If you've been friends with benefits with someone, how long does that last before becoming something more?

[Anonymous]

Especially if they have great chemistry together, have gone out together in public, and it's lasted +5 years and they've been pretty exclusive except for a couple short flings while they continued to see each other. What's your take on it?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

If it’s been 5+ years, assume that it will never happen. That’s way too long. Feelings would have developed already.
If you want something more serious, communicate it. Ask them how they feel about it.

[Asker]

It's not me. It's s couple I know and they say that's what they are, but when you see them together it looks like more. Plus it has to be more than sex if they've stayed together that long

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Again, if they’ve been having sex and “going out” for 5+ years and nothing serious has happened, assume that nothing will ever happen. Feelings would have shown by now. If they’re doing everything exclusively, why not make it exclusive and committed?

[Anonymous]

Every girl gets into fuck buddy situations thinking the guy will magically fall in love with them, it seldom happens.
If you are willing to give up the pussy for free, your long term value goes to 0.
A guy will not start feeling more for you, because he doesn’t have to.

Guys start caring about girls who show they have dignity and self respect. They fall for girls they are forced to get to know as they try to get pussy.
But once pussy is gotten, the need to keep trying stops.

[Asker]

It's not me but the couple actually dated and decided to be friends with benefits because guy is afraid of commitment. They do have great chemistry and he's been around for a long time and does get jealous so seems like he cares

[Opinion Owner]

No, he’s territorial like most men.

[Fireguy17]

I could easily see it morphing into a relationship.
You are close, having sex, which is pretty intimate, so it can be only natural to develope feeling towars the other person, same as being just friends, with out bennies.

[Tempprofile124]

I feel if it's 5 years and haven't happened it probably won't, it can feeling can sneak up on you but i doubt it. That being said the fact that it's been going that long probably mean it's working well. I this point I assume there just friends who like to fuck

[ashish804]

it usually happens when they got new one to involve

[Anonymous]

It doesn't. You're fooling yourself if you think it's anything other than 2 people using each other to get off.

[lycanthrope3]

I had a friends with benefits for over twenty years. Time out once for 3 years while she was married

[Asker]

How come you guys stood with it that long?

[lycanthrope3]

We met when she was married the first time, be came great friends, we just never got past the friend part, i got married, then she passed away, i miss my friend

[Asker]

So sorry. It sounds like you cared deeply for each other. The best relationships start out as friends.

[Anonymous]

That's usually how relationships start and it sounds like a relationship, but the short flings means it won't happen especially after 5 years