So this guy who is interested in me is black and I'm European either way he wants to date me but I said I gotta ask my parents for permission?

[Anonymous]

Where both two different race and I don't it shouldn't matter but my parents always wanted me to stick with my race and culture either way we been talking to each other for 11 months at work so we both know kinda how we are since we see each other at work, but so I finally got the courage to tell my parents that I'm interested in him and they told me basically it's better to stick to you're own race etc and I told him snd now his like I understand we will never be together bc of you're parents so just tell them to go find you a European guy since they will never accept me and that was the last time he texted me is it all my fault?

[RJJ33666]

Listening to your parents is a very noble thing, and it is extremely admirable. But you need to realize when to listen to your parents and not to. You are a grown adult who is capable of your own decisions, I don't mean that in any aggressive manner but in a more rational manner. Your parents may have cultural concerns, but in a world like this, it is completely invalid. People from Europe are seen to get married and have children with many different cultures and many are successful in passing on both cultures to their children. And children with different cultural experiences are seen to very well versed as well as better in adaptation to other cultures they might get exposed to instead of being overwhelmed.

This person that you are interested in might be black, but that's not the biggest concern you should have. If you can see a proper future with this person then you should give it a try, it may not work out but at least you tried and learned. But if you don't try with this person because of your parents then you would be stuck in your own culture without experiencing the beauty of other cultures and the type of people who are born in it. You will also miss your opportunity with many great people out there just because of a simple cultural difference. You might end finding the nicest gentleman but because your parents want someone from the same culture, you might end up rejecting that person and settle of someone else. And this doesn't mean in any way that people in your culture lack in ways, I am just saying don't keep a lid on your experience, go out and try, that's it.

[RolandCuthbert]

Why is it your fault? There is no wrong answer. If you feel you want to honor your parents wishes that's your decision. I don't know about the race angle, because that is just weird. But if your parents are expressing a cultural concern and you choose to honor it, it should be understandable even if I or other disagree with their position.

Just do you. Don't worry about.

[Dinklex3]

You won't be together because you don't want to be together, not because of your parents.
If you don't want to date him, just move on. Don't dwell on it.

[secret-admirer-perv]

If you like him. Then your parents will have to suck it up. Times have changed. I bet you want this black dude anyway but that is nice to consider your parents. The heart wants what the heart wants. If he is a decent person , he will do what it takes to prove that to your folks

[1step]

My parents are really strict but my mother once said I can't make you leave the girl you love or make you marry another all I can do is tell you I would like the girl to be of our race but if you love a girl who is not of our race I would assume that you both just fell in love and there is nothing that can be done I would not be upset

[dudeinohio]

You are an adult (unless you lied about your age) so you require no permission from your parents at all.

So...
Yes... its all your fault for not acting like an adult.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Have him meet your parents first, I feel like if they like the dude their mind might change

[Asker]

What if they are very picky parents

[TheMajesticKing777]

Then there's nothing you can do about it and this is by far the best solution to strict parents cause if this doesn't work, nothing else will unless you do it behind their back which will only have terrible outcomes with your parents, usually the strictness comes from them being over protective and I feel if they get to know the person first and they like the person then there's no need to protect you from that person and they might allow it, unless they are just racist then there's nothing you can do about that besides stand up to your parents and tell them it's your life and you should be the one to choose who to spend that time with.

[Anonymous]

It’s really your choice but obviously you’ll have to deal with your parents with your decision and so will he , if you were really interested in him you could have just dated him, doesn’t mean you’re going to marry him

[Asker]

Yeaa but he wants to marry me

[Opinion Owner]

That’s a big step either way and it’s definitely harder when it’s interracial dealing with outsiders, I’ve done it and it was different

[Asker]

Yeaaa it's hard on both sides

[Opinion Owner]

It’s unfortunate but it’s more trouble than it’s worth

[Asker]

Wymm by that

[Opinion Owner]

That people can’t just be with whoever they want without it concerning other people around them and even strangers

[jahaims]

Of course it's your fault. You are an adult who let's your parents dictate who you date.

[ChooChooHaha]

Yes it is.
Why do your parents have to approve?

[Anonymous]

Your parents are right

[Asker]

What makes you say that?

[Opinion Owner]

It is not the color of his skin. It is the culture that follows it which is way different than yours which would eventually create many problems along the way specially when families get involved.