Why are women considered unattractive after 30?

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TonyV · Accepted Answer

OK well for one thats not like a hard set in stone rule, it's just a general rule of thumb.

Looks fade, skin gets rougher, wrinkles appear, crows feet pop up, hair thins, things start to sag and loose the fight with gravity. Sure all these things happen to guys too but it's just not the same.
Also as some women age they don't put in the same level of energy into their appearance, they realize it's not worth the effort, they don't try to impress as much, they get a bit onree about it like "if he likes how I look great of not fuck him" good for you that you're so comfortable in your skin, it's not exactly an attractive mentality.

Side note it's clear men and women have different taste in Looks, my girlfriend will yell me random female celebs we see in movies that she thinks are just beautiful and I don't see it, so age aside it seems men and women like different things regarding women.

Then there's also thinks aside from Looks, like many women have told me, there's more to attraction than just physical appearance. Women 30 and up most likely have baggage like kids, split custody issues with ex's, have accumulated debts, or spent time being a housewife and now have no real career or skill, never learned a trade and don't earn much money.

Let's not also forget the ones that are done having fun and want to settle down now, they're finally done chasing the pretty tall fit men and now think they can settle for average Joe for stability, well average Joe's don't want that, they want to have the fun the never had, we didn't party through our 20s, we aren't done we're just getting started.

Look that's just my 2 cents, I'm not trying to insult or attack or judge any women over 30, and I'm not saying any of my opinions apply to all women, just seems like in general the majority probably fall into one of those catigories.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I don't consider them unattractive: Mila Kunis, age 38 Natalie Portman, age 40 Kristen Bell, age 41

sheikalana · Accepted Answer

Are they? That's a very 60/70/80/90s statement. I feel and look my best in my 30s. Women nowadays care more about themselves is not like when our grandparents or parents were in their 30s they would have kids earlier and neglect themselves put on a bunch of weight and care less and less about their looks etc etc because they had a house and a family to care for. Nowadays we also have our jobs, houses and families to care for however, men also changed their way of thinking and are more prone to share tasks with their partners.

Sarahr123 · Accepted Answer

They’re not. No attractive woman is considered unattractive. It depends on the individual. There are 47-year-old women who are sexier than some 16-year-olds cos their bodies are bagning and they look good for instance Shilpa Shetty.

Salma Hayek is 55 and still desirable.

It depends on the individual and their genes and how they look. Nobody can speak for everyone. People should speak for themselves.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Cause some idiot jumped onto the wall bandwagon and commented without understanding a damn thing…

Women over 30 arnt considered unattractive. Women in their 30s not yet taken are considered to have some kinda issue that made them undateable perhaps. The older they get the harder being able to have children gets and the more risky it is is… fact. Men want young beautiful women fact. A man will never choose a 50 year old beautiful woman with her life together over her 24 yr old version in the exact same place in life.

The biggest thing is… men wanna grow with their partners. What wasted time to find a partner at 40-40 when it could've been 20… a woman wants me AFTER I’m established rather then to grow with me. I’m supposed to accept this but she can’t accept I don’t want a land whale?

The worlds not as beautiful a place as what Disney sold us as children. Men are not the prince, women are not all princesses and queens. Besides this. You changed society. Not you but people all of YOU people. The internet, social media, the sexaul revolution… especially feminists, Karen’s, SJWs, and simple fools thinking they can sit at home playing video games or go out drinking for 10 years sleeping around and suddenly think one day someone wants them.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

It varies widely. Genes play the biggest role. But worldview, attitude, diet, exercise, climate, disease history, and vices (smoking, drugs, sexual vices, etc.) all play a role.

Some women with decent genes ruin themselves with overindulgence in their vices. Some have such good genes, that nature seems awfully forgiving of their vices. Some have almost no vices, but their genes are trash, so their good looks are damned anyway.

Because of this, I don't expect perfection from any woman I'd date. But I do expect that her imperfections will be within a manageable range.

No illicit drugs or tobacco. Some limited alcohol, but no persistent alcoholism. She can have a sexual past, provided she was monogamous and not a cheater, and carries no serious diseases. A woman having five partners before age 30 is not that unusual anymore, so I've learned to adjust for that reality. Of she has children that are very small, and the previous men are all out of the picture, I will consider step parenting. If she has older children, or the baby daddies are still very involved, I'm less inclined to take a chance with her.

Prostitutes tend to burn themselves out very quickly. One of many reasons they have short lives, and get ugly sooner. Too much sex with too many partners negates the healing benefits of sex, and leaves only the damages.

