How to get over the severe embarrassment from using dating sites and swiping right on guys?

[Anonymous]

[Guccigabbana18]

I get what you're saying girl. It can be embarrassing because you don't wanna "advertise" that you're desperate for a date. Feels needy. But, you should realise that it's completely normal to do online dating. Almost Everyone does it, even celebrities and really hot guys/girls. It just means you're taking responsibility for your own dating life, and using technology to your advantage because its hard to meet people in real life sometimes. Just go for it!

[TheMajesticKing777]

If that embarrasses you there's two solutions, you don't do it anymore or you live with the feeling my friend, or at least until you get used to it and it gets numb lol

[virtue2332]

Exchange it for the even more embarrassing act of that walk of shame past his roomates the next morning.

[one1wild00]

Why be embarrassed? either you like a guy or you don't.

[RogerTomas4534]

If it was a legitimate reason to be embarrassed would others do it? Probably not

[UniquelyBasic]

Why the embarrassment?

[Asker]

Because I don’t want people to know I’m looking for a relationship. It feels like the equivalent of writing it on my forehead and walking around that way. And I don’t want guys to know I’m interested because it’s awkward.

[UniquelyBasic]

Its nothing to be embarrassed about. People think you're a loser for trying when it comes to dating but everything else in life trying is commended. People are on dating sites for the same reason you are so its not weird.

[globetrotter22]

Why is it embarrassing to begin with?

[Asker]

I don’t want to advertise that I’m looking for a relationship.

[globetrotter22]

Well don’t expect what you want to materialize right in front of you. You need to put some effort in to make things happen.

The good news is you only have to put in a fraction of the effort vs. your male counterpart. In most circumstances you don’t have to take any of the real risks like asking/setting up a date, leading a conversation or making a move if you like him.

All you have to do is: 1) take care of your physical appearance 2) not be too crazy 3) give reasonable expectations of what you want in a partner.

[globetrotter22]

I forgot to add 4) be somewhere where you are visible. If you like a guy you need to make a clear signal your interested. You do this by simply smiling at him, making eye contact and just saying hello. If he finds you attractive he will almost always respond (unless he’s already taken and/or just in a bad mood). If he’s not interested the worst thing that can happen is he will ignore you.

[virtue2332]

It's also hard to look for something that turns out best when it's not forced and happens naturally with time. On dating sites at least from my point of view which is someone that tends to over analyze situations can make things difficult. It seems like there is always someone new and interesting on the surface. There is not enough time to get to know everyone and devote the kind of attention to one that a relationship needs. There is always that issue of Fomo on that one.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Stop using dating sites

[Asker]

Why?

[globetrotter22]

@callmetheknight in theory I totally agree with you. But nowadays people need to keep their options open. I met all three of my last long term gfs on dating sites.

[Jamie05rhs]

How is that embarrassing?

[Asker]

Because I don’t want people to know I’m looking for a relationship. It feels like the equivalent of writing it on my forehead and walking around that way. And I don’t want guys to know I’m interested because it’s awkward.

As I said to another guy ^

[Jamie05rhs]

Hmm. Well, I'm sorry, but that seems quite silly to me. There is absolutely nothing at all wrong with wanting to find love. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

[Asker]

Okay.

[Jamie05rhs]

:) 💚

[In_Trance]

Are you doing this in front of an audience?

[Asker]

No. What does that mean?

[In_Trance]

If nobody's watching, what's the difference?

[Devontealashantea]

Why are you embarrassed?