How much harder is it for shorter men to date?

Question

I have seen some men complain about women only wanting tall guys so I am curious as to how much more difficult it is.

HighlyVolatile · Accepted Answer

I never found it that difficult even in the US in spite of being 173cm. One thing is that I acknowledge my height and realized I'm not going to carry some commanding and powerful-looking presence in a room.

So I went for easy-going and fun-loving and talkative which is what I am anyway, going straight to the center of a social event and chatting with everyone (men and women). Then usually I'd end up getting into an engaging conversation with a woman and she'd either pass me her phone number or I'd ask her out.

I even had much taller guys approaching me and asking me how I attract all these women and I think one thing is that given my height and the way I carried myself, I didn't give threatening vibes to girls. So most seemed very down to not only talk to me but approach me to talk. Yet I learned to be flirty and make some moves here and there just enough to sort of tightrope walk the boundary between friend and love interest, and I learned how to step things up on the date.

Kaamraj · Accepted Answer

How much harder it is can only be answered by a man who was previously tall and then became short, which is not possible under normal circumstances. But it is quite hard as you have to compensate heavily with other good things in your life.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

According to short guys, it is damned near impossible and it is all the fault of you women.

coachTanthony · Answer

I am only 5'7 and will be looking forward to SHORT KING SPRING!

MCheetah · Answer

I'm going to use these charts again, but the quick version is: If you're under six feet tall, and live in Western society, it's stupidly difficult to get a woman who will value you and respect you whatsoever. And if you're under 5'8", it's basically impossible.

How much harder is it for shorter men to date?

While women may care about more things than height, if you're not tall enough (6'0" minimum), you instantly lose. Height is just the first door of many you have to unlock with women, and you can't even control it, either.

And you know the biggest irony? Even though no woman wants to date a guy under six feet tall, you're supposed to just "not care" anyway. If you so much as express dissatisfaction about it, both women and tall men will go "Well see! THAT'S why no one wants to date you! Cause you're so negative!" Even though it's really just the height. They only say that to excuse coming off shallow. You can be the most well-adjusted, happy-go-lucky short guy ever (@bigpauly) and they still won't feel any differently. They'll just rub salt in the wound if you so much as feel salty about being too short to avoid dying alone.

"How much harder is it for shorter men to date?" Let's just put it this way. A woman has to be born with a dick in order to have equivalent difficulty in dating as any short guy does.

I'm only 180 cm; so I certainly stopped trying after constantly being told I'm too short to date by women. I'm working on bettering myself now, but I'd be lying if I didn't say I hate being denied love, relationships, and companionships because I was "born inferior" according to society. Not that three-quarters of other Western men don't deal with the same crap.

Rab1901 · Answer

I never considered myself short at 5'8 and I don't find it hard to date. People think I'm taller than I actually am if I talk to them in real life because I speak as if I'm on top of the world and I didn't even realize there was such a big preference for tall guys until my 20s. Having a great personality can definitely make up for the lack of height but many people don't have the personality to make it up, so let's talk about reality.

I really think height is the biggest physical advantage/disadvantage in dating for men. If you just look at height on paper/dating apps, if there are two profiles with everything exactly the same, a girl is much more likely to want a 6ft guy over a 5'8 guy and much much much more likely to want a 6ft guy over a 5'4 guy. If he's 5'4, he'd probably get one match by the time the 5'8 guy gets 50 and the 6ft guy gets 200. These aren't actual stats, but I imagine it would be something like this since girls literally put on their profile, "please be tall", "you have to be taller than me", "I'll brag about you if you're over 6ft"

Every now and then, there will be the "I love redheads", "I love blue eyes", "I love big arms", "I love a beard" but these happen much less, and even then, these don't feel like dealbreakers like the height usually is. There are plenty more guys who would date taller girls than girls who would date shorter guys. I do think girls should be more open to dating shorter guys because height isn't something they can control, but I also do think shorter guys gotta stop using their energy complaining about how their height makes life so difficult because that's not gonna make them look any taller and that energy could be spent on something better like working out or starting a new project or doing something fun/exciting.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Mostly Ide say it’s men projecting their insecurities due to being unable to explain why they cannot get dates. Being honest though stupid comments women make about not dating short men don’t help and I’ve seen videos of women refusing to date short men. Hell old study was done in the 90s by a news network here in the states showed women as unwilling to date short men lol.