And this somewhat applies to men too. I've seen 48 year olds who barely look over 35. And I've seen 23 year olds so burned out, they look almost 50.

Gorgeous women over 30 do exist. But only if they take good care of themselves while young. Vices will always catch up to you.

Kaamraj · Answer

If by attraction you mean sexual attraction, or sexual fitness, or sexual mean value (SMV) then there is no doubt that it's inversely proportional to a woman's age. The simple fact being that SMV is determined by two factors; beauty and youth, the former being in large parts determined by the latter. Women have a natural countdown timer when it comes to reproduction and it's called menopause, where high risk pregnancy and declining fertility begins much before that. On top of the metabolism also slows and the body starts showing ageing damage with collagen fibers not being replaced leading to loss of tautness of skin and increased UV damage from the Sun.

The second reason is psychological. Men and women have quite different sexual dynamics in the marketplace. Men provide resources, and security, whereas women provide reproductive exclusivity. So from a man's point of view it's a bad investment to give his commitment for a woman who is above 30 and will soon be near menopause. If however she's with him since her early 20s and has given to him few years of her youth and beauty in a long term relationship or even marriage then the man is socially and legally liable to extend his commitment over the remainder of her life.

HighValue · Answer

They aren't considered physically unattractive after 30. They are considered less desirable for good men that want to create and raise a family due to biological reasons and the significantly decreased probability of having healthy kids after the age of 35.

If they meet when she is 30, date for 1 year, then live together for 1 year, then try to have a kid and get very lucky that she gets pregnant almost right away, she would be 33 by the time she has the first kid. After age 35 a woman's chances of getting pregnant and having a healthy kid without disabilities sharply decreases. (It is right in the biology text books and statistics.) People's denial and wishful thinking won't change biological reality.

DaveJord · Answer

I believe you are miss informed, women are extremely attractive after 30... in most cases even more so because they have some life experience that may of taught them how better to treat a man. Over 30's definitely have a better idea of what they want and expect out of a relationship and more appreciative of a man when they find a good one.

hahahmm · Answer

I don't agree with that statement. More like the vast majority of women don't bother to develop a good character that men find attractive. Also most women don't put in all of the work it takes to look good when they're older. So there are some older women who a lot of guys find very attractive looking. The thing is that almost no guy is going to take a woman seriously if she doesn't have the right character traits... even if she's young.

Also women tend to get more baggage as they get older and while a woman can claim that shouldn't matter and aren't men and women equal: the typical woman is going to get real hung up on all of her baggage. The typical guy can shove it in a mental closet somewhere and move on with life... become stronger and punch through the bs. Maybe because most women are taught to be victims and blame others. Guys don't have that luxury.

globetrotter22 · Answer

This isn’t always true but your yes women do get visually judged more harshly then men do.
However men have to deal with more and more “creep judgment” as they get older. Sure a 45 year old man shouldn’t go around hitting on attractive 19 year olds. But women will often unfairly judge a guy as “creepy” when he is 100% innocent (just politely saying hi to a woman who doesn’t find him attractive). Men have to deal with this bullshit among other things as we age. We do have much higher suicide rates for a reason.

ZackBan · Answer

They are not. They are less desirable as a long term partner but certainly not unattractive.
What some refer to as "the wall" is often confused with physical attraction because certain women do in fact show signs of aging after 30 and when their only asset is their looks they are left with nothing else.

But the issue some men have is with the "why" why is this woman single in her 30's?
If the case is specific like her husband died so she's now a widow there will be no problem but when the reason is that she spent her 20's banging dude after dude after dude and is now looking to start a family before menopause sets in, that's where guys say "um thanks but no thanks" which if you are looking for an LTR as a guy it's generally a bad idea to go for the used woman, but if you're looking for a quality shag you can benifit from the more experienced demographic

InventorofWarp · Answer

I disagree. I think women reach their peak MAYBE in their late 40s-mid 50s. Some even early-mid 60s. And it's just fuckin' awesome. Especially pleasing to get to be the hot younger guy to them and get shown off to friends.
My crush and the woman of my dreams is 41, 17 years my senior. Absolutely fucking stunningly gorgeous, ridiculously awesome, sweet, funny, intelligent and just all around way better than any woman in her 20s I could ever end up with. And she only gets hotter and more awesome by the year.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Some wome, features begin to kind of overdevelop and look a little manly. Usually in the face.

