My heart is messed up and I’m not sure what to do?

[kclark30]

My heart is a bit messed up. I’m in love with my ex-boyfriend. He loves me and we keep in touch. We are both struggling with toxic and narcissistic relationships. His was a breakup and he suffered 7 years. Mine was a marriage that was 7 years. I don’t think we will ever get back together, I think more than anything we will just be friends. I’m trying to move on, but it’s hard. I found a man I like, and he’s not perfect but he’s ok. I spend time with him and most of the time it’s great. Sometimes I cry out of pure emotion. I have no idea if it’s from my divorce or because I’m not with my ex-boyfriend. It’s really embarrassing though. I don’t know what to do?

[Nawlins34]

My opinion, you need counseling. You crying because you haven't gotten over anything.

Read your list:
You still aren't over your ex-boyfriend
You had a whole marriage and divorce
Then you started ANOTHER relationship?

You need to be single, logoff this site, go to counseling and find out who you are and what do YOU like outside of dating?

The most important thing for you is to process your emotions and start a healing process and figure out who kclark30 is as a woman.

Stop starting relationships and looking for happiness. You need to heal.

Just my take, sad reading this. Be safe and good luck.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm really sorry for how you feel. There is no easy solution to this. How long after your divorce were you on your own before you started dating again?

[HelloSofi97]

Before you jump into anything new you need to sort out your emotions with a professional. If you don't, you're only going to be self sabotaging future relationships and hurting innocent people.

[UniquelyBasic]

Get professional help to sort out all of your emotions. Im not even going to try to unpack everything that's going on.

[Massageman]

Be up front with your situation with Mr Newbie. If he's a good guy, he will work it out with you and not hold it against you.