How long should a friends with benefits relationship last?

Question

When should you end a friends with benefits relationship? Is there a length that is too long to be just friends?
I was just curious about this because I heard of people being in these things for years... but why does that happen?

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

The first step in a friends with benefits relationship is for both to define what it is to be and the reasons the two people are choosing that. It is important for both to respect whatever guidelines are established together. If you're accepting friends with benefits in hope of something deeper and long-term, then you're probably just setting yourself up for disappointment. On the other hand, some people are happy with their lifestyle and don't choose to change it but would like to have someone in their life. It could be two workaholics who don't make time for a deeper commitment but would like a special friend. It could be two seniors who are comfortable in their own home and are looking for a special friend rather than a provider. It could be two people who just want to limit complications in their own life.

If you have ulterior motives, or are looking for more than a summer romance, then skip friends with benefits relationships. If you want to be married by a certain age, then friends with benefits will only distract you from your goal. If you expect the other to change, then don't waste your time (that would be like women dating gay men, believing they can turn them straight). If you want a long-term commitment, without expecting a provider or a piece of clay to be molded by you, then a friends with benefits relationship can be very satisfying to both... as long as communication between the two of you remains clear, open and honest. As far as your question of how long it should last, if you're asking that question, you're probably not a good candidate for friends with benefits, as you're looking for it to transition into something else rather than savoring it for what it is. Never enter anything you expect to transition to something else. If both of you aren't seeking the same goal, you're wasting your time.

MrCommodore · Accepted Answer

Friends with Benefits is seriously flawed, it's misleading and should be rebounded.

Its usually two people hooking up

Person 1 wants sex until they find someone who is relationship material, they usually don't consider the person in the friends with benefits to be relationship material, they are looking elsewhere the whole time.

Person 2 fancies Person 1 and secretly hopes that they will grow on Person 1 over time and intimacy, but usually get super attached and eventually hurt when Person 1 finds their true love.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I guess until you get bored or they get bored or you both get bored and move on, and I'd presume if you or they want to enter into another relationship, you'd/they'd end whatever things you're doing together.

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

I don't know if there is a certain timeframe. I've been with mine for a year now. Everything is still going well.

coachTanthony · Answer

The rest of your life if you lucky lol

Anonymous · Answer

It's can persist because it's an easy, consistent way to get sex.

When women use it, she likely able to get emotional support from someone else, too so she betting both pillars of what a relationship generally offers.

Where it tends to go wrong is when it looks like this: she wants more from friends with benefits. He has no incentive to offer more. She realizes she. Being chased too and stringing a guy along who wants more and giving her emotional support. She doing exact same thing and shouldn't feel sad for feelimg negative about the guy not seeing her in the manner she wishes. She should accept that she have away her greatest leverage to getting what she desires from him

bowenw · Answer

I'm not sure there is a set time that is appropriate. I suppose as long as it's needed by both.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Eh… I would say that you probably shouldn’t be continuing to have sex (casually or otherwise) with anyone that you even need to ask a question like this about

spartan55 · Answer

The best strategy is to not get into one to begin with.

Dargil · Answer

Mine lasted about 10 months. She was a nursing student and I was studying forensics. It was very satisfying but it ended with the school year. Ending was sweet sorrow but my memories are good.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

My longest in a row was just under 2 years. My longest on and off was for like 10 years. Many of my hookups and fwbs come back many years later after divorce or whatever they think to call me. (Or show up at my door in some cases 😅)

BCRanger10 · Answer

They shouldn't even be a thing to begin with.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Definitely not. Depends on what both people want and their boundaries. Eventually, things change and one or both may not want the arrangement any more.

magiusX26 · Answer

as long as the 2 of you agree to keep that going. no set time limit

digitalguy01 · Answer

As long as both are comfortable and there is no issues to anyone else. Keep enjoying keep benefiting each other together

Jerre · Answer

I have several friends with benefits that have been friends for over 3 years. I still enjoy their company.

Kelly6 · Answer

its up to them to stay as long as they want. there is no limit

Z1pTD · Answer

Just not long enough you become more but can't commit

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Let's first be honest, this isn't a "friends with benefits", it's a Fuck Buddy.

strlb · Answer

As long as both are willing participants. Are you seeking advise on when you should stop?

Mikeymike99 · Answer

When one person catches feelings, it's time to end if

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on them, usually one gets feelings for the other and it becomes more than that or they part ways

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

There is no specific time frame end it when your ready

Rohaan2020 · Answer

As long as both are happy and enjoying each other's company

InvisibleHovercraft · Answer

Until one start catching feelings for the other.

Anonymous · Answer

It should last until the man no longer feel like having sex with the woman.

AsaKyo · Answer

They shouldn't even begin

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

They'll end on their own. Every time

bananathunder · Answer

forever and ever :P

Diana1201 · Answer

As long as you want and keep enjoy

Date_a_Snob · Answer

I've been with mine for almost a year

Heterosketero · Answer

A lifetime, back to back

LovingJo · Answer

As long as you both want it to? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Jennz6 · Answer

When you get married to someone else

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Mine lasted till she got pregnant

Alex8736 · Answer

as long as you two are both single

notwoke · Answer

ideally forever -said every man ever

riverrat3 · Answer

When one of the parties is no longer into it

Anonymous · Answer

Did you block me from WhatsApp?

EaterPeter · Answer

For ever

How long should a friends with benefits relationship last?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

How long should a friends with benefits relationship last?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.