The skin usually starts to show signs of aging and by how much seems to me to depend on how much care you take care of your body and your background.

The fat also usually starts to droop more at that age so if you were overweight before but had nice curves and held it all together in a nice shape. . . Not anymore

Anyway that's the reasons why it happens. How often that actually is, I don't know. There's plenty of women 30+ I wanna have sex with.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

Because honestly, women are physically most attractive from 13 to 27. That's it. After that, you go downhill. I don't mean to be mean about it, but that's just the way it goes.

Many women are still attractive after 27, just not AS attractive as they were before it, and of course there's obvious exceptions to the rule, but the rule stands in the law of averages, still applies to most.

Men may get more attractive post-20's and that's the exchange we get for putting up with all the rejection we get/got from our years of 13-27 trying to date girls/women who knew they were hot and only went out with the top 10% of guys in the looks department.

Yeah, that's a flawed argument, but there's some truth in it.

Massageman · Answer

I don't consider this a blanket observation : it depends on the gal in question. I've seen rather unattractive 20 year olds and some very nice looking "over 30's and over (gasp!!) 40's who could rock my world. Heck, even Sally Field is 75 and is still showing some great genetics! Marisa Ramirez, Det. Baez in Bluebloods, (gasp!!) 44 years old! Bring the handcuffs!

Valso · Answer

That's not true.
The most beautiful woman on the planet (Melissa Benoist) is 33 and keeps getting more and more beautiful by the day. <3
Lucy Lawless is 43 and yet she's quite the MILF today. :)
There's also a blonde porn star whose name I don't know but she's way past 30 and yet she's a damn hot MILF. :)
A few years ago I had a 50 yo neighbour who I was very attracted to and I still have wet dreams about her sometimes.
My biology teacher in high school was 35 (I was 15 back then) and yet the whole class of 26 boys were drooling over her, especially me. :D
My literature teacher in high school was 33 and she was the second teacher the whole class was having wet dreams about, considering she also had very big boobs which were the reason we never missed a single class with her. :)

There's no such a thing as an "inattractive woman after 30", there's only a complexed guy who can't appreciate beauty!

Danny_dan92 · Answer

To be fair, I’ve seen some women that still look incredible past their 30’s

The issue though is that statistically, women stress out more than men do. Which ages you, also if they like to party women’s livers aren’t as large and as capable of filtering out alcohol like men can.

Women also do not consume as much meat as men do, which is why it is somewhat crucial to women supplementing collagen. Since collagen is beneficial for skin health and elasticity.

Plenty of water, exercise and adequate sleep is important as well

HotPinkDominatrxSlut · Answer

I turned 39 years old on January 22( I was born in 1983) and men have always and still tell me I'm by far the most beautiful and most feminine girl they have ever seen. Boone gas ever guessed that ai look older than 22. Many guess me to be 16. Some guess me as young as 13.

iamacuriousguy · Answer

Western women fuck hundreds of irresponsible losers, and chads in their 20s and then want to settle down with the good man in their late 20s. they don't date any good man in their early years and keep rejecting them because they are not bad boys, they are not criminals. They just like losers and criminals in their early years. once they get damaged and reach their late 20s, then they wake up and look for the good man to provide them and raise a family for them. most of such women have tattoos and piercings and do drugs, and they can be bitter, abusive and agressive.
That's why they are not considered wife material and men avoid them but only use them for sex and the throw them away. men pump and dump them. that's what happens.

No all women are like this, but majority are nowadays.

Realbanger87 · Answer

That's not true. A colleague set me up with this gorgeous woman who I thought was about 28yo only to find out she was 43 with 2 teen kids. I was 30yo at the time and we dated a short while. She was very active.
Also there is a 51yo old woman at my gym who actually looks her age and find her very attractive compared to other women her age.
Bottom line here is gym and diet

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Says who? The only ones saying that are insecure dudes with pot bellies , dad bods, bald spots, and irrectile dysfunction. Those types will say anything in order to bring a woman's self esteem low enough to settle for them but the truth still remains a woman will never settle them. They hate it

Medicalbug · Answer

I've heard it's because younger women are more fertile? The irony is this: I don't want to be hit on by men who are consciously (or not) attracted to me for reproductive reasons. I know sex itself is about that, but there is something far sexier about a dude who thinks I'm hot and not the status of my ovaries. I'll probably be one of those 80-year-olds flirting with the nurses in the old age home who manages to get lucky.

