I love my boyfriend but I want to do so many different things?

[Anonymous]

Let me start off by saying that I wholeheartedly love my boyfriend. We've been dating for almost 2 years & speak of kids, marriage, and the future very openly. However, recently I've been finding my mind wandering whenever we're intimate & imagining what my life would be like if we weren't together.

I've always loved animals - specifically horses & dogs, and have wanted to live in Arizona. He would like to move to Arizona as well, but not for a while & is a hard no on dogs for at least the next 5-8 years.

I don't know if this is just my mind being completely settled in our relationship and that first initial *spark* isn't that anymore or what, but I often find myself imagining if I moved to AZ by myself and could get a dog and just start over.

Is this even a logical idea? I love my boyfriend more than anything, but I don't want to resent him for something that is out of his control. Of course I understand that asking him to put his life on hold while I figure out mine is not fair, but I really do want to marry him & have a family together.

I just worry that our priorities and what we see our lives as is very different. The last thing that I want to do is hurt him. Any thoughts on what I should do? (Please elaborate on my suggestions below):

1. Stay with him, you know you love him & this will pass - a relationship is something you have to put effort into and there will always be give and take.
2. Break up with him and move to Arizona, you're only young once and if you're feeling this now it's not going to go away anytime soon. You're just wasting both of your time right now.
3. Express to him how you're feeling about the situation, even if it means he might feel hurt.
4. Other - let me know what your thoughts are!

[loveismyreligion]

I've been there. I wanted to join the Navy and my boyfriend at the time didn't even try to stop me. People want to see other people happy, for the most part. So cliche but if you love something let it go and if it comes back it's meant to be.
Have you thought about sitting down with one another to see where your goals in life are at? It's best to get it out at the beginning so then you both work towards a future together, a commitment, a goal...

And my boyfriend at the time we're still great friends.

[00lots]

Express to him how you're feeling about the situation, even if it means he might feel hurt.
A good relationship is an honest relationship... don't hide what you feel.