I’ve never felt good enough for girls. What can I do?

[Anonymous]

I’m 18 yo. The title says it all.

I usually workout, study and read/write stories. Apart from these things, i’ve got some girl friends ( not so many, to be honest… just 2 ). I feel very comfortable while i’m with them, and we usually have a great time together. I’m not interested in them romantically. I got to clarify i generally don’t even have so many guy friends ( again, just 2 ).

But every single time i see a pretty girl ( so, pretty often, considering the only two physical qualities i look for are “good smile” and “slightly curvy body” ), i don’t feel enough.

I don’t feel like and interesting person, also physically ( i’m losing some hair )

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It especially happens when i see couples. Plus, i recently lost some friends cause they didn’t have any time for me left, due to their girlfriends. It sucks.

[Truthatanycost]

Forget about girlfriend. You need to address self esteem, health, and your life purpose. You don't feel enough for girls because you aren't enough for yourself. Why are you losing your hair? that is 'normal' if you took the COVID 'vaccine', if not, what is your diet like?

[Asker]

i’m losing my hair causa i suffer from male pattern baldness

[rabbitzzz]

You are at the age where you can run around girls like a dog. so do so. while moderately focusing on career.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I think you just need to work on your self esteem.
And it also seems like you’re just aromantic?

[Asker]

yeah the self esteem issue is something i’m aware of… but again, i don’t really know how to improve on that side.

I’m a very romantic person, as far as i know. It often is one of my biggest weakness, cause i start daydreaming about a platonic relationship with someone i like. Happens every time i like a girl and i see her more times.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Well, what things about yourself bother you? Is it your appearance? What do you think you could improve that would make you more confident? Work on doing those things to improve confidence.

[Asker]

yes it surely is my appearance ( as i wrote, i’ve started losing my hair, even. if it’s still not noticeable from others. Apart from that, i’m tall and fit, so it’s ok ), but not just that. Even if i looked like Brad pitt, I’d feel the same ( maybe not exactly… ).

I’m not a fan of parties and things like that ( i simply like spending time with less people ). So, i’ve never felt comfortable at parties. This also led to the fact that i started isolating myself. Things changed a bit lately ( i got to know this girl friend of mine just a couple of months ago ), but the feeling of inadequacy is still there.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Hair loss is no biggie. But it’s definitely the self esteem you need to work on… Unfortunately I don’t know how to help beyond that because I’m not psychologist, but I always suggest therapy with any issues regarding mental health because it can help.

I understand being more inclined to isolation, but I think you should try socializing a bit more to try and feel comfortable? Of course, even with girls and friends, low self esteem will always be there.
I’m sorry. I wish I could help more.

[Asker]

regarding hair loss… it’s something that really worries me. I don’t know if i suffer from male pattern baldness, but i’m sure i’m losing my hair. That wouldn’t bother me if i were like 30 or so. But i’m 18… dating is not easy even with hair… imagine without.

Not to offend anyone, but girls at my age ( such as guys ) aren’t ready to accept certain flaws. Regarding baldness, it’s something that is more accepted from 25/30 years on, because it’s more common. I buzzed my hair once ( last summer ) and felt like a ghost until my hair grew back. Now, considering my self esteem is already low, i wouldn’t imagine what it will mean spending other 10 or 15 years without dating anyone.

I’m currently taking antidepressants. They’re partially working.

Thank you anyway for your answer.

[Avicenna]

Just talk to them. You will gain confidence. And letting one is usually totally random

[Iron_Man]

Start working out with weights at the gym full-time gain some confidence learn how to speak to people

[Anonymous]

Buy a Sex Robot.

[Asker]

man… how old are you