Let’s be frank. It’s easier to blame women for issues when you can’t find an answer yourself. Even easier when you’ve made a conciliatory effort to be better and still inexplicably cannot get a date lol.

What are men supposed to do though? Approaching at the gym makes us look like creepers, your busy at the store, if it fails at work it ruins he work environment, college campus is like begging for false rape charges due to alcohol and stupidity… I saw a video the other day of dozens of women saying they only use dating apps for clout and they think ALL women use them for it… Just saying women are psycho.

worldscolide · Answer

some women like to put out there that short men are undesirable.. Here is the comical thing, most women i have dealt with and spoken to just didn't want their men to be shorter than them.. Im 6 feet tall. i never had issues. One of my best friends is 5'8" again never has issues (average height of a male in the sates is 5'8" by the way). I have another friend of mine who was only rejected because he was literally half an inch shorter than she wanted. and she only found that out because it showed on his drivers license. If she never saw that she would never have known.. I have zero respect for women like that.

I think those that are bitter about that are the ones that have been rejected only on how tall they are.. its not as if they have the ability to change it. Yet at the same time women bitch that men won't date fat women.. And to me a fat woman is a woman who is heavier than me (i weigh 230).. And a person's weight is easily changeable via diet and physical activity. I see a person who chooses height as their hill to die on as worse than someone who chooses weight. because one can be changed, one cannot.

Anonymous · Answer

You'll get a lot of answers from guys 170cm and up, but these guys aren't actually that short. Try being a 160cm guy and see how difficult it is. For these guys, being single is certainly a choice but it isn't their choice.

These are the cons of being a 150 -160cm tall man:
1. Infantilized on a constant basis. This goes from anything to being asked for ID to get into a movie, being called pet names by strangers, not being allowed into clubs, being touched on the head by strangers and more.

2. Women will assume the short stature correlates to a short penis. This is not the case. In some cases it might be but if those are the majority, it is a slim majority.

3. Clothes don't fit. Men this size might find themselves somewhere between the largest kid's sizes and the smallest men's. Women are attracted to formal attire. Close to unobtainable for men that short.

4. Women don't want a short man's genes in their children. Self explanatory.

5. A short man cannot physically protect a woman. Some short guys might be martial arts experts or something, but that would be a very minute portion of them and even still, in close quarters, they are getting squashed.

6. Job discrimination. It is no secret that the majority of CEOs are male and over 6ft. Many jobs require physical strength or being able to reach high places. The world is simple not made for 160cm tall men.

The pros? None. It is exponentially more difficult for short men to date. I've seen short men be compared to fat women in terms of dating prospects, but in reality dating is not even close to being as hard for fat women as it is for short men.

metaldragon563 · Answer

Pretty much near impossible. Being a 5'4 man in the USA is social suicide. Its a height thats usually made fun of a lot for a guy and seen as inadequate by multiple women. I'm so short that even a woman thats like 5'1 isn't that much smaller than me and girls that are like 5'4+ aren't shorter than me. On average, the most heights that I come across on apps is 5'3 - 5'7. Me being 5'4, its a height that is 100% ignored so apps are terrible. Most women like guys that are bigger and taller than them. I can safely say that if a woman is usually 5'1+ she probably won't consider me bigger and taller. Perhaps women 5'0 and under but that itself is a very small % of women so i'm royally screwed.

Novacane · Answer

Very hard, you basically just become a shadow in the corner that nobody even notices, but then again that is the regular life of a man. Most women and could say 80% will always write you off because of your height. People will always say your personality has to be on point, but let's be honest it doesn't matter how much of a good personality you have most women will not care because they don't find you sexually attractive. Now of course there are short men out there that have no problem dating but that is not most short men. Most really have to go through with most of their life being ignored or being left out, it becomes second nature to the point where if you meet women you automatically opt yourself out because they know they want someone taller.

