Why is being on dating apps so awkward?

Question

Like I feel like finding someone who just makes great conversation is so freaking hard to find. I almost always have to initiate and it never goes anywhere far.  This is so frustrating.

AvaRay · Accepted Answer

Dating app isn't all full of fake people, some people r real, kind n genuine..

But yeah, we hv to be really careful cause some of people might looked sincere on their profile but hv hidden bad intention, we never know..

Some of my friends find their soulmate through dating app n their marriage going well till now, so actually dating app is quiet helping for people who is not that good in socialize with people irl n for people who want to find someone overseas..

So, Sims.. don't be afraid / hv negative assumption 1st if u use dating app,

what u hv to make sure before proceed further is their identify they put there is real not fake ( photo, ages, where they come from, their phone num, their job ),

then next is observe how your conversation going with that person from that u can see if the person intention to u is real for build genuine relationship with u or scam u with fake business later on / more into sexual intimacy..

If u find someone overseas, if the person is serious with u they ll come to your place, meet your parents n your family, he wouldn't hide u guys relationship..

His intention is more into get to know u better as a person, potential match rather than after your body..

But if he has many excuse this that can't meet u, come to your place.. just want to stay at chat platform drop the guy, he just playing with your feeling n wasting your time.

Remember this Sims.. if someone truly love u, his action, his consistency, his behaviors ll proof it not just his words / promises n he ll treat u with respect

His coming to your life ll bring kindness n better progress to your life n also give good impact to people around u , not bring chaos / destruction / confusion..

Your heart , your feeling is precious.. don't let someone who don't deserve for it ruin it, better late rather than u rushy things n u screw yourself

What's belong to u, ll be with u.. in some / the other way.. Trust God knows the best for u, God bless u Sims

SphynxUK · Accepted Answer

If I’m honest, I think people have the ability to converse. If I match, and someone says hey or hi hun or Wyd, I’m not answering. If there is no back and forth and no questions asked it’s game over.
I need to see if there’s interest between us, and gauge personality and humour through text or there will be no meet up.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because dating apps are filled with fakes and catfish and scammers like most sites are on the internet , I’m not saying it’s not possible to meet someone online , just the chances are very slim that they are actually legit and you aren’t wasting Your time. If I talk to a girl on the internet , that is showing interest in me and to each other , I will ask her
To talk to me on video chat , if she makes excuses as to why she can’t video chat me , then it’s a 99 percent chance she is fake or catfish pretending to be someone they aren’t. I would never meet someone offline unless they can prove to
Me they are who they say they are. So I no longer waste my time on dating apps , I tried them before and realized it was a waste of time , and focus on just meeting girls’ in public instead , you aren’t going to land every person you meet but your chances are a lot better than the internet especially these days , back then when internet started getting popular, it was easier to meet people because that’s before catfish and scammers were really a thing , I remember when I first got America online with the dial up slow ass internet connection and chatting on chat rooms , I ended up meeting a handful of girls’ that were straight up legit , because times were better back then compared to how it is now. People were a lot more social and outgoing compared
To how it’s now , if I could go back in time , I so would.

Clear_Skies10 · Accepted Answer

It's easier to get to know people on a question and answer site like this because you get to see how they think on a variety of topics. On dating apps you just message people without knowing their personalities and hope for the best.

HawkPerception · Answer

I personally find it frustrating to talk over text. I send voice notes at the minimum so they get a feel of who I am and how I speak. It makes it easier to relate to me too. If it's just text, then women get bored so easily because they get so much attention and texts.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The problem odd that people want to stay on the app instead of meeting in person and THAT is awkward. Exchange a few DMs then TALK on the phone a few times then meet up. The awkwardness disappears quickly.

ohsheeT · Answer

Because in that split second. When you say hi to each other you're thinking I might be going on a date with this person and you freak out and then then the then start sweating. Your mouth ge get. Ge gets. Dr Dr drrr dryyy. Then you start stuttering. And the first question you have to say huh? . I'm sorry, my lips were stuck together. I didn't hear you

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Imagine that... sites that let you say a sentence and just post some pictures equals nothing but a whole bunch are horny dudes who's best line is "Yo baby, watz up, want sum dik?" Of course instead of complaining about them, you all complain about the guys that say "Hello, liked your profile, would you like to talk?"

Those sites are for awkward rejects that's scared to look at the opposite sex IRL and sexual beasts that just want to take advantage of the things sheer lust provides them from a few pics.

So why is that so awkward, you ask? Probably because you're not like them yet and you're trying to get in with all that. You're either going to eventually reject it and go back to IRL interactions or adapt and become just like the them.

Do yourself a favor and just peruse around with no objective other than observing their behavior on there. I implore you to make a profile as a male too... get a glimpse of what they deal with so you can understand their atmosphere. They're all nothing but apes that's glued to their computers or phones with nothing going on IRL. Most use it as a last resort, probably like you... and others just use it to take advantage of the easy pickings.

