Girls, Would You Date A Guy That Lacks Empathy?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would

Nahhh

[Account]

Two wrongs don't make a right. I do not lack empathy, but I lack the ability to express it and voice it well.
Regardless, no. I am not interested in attempting to fill with water a bucket full of holes. I can't do that and even if I could, I wouldn't.
I do not have the patience nor the will and I see no point in punishing myself by choosing to be with such a person.

[Kaytiee]

No, empathy is needed for relationships to work. Otherwise, there will be a huge emotional barrier between the two people, you can say all you want you lack empathy but you may just have less of it, or notice it. It's extremely rare for someone to lack complete empathy, even psychopaths have empathy it's just they can 'switch it on and off'.

But yeah no, if anything ever happens like a stressful day, a family loss, miscarriage, childbirth pain, etc it's crucial that your partner can feel for you and you do the same in those moments.

[Gorge95]

Why would anyone in their right mind date a psychopath? As that’s their most distinctive feature (yeah you can look that up if you doubt this). No thanks, I’ll stick to people that don’t fall within the dark triad and save myself tons of future therapy appointments.

[Kaylove96]

Been there, done that. I’ve been around the block too much with guys like that and I can’t do it anymore. My most recent ex is an example. As a matter of fact, he keeps going back and forth between ignoring me and bugging me about friends with benefits and no matter how many times I say no I’ll never do that and he can go find someone else, etc he still won’t stop. He asked me to be his girlfriend in text once since we broke up and I told him no.

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

aren't most people without this function narsacisstic or pyschopathic? So nope. I need someone who can connect and understand feelings.

[Kaytiee]

Even psychopaths feel empathy, it's what they get off to because they can see their pain, it's just they're able to switch it on and off, and have a lot of control over it, and feel less of it but it's still there. So if OP is insisting he has no empathy, then I call BS lol, it's extremely rare.

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

No, I know a pyscopath that says he doesn't feel empathy. He feels attraction not empathy. If a dog died he doesn't care or feel sad. His parents died and he didn't care or feel sad. His wife cries he just doesn't understand. He doesn't understand why people get wrapped up those in emotions. He has been diagnosed.

[Kaytiee]

I took criminology at A level, they do feel it it's just very low, and easy to switch on and off, the things normal people feel empathy for, they won't.

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

Well thats the point of the poster I guess. If they dont feel or level of empathy it isn't really empathy, it feels like they are soulless.

[Apple1996]

Most men lack empathy so I guess it depends like I wouldn't be with a guy that doesn't have any empathy but I don't mind it if they're just a normal guy that's lacking it a little

[Lucina_Rose]

If that's the case then so do most women.

[Cherry234]

Absolutely not. I can't be with someone that doesn't care about people and animals.

[fonduegirl]

Depends on how much he's lacking tbh. If he lacks like he doesn't have any, like zero empathy then no. Otherwise, if he's less empathetic than most other, yeah probably I will, we'd kinda match.

[Yurrasis]

If he can't understand and won't try to understand how I feel, it would be really difficult for me to be honest.

[alice55]

I don't think I would, I mean he would surely be rude to me so

[Anonymous]

Like a psychopath? Or just like has a hard time relating to ur problems? Bc I would imagine being in a relationship with an untreated psychopath isn’t something anyone would necessarily want.

[lrina]

i'd give it a try. as long as he's not a psychopath and just a normal person who lacks empathy.

[Blonde401]

Have done. Didn’t realise until it was too late. Never again.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I did before, no thanks.

[sheikalana]

I guess it would be really hard to have a long-term relationship with such person.

[Alyssa_11]

No way. I’ve met someone who was like that (here on GAG). He pissed me off so much.

[mrsalyssaefron]

Nooo. I’m a very empathetic person so that wouldn’t work for me

[Nagahime]

No, that would be depressing, especially if you had a serious problem going on.

[annabananna]

No, it would be way too difficult to connect with someone like that.

[Kkoalalita]

I don't know tbh… I’m overall a pretty emotional person

[Anonymous]

No because he wouldn't give a shit about me or anyone

[Anonymous]

No we probably wouldn't be able to relate to each other

[KarinMcDonald]

A man without empathy is too self centered for me!

[Tiptoetamm]

I have before and didn't work out

[MindYourEyes]

No thanks. Too complicated. 😂

[SpiderManFan2002]

Unless he can learn to gain empathy, then no.

[Bel88]

No way! Those people are psycho.

[RedStiletto88]

Absolutely never again!!

[PrettyPriya]

Nope. Simple as that.

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

Absolutely not. No questions asked.

[moonpie89]

Considering that I'm very empathetic. No.

[xJayleenx]

Nah I need a sweet guy