Fireguy17 · Answer

To younger people who knows, I'm older and my thought is that 30 is too young, but if someone in their 30's was interested in me I would be fine with it.
I think women in their 30s are in their prime.
They are more settled, have a family, or/and a career or both, know what they want and are not afraid to go for it.
Nothing sexier than a women with confidence.
Young and dumb, no thanks, I will pass.

OpenClose · Answer

Not sure. I mean I find girls hottest in their 20's. But like as long as you haven't been hitting the tanning bed, your 30's are about the same.

Is it the same with guys? Like I've been in a bit of a panic being unmarried at 30, feeling like everyone has been snatched up already and I lost my opportunity.

Craftsman · Answer

That's not an entirely accurate analysis if the perception of attractiveness.
Many of the women I've known over the years have been well over 30 years old, and some were beautiful, gorgeous, and very attractive well above twice that age.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and my eye sees a lot of beauty in the older women.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Chances of child birth decline drastically as women approach thirty. Since men work hard to have a legacy, it's less possible if she is around thirty. I'm shocked this isn't common knowledge. All you'd have to understand is what good men want. Ask your dad or a man that isn't attracted to you

RedStiletto88 · Answer

Um there are women who can be considered attractive past 70. I’m over 30 and have been told I’m still quite attractive. Same with one of my sisters who is 31 as well as our mom who is 55.

I’m not sure where you got the idea women are unattractive after 30 but it definitely isn’t true by any means.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

They are not, just a couple of Celebs but I see similar in the real world as well. Liz Hurley Jessica Alba

Moose304 · Answer

It's difficult to answer a question like this. Only a shallow male would think like this. In all honesty, these types of men deserve the heartbreak that comes from being this way. I woke up this morning with a 40 something lady beside me. This gal is physically stunning as well as smart (Mensa member), articulate, and has a sense of humor that leaves me weak sometimes from laughter. A shallow male will miss this kind of beauty! That's OK, we 60 something males love em!

Berethor · Answer

Because men tend to value looks and fertility more than anything else.

Subarugirl · Answer

Because some men prefer sleeping with women who look like teenagers and don't know how to handle a women, so they prefer girls that mirror their own maturity level.

Nagahime · Answer

Jennifer Lopez is almost 60 and still looks really good for her age. So does Halle Berry. I don't think that's true.  Jennifer Lopez at age 52 Halle Berry at age 5

AndrésC64 · Answer

Who said that they are?
Eva Longoria, Jennifer Aniston, Kristen Bell, Elizabeth Banks, Mila Kunis, Katy Perry, Cameron Diaz, Jessica Alba, Salma Hayek🔥, Penelope Cruz, and Hathaway, Nicole Kidman, Anna Kendrick, Scarlett Johansson, etc. Just to name a few.

caitycat21 · Answer

I don’t understand where this lie comes from. My moms in her 40s and is still considered attractive? I’m pretty sure only guys that spend too much time on the internet are the people that say that type of shit

Anonymous · Answer

Men who consider women over 30 unattractive are just creeps who want women as young as they can get them without crossing over into illegal/pedo territory.
Attractiveness has nothing to do with age. Appearing youthful doesn’t always equal appearing attractive.

Bel88 · Answer

That's what I don't understand. The picture that was underneath the link to this question was of Meghan Markle. Now, you may not like her as a person, but for someone her age she looks stunning, she looks 15 years younger.

es20490446e · Answer

I don't feel women after their 30s are generally unattractive. Maybe slightly less attractive than a youngster, but most of the time it all depends on how healthy her lifestyle is.

Now I think that women must be very aware that their fertile lifespan is limited. Look for a good man within a loving relationship without delay, the younger the better.

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Only to some. But personality wise forget them. They are so full of hatred and cynical towards men they're not worth it. Believe me I'm 38 and all the women around my age are just angry. I think it has to do with not giving up on finding the perfect guy. He doesn't exist, everyone has flaws and of they say they don't their full of it. I give up on love. Screw it.

magiusX26 · Answer

not wholesale unattractive (at least not to me) but less attractive. one main reason being, i have yet to become a father, want someone more likely to be able to safely help me become a dad. starting around age 30 (35 accirding to some) chances of a woman concieving a child decreases. as well, tyat sane age frame also signifigantly decreases her chances of the oregnancy being healthy and/or beibg able to be carried to term.

DWornock · Answer

Women can be attractive at age 30 but very few are beautiful at age 30 because usually they don't have a youthful appearance. They don't have the complexion, flexibility, and vitality. That is the reason that at 20 they can sell it, at 30 they give it away, and at 40 they buy it.

