Knowing what you have to offer and change mindset?

[Anonymous]

Well I am trying to figure out how to be confident, and knowing what you have to offer. I have a hard time figuring what I have to offer on the dating market. I am nowhere near where I should be, and it is sometimes embarrassing especially due to my age (which I know I should be much further along). I just keep telling myself it will come along. When ever I am interested in a girl I always think about this and second guess myself. Then it comes down to will I be able to really take care of, protect, and be a good leader. Not to mention will they like what they see, even though my current situation is not optimal. In regards, to the mindset I have the mindset of putting women on pedestals. Additionally, being a do or die kind of situation when I want to ask for her number, or a date. I always worry about having to keep going through the rejection and having to try again, just to keep getting rejected. For those who do better with women, what is the mindset that you have normally when approaching or trying to talk to a woman, even if you're not where you want to be financially, socially, etc..

[Chris_Chambers0010]

I used to put a lot of value in my ability as a provider and protect like you do. After being married and taking care of a family for many years then becoming single, I now have a different mindset. I don't look at women as people that I need to take care of anymore. It may have been how I was raised, but women are more independent now.
I just work on my own life and making it awesome. As far as women are concerned I would rather give them emotional support, intimacy and companionship.
I have no insecurities about finances etc. because I have no interest in financially supporting a woman anymore. If she's gonna be with me it has to be because she enjoys spending time with me.

[DaddyDiablo]

What are your credentials here n what kinda areas are you looking to work on like you're true weaknesses n shit