If I'm unsure and still questioning my sexuality, what should I respond with if people ask me if I'm dating, straight, bi or gay?

[Anonymous]

I'm generally a nervous and shy person so I tend to avoid personal questions, but when friends and family or new people I meet ask me or try to set me up with someone.. and for me it's usually :

"I'm single and not interested in dating right now"
"I prefer being alone.."
"I'm focusing on my studies right now"
"Uhmm I dunno.. maybe you'll get grandkids someday "
"She's pretty but so is he.." - internal thought -
"She's not really my type"
The list goes on but it feels like I'm just lying now

I could just be honest but I don't want that attention from people trying to "fix" me and being judgmental or people jumping to conclusions when I'm still trying to figure it out for myself. I could just keep avoiding but I'm really trying to open up more but it seems even harder with all this.
I feel stuck inbetween.. what should I do? What would you do?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Just tell them that you’re not interested in anyone right now, you aren’t looking for people. That’s a very vague statement and they could interpret that however they want, but mostly saying, “he doesn’t want to date right now.”


You don’t have to tell them your sexuality, no one’s business except yours and your future partners anyway… You might be bicurious. No big deal. You don’t really need to label yourself if you don’t want to.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Agree with this.
He can also say he's still figuring himself out.

[lrina]

just say questioning or something like that. or say that you aren't really interested in a relationship and aren't looking for anything at the moment; do whatever suits you best.

[josephinelcajon]

I feel its rude so regardless of my security of my sexuality or not. I simply say "I am enjoying life" Its kind of answering yet answering so far off kind of like this new fad people answering with a brownie recipes but not so slap in your face! If they really push then I give them the Fuck you stare! Never had someone go any further but I am prepared to then verbally say "Its none of your business"

[TommyMountainFigure]

There's an easy way to answer without giving away anything.

Next time someone tries to set you up, just tell them to give you that person's phone number and you can decide before calling what you fancy and what you don't!

[Anonymous]

Just be honest.

[Anonymous]

Be honest