Dating

Should I put in more effort to be “something more” than friends? Should I try to “win” this boy over or just stay chill?

So I have been texting this guy and he was gonna visit my house today for the first time. He isn’t exactly a rebound because me and my last boyfriend stopped talking a few years ago-but he is the only guy I have actually liked since that relationship and the fact that he even caught my interest in the first place was a big step for someone like me. He says he is single and I took his word for it. As of now, I wouldn’t doubt it that he probably is sleeping with girls or at least talking to some other girls even if he is really single because he’s handsome and most guys would rather be sleeping with somebody rather than nobody regardless of their relationship status. I decided not to sweat it if he is because that’s not really something that concerns me right now. I just wanted to hang out, get a feel for how we vibe and see where it goes from there. But as of now, like I mentioned previously, he is the only guy I actually even like and have liked in the last few years. I have talked to other guys but it never meant much to me. Also, we discussed a few things and I let him know I won’t be having casual sex and he acts like he is cool with that and even like its something he agrees with for himself. But I really want us to be friends first. That’s the mistake I made in my last relationship- Just because I liked my ex (which is rare for me to like anyone) we rushed into things. But I’m just a little worried that if I friend zone this guy too much he might actually get with some other girl. Like i said, he is a pretty handsome guy and I don’t particularly have any other options that I want. Not that I don’t have options, I’m good looking too. But I don’t like anybody. So my question is, how should I go about dating this guy? Should I be casual and just see where it leads or should I try to actively steer the relationship towards something serious?
Should I put in more effort to be “something more” than friends? Should I try to “win” this boy over or just stay chill?
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