch of guys you don't really like. Just be yourself and enjoy life, you might find somebody along the way who also shares your joy.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

You are really pretty and I think you are way too hard on yourself
I know how it feels to have low self-esteem look at me I was 350 +
in weight and females of all ages was attractive to me but I couldn't
accept it so I lost 100 + pounds cause I wanted to look better I remember
being in middle school like 9 grade back then and high school grade 10
it was rough cause of my weight then I now weigh less than I did than
so we all have our thing going on but you look great

SurströmmingLover · Answer

In my opinion, the boys think you are too cute and way out of their league, so you somehow scare them away, or they assume that you must have a boyfriend and probably 2, 3 other guys ¨waiting in queue'' after you break up. Or you look unapproachable (you don't smile at them enough/won't make eye contact). Men are simple creatures, if you give them a clear hint, they will do the rest, if they're interested.

lrina · Answer

I think you're very cute and your hair is very lovely. plus there are a ton of incredibly unattractive women that still get dates so you should be fine-- just give it more time ; there will definitely be guys interested in you in the future.

UdontNeedtoknow · Answer

Nothing is wrong with you. Just remember that the top guys pick who they want or what they want. If you want happiness, go after the guy who makes you happy regardless of his looks. trust me, a normal guy with a lot of personality would want to keep you.

Valso · Answer

If that's you in the first two images, my personal opinion is that you're much, much more attractive without makeup! I like natural girls - girls who don't use any makeup whatsoever. The 2000 lbs of makeup in the second image is extremely repulsive to me.

I can't speak for other guys but I'm guessing I'm not the only one in the world who likes natural girls. ;)

Nagahime · Answer

Are you a quiet or shy individual? If so, then maybe guys don't say much to you because they don't know how to take you. Or maybe you're beautiful to a lot of guys, and they're the shy ones. Who knows?

cookiecrusher · Answer

You have a bit masculine face.

And maybe your attitude also comes off as one.

Body looks good.

Style is alright.

Approach the men you like, don't wait.
And don't look for mr perfect. Mr75% will do. Kind of sounds like you want too much/too cute etc.

Candyarvind · Answer

I would definitely tell you that the guy is totally dumb. Don't ever think that you don't look good or no one likes you. It's just the inner beauty that needs to be treated not the external one. And remember everyone in this world are beautiful in their own way. God has given beauty to everyone and everything in this universe and it just that the opposite person has to see it.

LikeALog · Answer

Personal preference, I think a different hair style would make you look extremely gorgeous. I really think that your hair style detracts from you beauty. But the darker hair does look better than light colored hair.

DaveJord · Answer

Physically you look fine to me, you're not ugly, but not s sure beauty either. Average looks, athlete build... but I have no idea about your personality. Personality matters big time, so you might have to consider doing some self reflection on that.

TheAfrikan · Answer

It seems you are really a serious woman self driven n that kind of lady who enjoys more of being independent. And you often do know what you want and love.
So those characteristics tend to be a mood killer to some weak men out there.
Hv to say your physical appearances are just okay n the sense of fashion is great too. Madam anonymous

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe you're too shy around guys, I don't know, in case you are, you could open up, show your funny side, being silly, show your interests, just be yourself. You're really cute, I don't think that's the problem.

slatyb · Answer

The bottom picture is very cute, are you shy? Men approach women that appear approachable? How many men do you know enough to greet them by name? Maybe you just need to get out and meet people.

Somegirl678 · Answer

maybe try online dating if u can't find anyone in person

Elise888888 · Answer

You are a very pretty girl!! I have seen pretty girls not get hit on at the bar, or get neglected over less attractive girls.

YollyM · Answer

You're a hun, beautiful. Perhaps you have a standoff-ish vibe (like me) and you're not a very inviting person so only the confident guys approach you, which is less than a few. I'm not really sure.

Honesttguy · Answer

That 2 pic reminds me of English teacher, like someone who struggles to understand how to be sexy. Is that you tho?

