I am dating a girl who is already in a relationship I need advice on how to carry forward this complicated relationship?

[Anonymous]

I am dating a girl who is in a relationship with some other person. I am the third wheel in this She confessed to me how she feels about me and how much she loves me but currently, she is not willing to break up with that person she is asking for about 1.5 years and then she will break up with that person. I am in a dilemma does she loves me or not as she doesn't want to lose that person also.

[bamesjond0069]

You have two real options:

1. Realize she's a ho. Be her sausage on the side or just bounce. A girl who does this stuff is not relationship material.

2. You want what you want and you won't take being the man on the side and are committed to steal her. You have to risk her to steal her. Make sure she gets caught having sex with you. I dont mean literally being walked in on although that could work. But damning pictures and texts you somehow make sure he finds out about. Force her hand. A. He finds out and dumps her in which case she runs into your arms. B. They fight a lot and she dumps him and she runs into your arms. C. Nothing happens and he proves himself a cuck and you can move in publicly on her ie "hey bro im taking your girlfriend out tonight she will be back in the morning"

Personally i dont value skanks for relationships because if they will do this to a man they will do it to you as well. So id go with option 1 and just be the sausage on the side until i was bored.

[Asker]

Accepted all that you are saying but can't do that as well. We were best friends in the past years before we started dating anyway I got it I need to leave her and move on

[bamesjond0069]

I mean a hard break like in one just move on. She may come back and chase you but i think its least likely to work but it has a chance. Id just say i can't be your friend and i won't be on the side. See you around. And then legit ignore her going forward.

[Asker]

Yup, it might be difficult but it's alright for now it's good that I move on from her.

[SolitarySolace]

Abort mission. Why would you want to be with a woman who willingly cheats on her current partner? If she were to decide to leave him for you, how are you sure she won't cheat on you with the next guy and eventually leave you for him? Once a Cheater, always a Cheater. It's better to be alone than to allow yourself temporary fulfillment and long term heartache.

[SecretsofKB]

Okay, so I'm going to just say that if this isn't a previously established and agreed upon polyamorous relationship by all involved parties, than someone is doing something wrong here.

Dude, she's willing to date you while dating another person and your expectation is that she be monogamous with you? You need to get out of this before your heart gets broken, because she's not leaving him for you. You're the side piece. Sorry.

[Asker]

If I add she already told me before we started dating that she can't leave him before a year (after a year she will move out of the city). After that, she will mutually end it with him and be with me.. I am just foolish to even accept that offer? I accepted that because I was too emotionally connected with her, going everywhere together, sharing everything with her... For 2years before we started dating we were Best Friends and now I think we have ruined that too.

[Selene1600000]

She may have feelings for you, but she’s not choosing you she’s choosing to stay with someone else. Waiting 1.5 years keeps you as a backup, not a priority. Respect yourself and step back until she’s actually single and ready.

[Wise4myage]

Don't waste time on her and move on to girls who are single. That is my advice.

[JoyGirl]

Ahhhhh…please, don’t let her waste you time.

[Asker]

She was my best friend in the past years what should I do now... Should I even end my friendship too..

[JoyGirl]

Yap, time to move on.

[JoyGirl]

Unless you guys can handle the awkwardness that comes with staying friends.

[Asker]

I can't so better to move on thanks 😇

[JoyGirl]

You are welcome…lol 💜

[In_Trance]

Why bother? Move on

[Asker]

She was my best friend before and now it's hard to make things normal.

[SolitarySolace]

Doesn't seem like she's a good friend if she's putting you through this