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

I know a lot of lovely girls who don't just go for 6ft or over men. My sisters boyfriend Is about 5ft6/7 and my stister in laws boyfriend is also around the same height too.
Just look at Tom Holland probably one of the biggest heart throbs in Hollywood right now and he's I think about 5ft6 and he's dating one of the most beautiful women in the world.

I smaller guys actually have a advantage sometimes when it comes to finding a good woman because he can weigh out the shallow rude girls first and actually find a girl who loves them for them.

I myself do prefer taller men as I'm 5ft and I don't know why but I've just always like a man who is a lot taller than me but I've found plenty of smaller guys attractive too and I wouldn't say no to dating them if I wasn't already in a relationship

bademoxy · Answer

how much harder is dating (as in respectful courtship) for fat unattractive women?
it's the same thing : low sexual status = invisible to the opposite sex.
though at least 50% OF desperate low status guys will sleep with anything that looks remotely female , while in the rapidly shrinking pool of very top status men (wealthy tall handsome), each rarely dates-just sleeping with numerous high status (physically beautiful) women because those future catladies refuse to date downwards.
The Sexual Revolution: fooling the Boomer generation into destroying their own relationships and that of their potential offspring.
Was Marxism pretending to be about "Liberalism" and "humanism"(which we already HAD under Women's Rights) but was really about dividing us against each other, the resultant misery now compounded by soul crushing social media such as Tinder.

Squaresquirrel · Answer

I'm 5"7, I would probably give a chance to a guy 5"6 but not shorter because I don't want to feel bigger and manly me hugging my boyfriend.
Also, for me the perfect height for a guy is 5"9 or 10, not taller than that.
Personality does matter so this is not the deciding factor.

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

I’m 5’9, if you catch a girls attention and you have decent looks, confidence and in shape, he has his life together I don’t think it’s that hard. Not all girls want a tall guy. Yeah women like taller men but it’s like asking men who like big boobs, will he only date a girl with double D’s? Of course not.

I don’t want to make excuses like that or be bitter/negative. I think that’s the approach guys need to have. I dated a girl taller then me and I asked her why she didn’t reject me. She said you’re a sweet guy, I think you are handsome and you make me laugh with your weird ways.

dorksided1 · Answer

I am 4'11 so everyone's taller then me, height for me is irrelevant if I like a guy I like him height has no part of it

Anonymous · Answer

Women bring this up a lot. I’m actually 6ft so I’m okay but I even bought dress shoes with extra thick soles that make me 6’ 2’’. I attended a singles meet up a few months ago wearing these and I did notice a positive difference on how women reacted. Maybe it was a placebo but still. All three women I spoke to acted very interested.

Anyway I noticed that God usually blesses short guys with dynamic personalities to make up for the height issue. They tend to be funny, feisty and witty. I’ve seen plenty of them do good with women.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

For fun, I googled a few days back and found that the AVERAGE male height in the U. S. is about 175 cm (or 5''9 in THEIR funny number system)
I never saw myself as a tall person (171 cm).
So I really wonder what nonsense it must be when -say- 90 percent of women are after -say- 5% of the men :D
Those men who ''complain'' must be whiny fools.
Myself, I had never had an issue with finding someone who likes me.

Berethor · Answer

It's much harder, both tall women and short women want to date a tall man.

Cherry234 · Answer

It may be a bit harder for them but not all women want tall men. If a man is near or above the average height for a woman then he shouldn't have too much difficulty.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

My brother is 178,

Not tall, he has average height,

However, he’s never had the shortage of girls.

She has had taller girls go after him and shorter ones as well.

Well, I’ve not heard of a girl who’s rejected my brother and he has been approached numerous times. I don’t know what his secret is, all I know is that he is confident in himself, he is one of the most handsome guys you can meet and he’s cool.

