How long does the usual friends with benefits or fuckbuddy relationship last?

[Anonymous]

i've been hooking up with mine since January so its been about 8 months now. what's the usual length of these type of relationships, in your experience? and how long was ur longest relationship with an friends with benefits or fuckbuddy?

[MrOracle]

There is no standard.

My longest is 3+ years, and another was just under 2 years (ended by her moving away, as was planned from the start). Another was 8 months, also ended by a move (me moving back to California from Ohio). But others have lasted weeks or months.

A friends with benefits is a relationship of MUTUAL CONVENIENCE - it's about each of you getting your needs met without having to concern yourself with the responsibilities of a standard relationship. Whenever you decide that it isn't what you want any longer, or you meet someone you want a real relationship with, or when circumstances cause it to end - that's when it ends. Each person's situation is going to be different each time. A friends with benefits carries no real promises - that's part of the deal.

[MrOracle]

Many women make the mistake of thinking that "FWB" is a step on the path to a relationship. It isn't (with RARE exceptions). Choosing to be friends with benefits with someone is like being in Wyoming (the center of the US) and choosing whether to ask for a relationship (New York/East Coast) or friends with benefits (California/West Coast). Once you start down a path, you are generally going FURTHER AWAY from the other option, not closer.

The other thing is that most women can't do friends with benefits without developing feelings. Women's bodies are designed that way, and are DIFFERENT from men, whose bodies don't release tons of oxytocin during sex like women's do, and thus men don't grow attached like most women do.

You've simply discovered that, like most women, friends with benefits is not for you. You're a relationship girl, and thus, you need to keep sex within relationships for your own mental/emotional health. That just makes you a normal female.

[girther]

I don't have any statistical data but I do know what I know for myself I had more than once relationships like that both of them lasted close to two years but that's because I believe they were So Satisfied they didn't want to break it off because I actually broke it off in both cases

[mamamai]

3months and never again will I do that. We fell for each other.

[lilsize69]

But thats y u set the rules and make sure not to fall for each other like that

[mamamai]

@lilsize69
The heart doesn't play by rules. Plus casual sex doesn't feel full filling to me. So never again.

[lilsize69]

friends with benefits isn't for a lot of people especially ones that dont do that kinda stuff

[mamamai]

@lilsize69 exactly :)

[lilsize69]

Im sure so did u breaking up the fwb? And not date?

[mamamai]

@lilsize69 well the reason I asked him to be my friends with benefits (yes, I asked) was because I was only able to stay in Australia 3 more months. It was hard for us when I left. We tried to stay in touch and are still friends on Facebook, but distance was to much to start a relationship. If we hadn't been so compatible it would have been easier. He even told me he wished I could stay and be his girlfriend. Life plays cruel jokes sometimes. Finding the right person in the wrong time/place

[lilsize69]

So u used to live in AU and moved. If u ever get a friends with benefits again make sure u dont have a huge connection and stick fuckin only just saying

[mamamai]

@lilsize69 yeah, but like I said, I really don't want a friends with benefits, because I'd rather have a relationship. I only tried it because I was really into him. It's not for me, but I don't care if others do it.

[lilsize69]

Yea i get u amd thats koo

[savalisk]

Not my thing but I know a few who are into this sort of thing.
It really depends on how things are going between two people in this arrangement.
I've seen something go on for as short as a few weeks to a year.

I honestly dont know how people settle for this but you do you.

[10dsw]

As was said before, there is no golden rule.

For me it's 2-3 months tops because the girl tends to start catching feelings and getting the relationship "feels" which is strictly what I want to avoid. So no point in stringing her along.

[blunttalker]

There's is no way for you to grow feelings for a friend with benefits?

[10dsw]

@blunttalker I don't want to grow feelings for her. I'm not interested in relationships and don't want to invite anyone into my life at this critical point where I'm finishing my education and setting myself up for the real world.

So she's there strictly for the purpose of sex. I know it sounds harsh but if she's enjoying herself and I'm enjoying myself then I see no problem.

[blunttalker]

Sucks. Im starting to grow feelings for my friends with benefits and I'm afraid he might think like u. Can u give me any advice?

[10dsw]

@blunttalker Umm if he's a friends with benefits he DOES think like me.

Let me repeat what @MrOracle said:

"A friends with benefits is a relationship of MUTUAL CONVENIENCE - it's about each of you getting your needs met without having to concern yourself with the responsibilities of a standard relationship."

[10dsw]

@blunttalker So my advice is if you're starting to fall into the trap, run! Find a new friends with benefits

[blunttalker]

But I want him... U really think there's no chance?

[10dsw]

@blunttalker Well there is a chance of course - but it's small. Your best bet would be to ask him if he's interested in more but be prepared for him to go poof. An friends with benefits usually does that when one party is more invested

[blunttalker]

Fuck it. I'm just gonna tell him that we have to stop seeing each other bc I started to think more about him. And see what he has to say

[10dsw]

@blunttalker Don't say that lol. What if there's a chance he wants a relationship with you? I'm sorry but a major part of life is learning to take risks (such as rejection) and if you're not ready for that then you're not ready for a relationship

[blunttalker]

Yeah I thiNk I'll never be ready to be rejected by a guy..

[10dsw]

@blunttalker You're 21 haha. It becomes a routine occurrence for girls after 27. At least that's what my mom said

[10dsw]

You're lucky too =P I've rejected at least 30 girls in my life time

[burpzzzzz]

2 months and she ended being married (legally separated). That the last time I had sex. i don't want to end up fucking someone's wife or girlfriend.
On top of that she fell in love with me.

[Wurdom]

Fuck kinda question is that? It'll last until he gets tired of your pussy or finds another girl

[Asker]

i was asking how long they usually last not when mine will end... i was trying to see if the length of our "relationship" so far was normal or not

[Daniel_James]

Until the guy is bored of you or he finds someone better.
He may marry you but then you're statistically unlikely to have a happy marriage.

[peace123]

honestly I don't agree with fuck buddy more like use n abuse buddy? its a negative connection or way of living life

[bondobilly]

in my opinion, I treat it like a temp job. At 6 months it had either be permanent or move along.

[Anonymous]

It could be weeks or years it really depends on if the other person gets a steady boyfriend or girlfriend or catches feelings for you and ends up with you

[Whysosirius7]

I've had an friends with benefits relationship for nearly a year now

[slatyb]

Somewhere between one night and 50 years.

[reptocarl]

Until you or he finds somebody else

[Anon-ymous1]

Usually about a year.

[lilsize69]

In my case mine lasted abput 6/7months each

[garfield1968]

3 years and still continiuing

[Anonymous]

As long as the both of you let it

[yourinterests]

2 years

[pusyok]

2 years

[Anonymous]

As long as they want