Cathy7734 · Answer

This is a great question to ask Leonardo DiCaprio. He is 47-years-old and only dates women who are 25-years-old or younger. I don't think those women are unattractive but they become less desirable for men who want to start a family.

Anonymous · Answer

Not unattractive but more unappealing. It is based on stereotypes. Many women’s dating profiles after 30 contain a lot of: “I’m done playing games and want a real man”. The problem is simply women peak before guys do. 51% of guys from 18-30 are ugly and single, when they do get a little bit of attention after 30, the last thing they feel like doing is settling down with a woman who’s already had her fun and now has a long list of demands.

Flower7 · Answer

The only thing I can think of is if guys care about having babies.

anylolone · Answer

It's after 35, so are most men.
It's called hitting the wall.
Technically everyone hits around the same time, it's just that for some people, they started off so hot that they are still considered pretty hot after.

tallcuck · Answer

Simply because of fading fertility. Some people like to buy just before the expire date. Most like to buy fresh stuff. Same with fertility. Why risk a childless marriage? The 20 year old will be 30 too. And the age gap will make her look more attractive to the man. Other man just want a cook and a cleaner so they are ok with a fattie or even an oldie...

admles · Answer

They aren't?

Ming Na is 58 and hot AF.

Gal Gadot is 36 and extremely beautiful.

Jennifer Aniston is 53 and totally stunning.

My fiance is 35 and the most beautiful woman I've ever seen.

Those are three I thought of quickly, there's hundreds more lol.

Balbal · Answer

Soft, pinkish cherry like cheeks with untouched smile in the end of her sensitive lips. Eyes that full of wonders of the world. Curiosity about the male species but no idea how many types are out there, is actually very attractive in a way. But ladies after 30 only can be attractive to those who lost the views to see those innocence.

cookiecrusher · Answer

Most wouldn't say unattractive, just less than before.

Young women have this over inflated ego and are bitchy, so most guys tell them to wait until you are 30.

To try to bring them down to earth, that their looks won't last and they better develop a nice feminine interesting personality.

Around 30 your past lifestyle choices and age in general are really starting to show. Most women base their value on looks so theirs goes down the drain so to speak.

exitseven · Answer

They are not. A lot of women have not even peaked at 30.

Dinklex3 · Answer

We aren't 😛 Ignore what random people claim on the internet who look crusty themselves.

Thatdude091699 · Answer

I would say its actually 35, but i see what you mean. Its because men (straight men) are biologically attracted to youthful women because they are more capable of having children, other than that I think its because men are biologically protective of women they tend to think of women in terms of their past and age, and because men aren't attracted to social status like women it just makes the biological urge worse.

Sonorous · Answer

Because that's around the age their fertility starts to decline. And when that happens, their looks are at an objectively lower level than when they were in their 20's.

Dargil · Answer

She is 53. I'll clear place for her to sit any time.

lrina · Answer

its usually 45+ where they're considered unattractive.

FakeName123 · Answer

Unattractive? No. Less attractive? Yes. Nature made it that your peak fertility years are in your 20. After your 30 your fertility goes down -> you become less attractive.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I think its only in the babymaking aspect. But it could also be because theyre not really in their college body prime anymore

leighbee · Answer

Because some men are dicusting and only want young girls. Mainly due to porn

TransAm85 · Answer

I'm almost 37 and I still get hit on by boys b/c girls in this new generation are all doped up on Xanax or coke or heroin!

Chthou95 · Answer

Because in general older women are less attractive than young women in their twenties. It's not rocket science. Younger women more fertile. Biological reasons play a part. No leftovers. You can be mad or offended by my opinion. I really don't give two fucks

zagor · Answer

They aren't. There are a lot of attractive women in their 30's. People age differently; some (not many) look better at 40 than at 20.

Some who were very attractive at 20 are a train wreck by 30. Genes and lifestyle.

BazookaTrouper · Answer

A lot of guys on the internet spread and believe this bullshit "hitting the wall at 30" myth. I don't think this way as there have been women in their 30's and 40's who I've pined for.

Anonymous · Answer

Old lady vibes.

Younger women are more physically attractive.

Too much experience.

Baggage.

Higher risks during pregancy.
Start having kids younger and you can have more kids at lower risk.

Usually younger women have more attractive mannerisms.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Ummm we're not unattractive thank you very much I'll be 32 in April and look better than ever

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