Staximus · Answer

I have seen so many women's dating profiles online that says they were only interested in men 6 feet or taller. Half of those women were like 5'0" to 5'6". I'm 5'7" but too short for them. When my friends and I used to out to the bars, it was like I was invisible to the women. Most of my friends are 6 feet or taller, and the girls wouldn't even give me a second glance when I was with them.

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

I just came from a question about incels, I asked what it meant and he answered incels would stay alone and a virgin until they would die. He brought up skin color and height as two examples why he would be dying an incel. In his eyes being short would mean sentence to life by Incel.
I have seen just as many attractive shorter men than I have seen taller. They had two things in common, they had a cute face, healthy weight and were fun to be around. That's all it takes for me

CubsterShura · Answer

It's hard, and some short men make it harder for themselves with their Napoleon complex. Just saying as someone who was interested in a short guy but got turned off by his insecurity and currently dating a tall man and absolutely loving his confidence.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Yes. I think it’s what you believe and personality 80% that becomes self fulfilling prophecy. rejection can occur for any reason including too short. The challenge is to overcome any obstacles and they can be overcome no meatter what they are. They are all emotional barriers for the most part… yes emotional!!

shaysh87 · Answer

quite exaggerating, i have seen plenty of short guys date women. the secret is to go for a woman who is shorter than you. Short guys tend to date women shorter than them. I've seen it happen very often. But if you're 5'3'', there aren't many women shorter than that.

HawkPerception · Answer

Well it is our biological disposition as humans to be attracted to opposites. Females generally want stronger, bigger, and taller men. Men generally want weaker, smaller and shorter girls. And unlike weight that girls always complain guys judge them by (something they can change by working out), height is not something that can be changed by working out. I've even had my ex girlfriends that were both 5'4 tell me that they wouldn't date someone shorter than themselves.

DianaWest · Answer

well, they should have no problem dating chubby women. and if they have a hot face and body, then i don't care about their height. face is really the most important thing when it comes to whether i am attracted to a guy or not. if he is the same height as me, i could care less. honestly, i feel like most women would care less that he is short if he had a great face and body.

GingerGuy · Answer

Can't answer that as I'd have to grow tall and see what difference it made lol. I can say that I'm probably considered short for a guy (5'7") and I've never had women "chasing" me. But I think I also have other things working "against" me like my red hair.

Subarugirl · Answer

Its not that difficult, The biggest issue men face when trying to date is with who they are as a person, insecurity complexes are not attractive

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

5’2” male: Everything is more difficult. Dating is especially difficult 15 out of the 20 girls I’ve asked out Have rejected me for my height.
One girlfriend 5’9” refused to be seen in public with me.
The hardest part is to keep on going and maintaining your self-respect I know plenty of short men that Have lost that.

TheFlak38 · Answer

One of my best friends is a very short guy while I am super tall. Whenever we go out together he cannot get the slightest attention from girls to the point he snaps and tells to go fuck myself.
Here are just a few examples of what people think about short guys:

Twalli · Answer

Girls want guys taller than them mostly because of the illusion of protectiveness. I remember a conversation I had with a tall woman (a mother of a friend so no attraction) who said, in the same sentence, that girls don't care about height and how it took her a long time to find a guy taller than her. I think it's kind of unconcious for girls though. Most don't think they have a height preference, but always choose the taller guys.

RationalMale · Answer

I remember seeing a study indicating that a short guy, like 5'5, needed to make something like 60k or 100k more per year salary wise to be as attractive as a guy 5'10 or 6'. Unfortunately this was a few years back so I don't have the study link sadly.

petitedollbabee · Answer

I’m 4’8, so I typically date guys between 5-5’8. 6ft and onwards is too much for me, and I’ve never met a guy the same height as me or under.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

A hard, stressful life, due to many things I couldn't control, has left me with plenty of other health issues that do far more to make me unappealing than my height does. Let's just say: I physically don't handle stress very well.

