I’m having a situation with a very close female friend and I’m not sure how to handle it?

[Anonymous]

So I met this friend of mine and we hit it off immediately and developed a great bond right off the bat. We met in the gym and had established that we were interested in spending time together outside the gym. That hasn’t happened to this point. Now I find out through a friend that she’s actively dating someone and is apparently trying to hide it from me. I can no longer see her stories on social media and that’s apparently where she’s posting about him. Why would you hide that from one of your best friends? I’m super confused and feel like that’s a massive red flag, but I really do like her. So I’m
not sure what to do from here.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Massive red flag. I wouldn’t continue trying to be her friend. Like why feel the need to hide it? If you two were just friends, I don’t think there was a reason to hide that. If she wanted more with you and that’s why she hid it, then she’s a cheater, and I would not pursue any further.

[Asker]

I was thinking she did it because she either knew it would affect me, or because she hasn’t decided what she wants with me and me finding out she’s dating would have burned bridges between us. It could be tons of reasons but it’s definitely shady.

[PrettyPriya]

HUGE red flag if she is indeed dating someone. Would you want to date a her knowing she might be having another relationship behind your back?

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for MHO!

[Curmudgeon]

OK, see my answer here:
If a girl friend zoned a guy she went on a few dates with after he never made a move, is it reversible?

In short, you are "Friendzoned" and she is pursuing somewhere else. How to handle it? Well, read my advice from that G. A. G. post.

[Avicenna]

Firstborn all, she isn’t really a friend if she’s doing that. She may have had possible romantic interest at the time she met you.

[In_Trance]

You need to give your head a shake.