I need help with moving forward and my future in the relationship?

[Anonymous]

Let's start with moving in, me and my boyfriend are still with our parents, bc we are trying to save money as long as we can, well recently my boyfriend has been going through parent issues as in they can't pay there bills and there starting to ask him for money but the issue comes he's being disrespected by them as in they only ask for things and money when need be and they don't ask politely. When he was a kid he has a lot of trama and demons, I've knew him since high-school and we've basically grew up together I've seen his worst and his best from not dating to dating, I've seen him fail and succeeded a lot. But anyway he wants to move out and the kicker here is he wants to move out alone, he told me maybe a year or 3 to live by himself alone to fix his trama, but I find it as part of me is like yes do it and part of me is like what about me, we've basically live together. I don't really seen my family a lot and it kinda hurt me but it kinda gave me alittle joy bc I can kinda do my thing and we can still have a relationship ya know. But another issue is the other day I said somthing about the future and I said somthing about my husband whoever he is, and tbh I want him to be I want to have a future together but certain things he mentions doesn't involve me like he'll say my kids not our kids or I want to move here not we should move here. And when I said that he straight up told me, sounds like you don't want us to have a future and I said tbh with you back and forth I don't know what you want so I can't add you intill ik what you want bc Ik what I want and I want you and me to have a future but if you don't include me why mention us ya know? So I don't know what to do and I've always wanted to get my own place with a roommate of course bc everything is so expensive but I've pushed it back bc I was kinda hoping we would do it together bc we've been through almost everything, and a side not would be if I did he would end up not like my roommate.

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Let me add i have a client that wants me to have his rented house and I can get him that house to live it but do i? I was expecting to move in with him in there but if he wants to be alone why should i?

[strateguy632]

His phrases are just being careful , not rejected the possibility. So invite him to be room mates in separate rooms, as you get to know each other, and then decide how close if it is working.

[Asker]

The only problem with that like you said he's trying to be careful, he doesn't want a roommate bc he doesn't want to split anything and get screwed over he even told me himself he's scared of marriage and having kids bc he's lived in a life where the woman end up leaving and taking everything or using there child as pons and he said he wants a person that's solid and will not do that, I've communicated many times that if we get married or have children I'm not doing that, a divorce does not exist with me, once I'm with someone I die with them no expectations but he just doesn't get that at all

[Asker]

And i understand where he's coming from bc I've had a relationship before him that I was going to move in but somthing didn't feel right so I played my cards right. I was hot and cold and I just ended up letting the guy pay for everything that he wanted so I can leave.