If a girl friend zoned a guy she went on a few dates with after he never made a move, is it reversible?

[Anonymous]

Yes it’s reversible if he doesn’t contact her for a bit and gets her on a date months later

No it’s not reversible

[Curmudgeon]

Maybe A, but Probably B, hence my choice. Now you could ignore her for a while and see if she misses you or not, but likely you are stuck in "The Friendzone" from here on. Which leads me to - A Straight Man's simple guide to "The Friendzone":

Should you maintain the friendship? Is there anything on a non-romantic level that appeals to you about her? Intellect? Hobbies? Professionally?

(A very good sample question to ask yourself here is: Can you ever see yourself doing business with her? Could you see her as your Realtor? Your Attorney? I am using examples from my professional dealings.)

If the answer is YES, maintain the friendship.
If the answer is NO, and you really just want her physically, then politely say goodbye.

[Asker]

I answer yes. We have similar hobbies.

[Curmudgeon]

OK, but compartmentalize any and all sexual feelings you may have for her from this point forward.

[Adam1978]

I don't get it going on real dates is making a move. You don't get friendzoned for not trying hump her. Aslong as you show interest in her and her life your in. If you get friendzoned you didn't make the cut and is out. Trying to reverse that is an uphill battle. You better of trying with another woman.

[Asker]

I always get friend zoned so it makes me think I’m doing something wrong.

[Adam1978]

Yeah probably. You probably was to safe and wasn't exciting. Ie not the bad boy. Yes women are emotional which makes them reason this foolish way. Ie not good enough or exciting enough.

[Asker]

Humans are emotional. I don’t think it’s just women.

[Adam1978]

True but unlike men they make life decisions based on them. Guys usually ignore emotions and act logical in important choices. The closest you get is men ignoring red flags.

[Asker]

I don’t think that’s true. Most decisions humans make are emotional and we go back to justify them using logic. And convince ourselves that we made a logical decision.

[Adam1978]

I ignore my feelings quite often, and suppress emotions. Because following them would give a bad outcome. So I don't agree only people acting like a rugrat is following their emotions completely.