Who do you think confuses/mistakes lust for/as love more: Men or Women? (Page 2)

[fonduegirl]

Definitely men.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Really? I personally think women do.. The women that mistake men lusting after them or wanting sex from them to mean he loves them or wants a relationship with them...

[fonduegirl]

Men lie they love them and later find they don't

[ChiTown33]

I'm not sure I understand the question.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Who usually more believes someone loves them when it's really just lust?

[ChiTown33]

Well I'd assume guys. Because I think guys are more physically attracted to women from the getgo. And as they get to know them it becomes much deeper. But I have no idea how it works with women. I don't know how women can even find guys physically attractive... ever.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Why would you say that? Good can be very physically attractive

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

"guys not good🤦🏼‍♀️

[ChiTown33]

Very few. Most guys are ugly to women. And the women who choose ugly guys do so because they know it's them or nothing.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I would disagree with that... And that's just an assumption on your part... You don't know why someone is with someone. They may have a great personality, they may have a great sense of humor, they may treat them the way they want to be treated, etc... Neither of my husbands were what others would say was physically attractive, and neither were my only option... Then there's good looking guys could of been with, but they were shitty people, so in fact, really ugly, cuz looks only matter so much, if you ugly on the inside, the outside don't mean shit

[ChiTown33]

Lol, funny how the best looking guys always seem to have the best "personality". Chris Farley was one of the funniest guys on the planet and never could find "love".
It's a nice story 3B. But this isn't my first rodeo. Go convince a 19 year old of this. I'm 46. I know how the world works. And I'm fine with it now.
I ain't mad at ya 😉. As I said I'm always going to keep speaking the truth.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Do you ever people watch? I do, and I see lots of people, both male and female, short, tall, skinny, fat have a man or woman on their arm... And funny, some of the cuter ones I've seen, are either alone or with a group of other guys

[ChiTown33]

Just because a guy appears alone doesn't mean he is alone. And some of the cuter guys have 3 or 4 girlfriends.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Which proves the point, don't go by looks alone, I wouldn't want a guy that has three other women🤷🏼‍♀️

[ChiTown33]

How do you figure? If anything it illustrates the importance of looks above all. It's the fact that they'd rather fight over a cute guy than accept an ugly guy.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Not so, how many "really" know about the other women, and how many are being lied to that they the only one? And again, not all women are the same, I definitely ain't gonna fight over no man... If someone really wants to be with you, there wouldn't be no competition. I don't compete for a man's love, they either love me or they don't.. And if they don't, their loss, not mine🤷🏼‍♀️

[ChiTown33]

OK, now you're muddling this up with all these other feelings and stipulations. I'm talking about just base attraction.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

"If anything it illustrates the importance of looks above all."
How am I muddling that? Looks might be important in first attracting someone, but it won't "keep" someone if that's all they have to offer

[ChiTown33]

Exactly my point and if they're not the most attractive guy they never get their foot in the door.
If you want to agree to disagree that's fine. I know you're not right I have 40+ years. That proves otherwise. I'm not angry I just don't get why women have to perpetuate this myth.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I could say the same, I have 40+ years experience that says other than what your saying. Your reality is not everyone's reality... There's plenty of men and women I'd say it you'd say aren't attractive that are in relationships or married, and I know plenty of guys and women that would be viewed as attractive that are single, some by choice, and some because of the type of person they are they can't maintain a relationship, they can "get"people, but have trouble "keeping" them. So yeah, gonna have to agree to disagree

[ChiTown33]

But of course you'd say that. You're a woman. I'm not saying you're one of these women who tell ugly guys to keep trying for your amusement. Because I just don't know if you're that type of person. I hope you aren't. But I'll be honest with those guys. So they don't waste their time. 🙂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

First of all, you're not really helping those guys like you think you are.. Second, that's not even what this post was about.. You went way off topic, and again these little digs, making comments like that, if you're going to keep doing that, maybe you should stop answering my posts.. You've in past posts made insinuations I was sexist (which I'm not) and now:
"You're a woman. I'm not saying you're one of these women who tell ugly guys to keep trying for your amusement. Because I just don't know if you're that type of person. I hope you aren't. "
Yeah, there was no point of even saying that. So yeah, I'm done here..

[ChiTown33]

I don't think you're a bad person 3B but you say some very diplomatic things followed by some really horrific things about guys. You're a mixed bag and it's confusing to me. It's like you want peace and harmony between the genders, but only on your terms. Or that is the way it comes off at least. I'm sorry if you're angry.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Removed your last comment because I'm done with the petty insults, and what part of done didn't you understand? If you can't respond and disagree respectfully, then again just don't bother with my posts anymore, but calling me biased is the pot calling the kettle.. Just know anymore replies laced with insults will be removed.. I don't remove replies that disagree, but when someone tries to personally attack someone's character just for disagreeing, yeah those will be removed from now on, and men say women can't handle the truth, but I see more men on here, that get offensive or insulting if they're not agreed with. smh.. But you have a good day now🙂

[ChiTown33]

I'm sorry you feel that way. If was trying to insult you. You'd know it. But clearly you're angry so I'll just stop trying to explain for now. And talk to you when you're in a more receptive mood. Have a nice day 3B 🙂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Why would you think I'd be "angry" by asshat assumptions by a "stranger"?
Or people that "act" like they know you? And what you say is bull, because I call out both men AND women, yet you only dump on women, so look at yourself and your words before trying to twist mine..

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

🤣🤣 sure okay lmao either there's a delay, or you're not getting it, nothing you say would make me angry, cuzI know it's just another person trying to discredit the truth with nothing but hyperbole🤣🤣 nothing to get angry about, does it get annoying, well yeah, cuz I rather talk to adults that can discuss things like an adult, instead of trying to make it a personal attack. But that usually happens when people don't have a valid point🤷🏼‍♀️

[ChiTown33]

"Asshat assumptions"? I'm glad you're done with the "petty insults" and are removing them. I guess that means you'll remove your last post.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I didn't call you an asshat though did I? Said the assumptions are... You can reply, I'm done responding.. Bye now🙂✌️👋

[Djaay]

Romance... is lust. Need i go further?

[Fuentes]

Woman

[RedBullRacingLemia]

Sometimes

[Playboy2424]

"lust is new love"

[AlwaysBelieving]

I say men do.

[Hulk30]

it's true