Why do broke men try to date? If you can't even take care of yourself how can you care for someone else?

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I really don't get it. Then get mad when they're rejected. Do they really think a woman should lower her standards to a bum? Get real focus on getting a job, an education, building a better life for yourself before bothering others. It's just weird.

meetkitty123 · Accepted Answer

I am assuming by broke you mean $0 money no job, no car no motivation, living at mommy and daddys eating their food and only aspirations is to leach off anyone who has pitty on them.
If that is the case the only thing I can think of is even coach potato broke men produce testosterone which makes them crave women. But to be honest men or any person who acts like this usually have an entitled and narcissistic personality. A person like this would not be thinking on the same planes as regular people. Therefore in their mind dating a woman would be her privilege.

Thank goodness there are many men who actually want to have their own car, their own place and make enough to go out for a good time.

JoyGirl · Accepted Answer

Girl, you are funny. 😂

OlderAndWiser · Answer

At what point do you say no to a relatively impecunious would-be suitor?

Anonymous · Answer

There's plenty of women who don't mind paying for me. I don't see a need for traditional gender roles anymore if women are going to work and vote, etc. Lots of you ladies talk about wanting stay at home husbands since you're so "successful" so I take advantage of browsing since I am tall, strong, good looking (so I am told by these women), to find a woman who will do the work I never wanted to do to begin with. I'm very successful at it actually.

Plenty of successful women who are lonely more than happy to get with a broke stud. And hey I treat them with respect, always thank them, and I'll protect them if anyone tries to harm them. I'm basically round the clock armed security that doubles as the cook and walks the dogs who can give romance and companionship.

So I bring other kinds of value, just not monetary. I've been to plenty of places in women's dime and I'm fine with it. No secrets about it either I'm always up front. Not all girls see it like you do. People can say what they want but doesn't bother me. I'm a prize to many women and I will use my game to stay in the game.

HighlyVolatile · Answer

That seems like a different cultural mindset from mine. In Japan, hardly anyone dates or get married if they can't afford it. No marriage unless a man can afford a proper home and kids, and no dates unless he can afford to pay for it.

If a man can't afford to date properly and live on his own, he usually becomes very reclusive living with his parents. We call such types hikikomori, but they never seek to date:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hikikomori

We are still similar here perhaps to the deeply religious types in the West but without the religious component. Things like family values and courtship values are secular here but in common with what might be called "old-school" values in the West.

desidoll · Answer

Probably to support them financially. These men usually target women with decent/professional jobs. Yikes, I find it to be very disturbing because this is out of the norm. It is supposed to be the other way around because ever since, men are the providers. Now that we women are also capable of making our income, I expect it to be equal.

The worst part is they try to get with a high-maintenance woman (usually very attractive) who is clearly out of their league, then moan about her being gold-digger.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

What is scary is when you get a man and a woman who neither can take care of themselves and they get together and then have kids. Like really?

I imagine it is just simple hormones and desire. I get dating if they are broke, cause of unforeseen circumstances... someone can go from making half a million a year to nothing through no fault of their own.

I don't think they should get to the point of trying to have a family though if they cannot even support themselves but sometimes two people can help each other to improve and do better.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yeah shocking that poor people have a life.

imagine have a low paid job or losing it because of downturn that is impacting the global economy.

must be great having your $$millions of spare cash able to date affluent guys.

i get where you are coming from, imagine dating a woman who does not own at least 2 properties and earns less than $145k per year, those are just abject failures, who would want to date a female bum like that.

Yeah let’s ban poor people from dating, how dare they enjoy their lives, shocking.

it’s true peasants are revolting.

Sam_The_Savage · Answer

Exactly... My yesterday point.
Few guys called a woman prostitute just because she expect her date should buy a lunch for her on date.

I mean wtf if you can't a afford to buy just a fuckin lunch on date for a girl than stop dreaming of her.

Even dog need 2 time food for staying loyal to you.

slatyb · Answer

In a burlesque show one of the performers listen four "shuns": habitation, transportation, education, occupation. If someone is lacking one of them, you should shun them.

DizzyDesii · Answer

No broke person should be looking to date if they’re expecting their partner to cover their part of the expenses. Its best everyone be employed first

ohshee · Answer

These are the men that hou read anout on here that are women haters they think women are hold diggers and they think women should pay there half when going to dinner because they are losers they are hypocrites and they are just wrong It All the Above

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know why they do

My view is simple can you afford the 100k per year to enter the dating world
If yes then enter it but if not then keep working, servicing yourself and stay hidden away maybe that could be the way to split society

clampfan101 · Answer

If he’s a hard worker he will get those things soon enough. Plus there’s many other important aspects, and he might fill in a good deal of the most important ones. What’s wrong with dating someone with strong potential working hard on getting even better?

Anonymous · Answer

I mean.. have you seen the economy lately? It's fucked worldwide, and especially fucked where i live..
Young adults have almost no chance without outside help at buying a home comfortably where i live, even if they have a well paying job.
Most young couples rent their place together here, or they live at parents home if their house is big enough until they can somehow move out lol..

They are broke based on your definition and these people shouldn't even be together, because they don't have their own home.. The economy is fucked up, young people can't live comfortably anymore. One way or the other you'll be fucked, unless you learn to navigate in this shit economy, while trying to stay sane.
I don't care if you are a gold digger or not, but maybe let's not insult people and try to tell them what they can and cannot do, because you think they are "broke".

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Facts. If don't have a job, then you have no business dating unless you are a young teenager living with mom and dad.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I agree with you if a person is broke, they shouldn't try taking care of someone else

nawtee_me · Answer

And all of this time I thought there was a shift, role reversals and the women were going to work so the men could stay home and play video games all day... Not quite the same as soap opera's though... lol

Anonymous · Answer

There's nothing wrong with a broke guy trying to date, but he's going to have a hard time finding a girl who will take him up on it.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Don’t worry. Those are the same men who end up sending dick pics to 13 year old girls later and spending money on OnlyFans. But I agree. Their existence is an embarrassment to humankind

Anonymous · Answer

Most college dudes are broke yet they somehow get girlfriends, there is no time to have both college and a decent job at the same time. Maybe their parents are rich.

zagor · Answer

Because they want to have sex while they're working to get those other things.

TallAnon · Answer

Different values, they don't care about the argument you present.

douride2 · Answer

If a guy can't at least pay his own way some times I'm not interested.

Anonymous · Answer

You just demonstrated to everyone why you attract the toxic ones.

Guslove · Answer

He’s just looking for that girl that will take him just the way he is.🤷

TrillXHippy · Answer

Yes broke people should not try to date

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

I wonder why so many women gravitate to such men..

jamartheg · Answer

Why do broke women decide to date?

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Gold digger!!

Why do broke men try to date? If you can't even take care of yourself how can you care for someone else?

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