FreyaRed · Answer

People in dating apps want to fit to much possible partner criteria of everyone and they lie and deceive. Most people don't look for partner but want as much as possible validation of the image they try to display. This appears like looking for attention but this isn't their main goal.
It's like someone posts pictures with a dog while they don't own a dog at all, they use this dog just for the sake of appearing more appealing and positive. (it's just one example)
This is probably main issue dating apps suck.

katiesmuff · Answer

I think these dating apps are totally useless. Over the years I've heard of maybe a handful of meeting someone on a dating app going anywhere except a total disaster. If you are as outgoing as you sound the right person for you is going to appear totally unexpected by you or her and it will likely be somewhere that you would never expect it. Wishing you lots of luck.

Levin · Answer

I think it's a punishment for laziness.

If I go on those things, I don't feel like I deserve to meet anybody.

Real life is better.

Those things just attract the worst people.

Besides, they no longer work because the apps tinker with the algorhythm to extract as much money out of lonely men as possible.

slatyb · Answer

It can be frustrating. One summer I had a number of first dates and no second dates. Then in January I met my wife on Match. One thing I learned was how to read profiles to find women who might be compatible. I ignored woman with profiles saying things like "I like to walk on the beach, go to restaurants...". Almost everyone enjoys that. If that was the most interesting they could think of, they weren't for me.

Miristheiss · Answer

I've never been on one before. I met my wife in person and asked her out. I hear dating apps are pretty bad. I hear most women get hundreds maybe thousands of matches and guys get hardly any. I hear women have so many options that they only reply or go out with the best of the best of the best and I hear these things are mostly used for hook ups and hook ups.

Sounds like they are kind of destroying dating and long term relationships.

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

simslover92 so it seems you're on back on the horse to find a guy for you upcoming big time off work in a month or two-three months from now eh? Congrats - just don't catch any STDs, don't get pregnant and don't get scammed 😋

Shiprex · Answer

Did it decades ago and found American women much more into it. Met a few and they were nicer in real life than the thoughts from online so that was a bonus. Now though? Nah too many scammers and tramps for me to be in to that. Better to seek the ones around you for something.

ilistengood · Answer

Thank cell phones and internet. When I was younger and trying to find wo. en to date hopefully more , it required face to face communications, you risked being openly rejected and I was shy as hell. But it was get over it or find a cave to live in. I learned to communicate that way. Today we dont have to do that we have texting , hookups , ghosting , no real communication required. We barely communicate now, in another 10 or 20 years I wonder where we will be.

RHK36 · Answer

It's a lot harder for men. Make a male profile and you'll see how much worse it is lol. The feminist that tried dating women decades ago killed herself after dealing with women pretending to be a man. Her experiment led her to depression. Just look for green flags and don't chase walking red flags.

bobalife · Answer

Swipe swipe swipe 😂 Let them come to you, both parties need to put effort. If they’re not trying, next. You got this :)

jazzy34 · Answer

Honestly, you don’t know who’s real and who’s a catfish. 🤷🏽‍♀️

WonderingManII · Answer

That is how things go for me on the internet. Once every couple of months I get lucky.

sage2021 · Answer

I get DMs on here from guys and the same thing happens. We just don't know what to say to each other. 🤷🏻‍♀️

dustybiker2 · Answer

Probably because they aren't being true to who they are

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yeah, people never know how to converse, and are too hesitant to actually do anything.. I totally understand you..

TheKillerJason · Answer

Well, what do you like talking about? Try asking creative open ended questions. Some topics you could choose are memories or morals

Berethor · Answer

I didn't had much luck on dating apps, a met better people on non-dating apps, like here.

MemeSupreme · Answer

bc people can't make up their minds its why i only trolled on there lol

scott04sa22 · Answer

I don't do dating apps because of cheaters, tolls, validations, ego boosters and scammers. on dating apps the guys only looking for sex then ghost you.

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

It’s awkward because I think at one point in time, it was seen as not being able to find partnerships in rl as a weakness. Then become normalized

shortster · Answer

You're not supposed to have a conversation ons on the app. The app is so you can find someone interesting to go out on a date with. That is where you are supposed to have the conversations.

dudeinohio · Answer

Patience and persistence wins the day. you'll find bad matches; but eventually you'll find the right one.

Xawyx-2 · Answer

I know how you feel, so true, it's really awkward and frustrating.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Because it's hard to know who these people are on the dating apps...

PeterLegg91 · Answer

So people prefer doing the talking in person, it's hard to be natural and yourself over text

queenofcardio · Answer

The struggle is real 😫

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Because trying in dating is cringe 🤢 What kind of loser tries to find love intentionally? 🥴

msc545 · Answer

Statistically, 80% of them men will be unacceptable to you.

verified · Answer

Took me over 400 matches to find my woman

exitseven · Answer

It must be like buying a pig in a poke

Kelly6 · Answer

@simslover92 because it’s all fake

smahala1991 · Answer

From my experience they just suck

qwerty2469 · Answer

Dating apps focus on the worst aspects of dating.

Elena_adobra · Answer

I just use them for easy sex

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Awwww

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