Phoenix-gb · Answer

I can't speak from experience (6"3', but also perpetually single, so height isn't everything) but I have seen on dating apps quite frequently women listing minimum heights, so it's not uncommon for that to be right out there.

douride2 · Answer

My older little brother. He is only about 5' 4" never seemed to have trouble getting the girls. He even married a woman taller then himself.

Amur8711 · Answer

Im not short so its hard to find a girl taller than me. So I can't relate. However I think there are a lot of women put off my guys not clearly taller than them. Especially if her family is tall and thats what she feels is necessary. Had a friend that his now wife had on her dating filter set for minimum height 5'10", he isn't 5'10", but our friend said to just say your 5'10" in your profile. If he hadn't they wouldn't had ever met.

bigpauly · Answer

Probably as much harder as everything else is. Just like reaching for a bag of chips is more difficult for me, finding dates also is. But I have always made it work.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Whats considered short? Anything below average height for a man? Everyone finds different heights short.

Splatmate22 · Answer

It deponds on the person. I had relationship with shorter guys wj with a learning disability. Mosty of them might struggle with finding simlar women. That will not care about what they can't control.

Waldoe · Answer

the ONLY guys that can tell you are the ones that have been Short and dated... then became Tall and dated. I do not think that is very likely...

Anonymous · Answer

I am 5'6" and 26 years old and never had a single girlfriend. Many guys shorter than or my height got girlfriends but it's definitely harder. Most women only see you as a short guy and nothing else.

dolemite89 · Answer

harder but not impossible, if ur dick is a good size girls don’t care that much if ur not 6’0 😂

Anonymous · Answer

As a 5’9 woman I have gone for guys shorter than me and I honestly don’t mind! Short king confidence is magnetic and girls won’t make a big deal about your height if you don’t (the ones worth the time anyway). If you make that a huge insecurity and talk about it all the time then it will show, and could be the thing that turns us off.

abc3643 · Answer

You know if you're short, they don't even let you donate in a sperm bank. That tells you reality.

neoagent1 · Answer

Due to the fact that shorter girls can date whoever they want, but taller women usually do not go for shorter guys, that narrows choices for shorter guys.

wittymilf · Answer

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SignedAutographs · Answer

Very I saw a girl on tinder literally say "if you're shorter than 5'8", swipe left". I'm 5'8" exactly so, do I swipe right or left on her?

MountAverage · Answer

Harder for sure. But nowhere near as hard as some men claim. If you're short but good looking, confident, charming man, you can get women.

ODC2112 · Answer

It's like asking a woman if she finds it difficult to have relationships if she doesn't have a DD cup.

zagor · Answer

Depends on the man. I know very tall guys who have trouble dating too. And some short guys who do very well.

KlinkyCoder · Answer

Doesn't help that 99% of depictions in media and also more common in real life that the man is taller everywhere one goes.

Almost_Incel · Answer

It is incredibly difficult, if not impossible. I am 5'6" and I struggle to attract ANY woman. I have never had a real girlfriend, and I was rejected because of my height.

Anonymous · Answer

Hahaha! Oh man, it's a LOT tougher! I'm not short myself--I'm a pretty average 5'9". But I'd gladly sign up for all kids of other disadvantages before I'd sign up for being short.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

Very hard. I'm 5' 4". I don't mind tall girls, but they don't like it apparently.

Mr_T_R_Climbs · Answer

Rather dificult , im new to the whole dating industry but all through my teens all the girls wanted the taller lads compared to me coming in at 5'6"

huzail · Answer

I m 5.4 and it's really hard to date a girl ,  Girls always want tall guyz I am still alone girls only want tall guyz hate my height

Anonymous · Answer

Depends, if you're at least 5'9 or taller it's not that much more difficult. It gets difficult around 5'7 and under, and I have given up lol

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

For short guys look at it this way if you were tall how would you feel if women only wanted you because of your height and nothing else

nawtee_me · Answer

How shallow do you have to be to have a height requirement for dating? I’ll bet they also wonder why they can’t find the right guy….

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