Do you carry too much baggage to have a healthy relationship?

Question

Are there things in your past that you are having a hard time moving on from? ... or is everything hunky-dory for you?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

My trust for others through the years has took a toll on me so for me to give myself completely to someone ii’s going to take them a lot of walls
To climb , I remember when I use to be so carefree and never really had a care about negative things when I loved the girl I was with never thought in the world about cheating or to being cheated on , but that’s the shit that has happened to me. , I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve and feel some will take advantage of that , I am far from perfect but when it comes down to relationships with me , I prioritize her just like I want her To prioritize me , but that isn’t always the case , I have yet met a girl that fully makes me her priority , so now it’s hard for me to make her my priority, the second I feel she is being distant and makes me feel disrespected I end it , I been a punching bag to long , I gave my heart to a girl and married and had kids to be shit on and treated like Trash so I don’t even know if making someone a priority anymore even exists anymore , it seems people just get bored with each other and start wanting To live separate lives when things get boring , there selfishness rolls in and you don’t matter To them anymore , I pray there is a girl out there that c’s things like I do but sadly it seems to hard to find these days

gag2021 · Accepted Answer

No kids, and that's usually the biggest baggage.

whirled_up_girl · Accepted Answer

I have some baggage but I haven't been in very many relationships and the ones I was end seemed healthy until each of them decided to end it and either go back to an ex or move on to someone better, or decide they just wanted to go the casual route. Yeah ok, I have baggage.

zaharuh · Accepted Answer

I do that's why I haven't looked for anything serious

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

Lol yes. My boyfriend is a trooper, he is willing to carry that baggage too.
I never expected to bring in baggage, but I guess the baggage for lost at the airport and unexpectedly got sent to my front door, and had to unpack that baggage 😒🙄

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

While growing up, our household motto was "forge forward!"
According to my dad, "no regrets" automatically follows.
I guess those are partly the reasons why I hardly have/had any baggage and that's also how my husband trained himself.

NathanDavis · Answer

I'm good nowadays... but I've always had healthy relationships

between the age of 20~24... I would have said, that's a work still in progress... but I still was in healthy relationships

around age 16... was more like, holy shit why did I get in a relationship, lol... but I still did and it was a great and also healing relationship

FunkyMonkee · Answer

There might be a lot of baggage but I usually check it and don''t bring it into the relationship or let it ruin the relationship. If I'm pissed at my ex-sister, I'm certainly not gonna take it out on my girlfriend! She had noting to do with it! I know all about not reflecting one set of "emotions" onto someone that had nothing to do with them.

Anonymous · Answer

My baggages are from childhood trauma and I have been actively working on overcoming them to the point that I can say that my baggage won’t affect my future relationships (at least I hope so lmao)

Mysteryman9854 · Answer

I definitely had some baggage but so did my girlfriend. We were honest about it but we still really wanted to be together. We had a couple bumps in the row but we always put a lot of effort into combination and now things are great and we both feel like we have less baggage

TallAnon · Answer

Everyone has some issues, but mine are currently "What am I going to do with all this money" and "Life is so comfortable, I don't get any exercise in, because people do it all for me". Unironically, life is great; too good, I'm getting lazy. That's all my baggage.

Nagahime · Answer

Yes, I feel like I do. So many things happened in high school and it's been 2-3 years since then and I still worry about it lmao.

humpbackjack · Answer

We all have baggage from our pasts but i don’t put any of it onto anyone else. Of course we should learn from our past experiences and use our past to avoid making the same mistakes without projecting anything onto anyone

Daniela1982 · Answer

So much I was on a TV show.  Oh my God! Get her out of here.

HighlyVolatile · Answer

I think B or C or something in between. I got my special blend of crazy but have been happily married to my wife going into 12 years now. We've never really fought a single time.

ACR130 · Answer

No baggage, women just don't like me. More like I'm to real for a woman to handle.
I don't tell women beautiful lies, I will always be completely honest. Even if they don't want honesty.
I also refuse to put up a show for a woman, intertain them or prove my self to them. They won't get that from me.
I won't buy them things to prove my love, it's in the heart not materials.
Sooo uhhh will I ever have a girlfriend? What you think? 🙂

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

A very small part that is very manageable. Other wise! Am pretty simple person very easy to talk to and very easy to please :D

Waldoe · Answer

Yes... I had to go out and buy a used baggage cart from the Airport, I used to push it around, but it got too heavy... so now I just stay home and pile it around me on the floor, when it blocks the door.. I may decide to do something about it... but probably not

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Everyone has baggage, it's part of being alive. Relationships only work when people stay with their SO at the worst of times (aside from abuse).

Lynx122 · Answer

No I've worked through a lot of stuff and I'm good :)

Phoenix98 · Answer

I used to yeah, but I’ve let most of not all of that go. so I don’t really have anything like that holding me back.

Truthatanycost · Answer

Zero baggage. Learned very early on what to look out for.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Sure, like a mountain of crap and I'm in a cave with rotting beams supporting it all, ready to come down and bury it all.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

We all do in some respects. Depends on if you are good at communicating those baggage or are able to seek help when needed

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

I feel like I don’t. Exs leave me a lone, I have no drama with having kids with someone. The worst things I have is my dedication to work and family

Ninania · Answer

No, because I frequently look into it and deal with the issues that come up.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I have the baggage of missing out on life and a huge FOMO.

lokaloon384 · Answer

My baggage is unpacked through abought the 8 month mark when the new bliss goes away and jeoulosy and past thoughts arise

krin_m · Answer

I have worked very hard no bring the past into current relationships.

jimmy2 · Answer

A clean slate us needed then the abilty to carry the baggage together

Anonymous · Answer

i like how this question is posted by a 27 year old woman approaching 30.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I've found that if you never give someone your heart then they cannot break it.

Kabluie · Answer

No baggage that I know of

exitseven · Answer

I am a mess but I hide it well.

Andres77 · Answer

I did until I got therapy. Worked!

Neilbud · Answer

Maybe, I don't think I'm social enough.

RoseJ123 · Answer

Nope not much for me.

Juliette1994 · Answer

I’m able to manage it.

Adogdog · Answer

Nope, I don't have any baggage.

Nice222 · Answer

I’m going to need a Bellhop.

B4852 · Answer

Fortunately no.

Citizenkirk · Answer

One day at a time

jahaims · Answer

Nope.

HeartFullOfGlue · Answer

Yeah

SecretGardenBlood65 · Answer

Voted d

CubaPirate · Answer

Fortunately not

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