DevikaButts95 · Answer

You're plenty beautiful! But hey if guys are giving you bad luck, I know a girl that'd be well interested in sitting on such a cute face. ;) :*

Fireguy17 · Answer

Ask yourself this, do you want just a cute guy or the right guy? Looks change over time, personalities don't change very often.

Anonymous · Answer

You look fine. Depends what kind of guys you've been trying for. Stay away from places like bars and clubs, which are full of PUA one night stand types. Same with apps like Tinder or POF.

magiusX26 · Answer

maybe change your standards or criteria. possibilty there is a personality trait or quirk that they are having issue with. can not see anything physically off.

xJayleenx · Answer

There’s nothing wrong with you you’re cute and have a great body. Maybe you just have to get out of your comfort zone a little when it comes to people you’re crushing on that’s the only way that I ever found a boyfriend because I am abnormally shy.

LegendaryIcon · Answer

Isn't that funny, the girl we're interested in, is never into us back, and the guy, girls are interested are never into them doesn't THAT SUCK, BALLS

Daniela1982 · Answer

You act too desperate maybe? That will send them running.

exitseven · Answer

Why do you only want to date cute guys? There are average looking guys out there that would treat you right.

donnny2367764 · Answer

You are hott... and very attractive. Any idiot who can't appreciate you in person is either a queer or fag... if I came accross you I would totally get up in your grill without hesitation

Staximus · Answer

If you don't act interested, guys will never know you are attracted to them. Why don't you look for guys with more important qualities than just being "cute"?

Chthou95 · Answer

It's your fault. You're a woman and dating and attracting the opposite sex is easier for women so you need to figure out what you're doing wrong. Maybe you act stuck up and don't realise it. I don't feel sorry for you if you're expecting sympathy

rabbitzzz · Answer

Maybe they don't have the balls to approach you and or assumes you are taken. Anyways think what kind of guy you want and go and grab them.

steveRogers12 · Answer

Cute but plain. Not sure what guys you are interested in but you just may need to work hard to find a guy you like who is attracted to you

RandleH · Answer

If I was looking for a girl, you would be one to set off a signal to me I think you are pretty, you look like you have a nice body. I don't see what the problem is, The 2 guys that wouldn't go on a date with you? Their loss

Anonymous · Answer

Every pretty girl flaunting herself here and saying y don't guys like me am I not pretty 😂😂😂

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

You got a hotter friend or something? Guys mistake that pimple on your lip for Herpes? Are you a virgin?

Ray123456 · Answer

Honest opinion: I think your face looks a little bit manly.. That might be the reason why. Sorry if I hurt your feelings I'm just being honest.

Jintendo18 · Answer

It might be the angle of the third photo, but you look very short.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Honestly you look decent enough I’d give you a chance. If everything was true about your personality. Besides that I’m 21 and still single. It isn’t just you

Ironic_Method · Answer

You're plenty attractive, I have a feeling it's something else.

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

I don't know, it makes no sense, you're pretty enough to attract people

bananathunder · Answer

I don't know who you are looking for. You shouldn't have too hard of a time in my opinion. I think you are cute af

Raaj4you · Answer

You are so beautiful😍, yes you are desirable. The guy who will marry you will be lucky to have you in his life.

Waldoe · Answer

I think your cute... but, I am 71, so it doesn't count... is there someone that you can ask for beauty advice from, makeup, clothes?

noohair · Answer

The issue might be that you would not ever consider an ugly fat guy like me when I was young. So, you have some idea what men go through too.

Ryfyle · Answer

Brutally honest, its the man face going on. It looks like you have or had a penis.

theelegantman · Answer

you're pretty enough but you don't become flirty or you can be a cold person at least you can look like that

Stillguy664 · Answer

You are one of those popular beautiful girls who would reject me in the most mean way possible and be disturbed even by my presence. I would never approach you if you were at my college

Twalli · Answer

So do no guys express interest in you, or just the ones you find attractive?

dazzinu69 · Answer

Your really pretty , trust me you won't have a problem getting the kinds guys you want for long

I don’t think I attract cute guys, guys never pay attention to me in person? What is wrong…?

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