I think a stripper likes me but I’m not sure?

[Chris_8806]

Met a stripper my first time going to a strip club after a break up. Immediately felt a connection to a specific girl I saw on stage and asked her for a dance. Told her it was my first time and we really connected (obviously 😒) Saw her the next week and paid for vip and told her I really like her and want to get to know her. We talked a lot and made out in the vip room and a lot of rubbing and touching but no sex which is fine.. later that night she sat with me just to hang out for the rest of the night until I left. I got her snap chat before I left. Exchanged a few texts for a couple weeks. Then she told me when she’s working next, saw her this pst Monday and it was not busy at all, I only came to see her and we talked the whole time I was there. She told me a lot of emotionally intimate things about her and even shared that she has a lot of mental health issues (depression, anxiety, adhd) I feel like we connected most this time, I paid for a dance which she said she felt bad to making me pay but I told her I wanted to kiss her. When we went in the back we just made out the whole time while she sat on my lap. After I left she texted me on Snapchat that she’s happy she saw me and we have been talking all day today. During my last visit with her I asked her what reservations she has with seeing me outside of the club and she said she had a situation ship with a man she has known for years that is on its way out which is stopping her, also she is finishing her day job and said she wants to get everything in order before she thinks about going in a date with me. I really think this girl is into me, bc of how she was acting during our last visit. She was hugging me and holding me. Kissing me and telling me emotionally intimate things about her. I’m going to give it a month and if she doesn’t see me outside of the club I’m going to just let it go. But I’m just wondering if this behavior is normal for strippers. Or am I being played.

[nitsuj86]

Well, the thing is man, you have made it very hard for yourself. How can you tell if this woman actually likes you, if you are acting like one of her customers? You are paying her to get naked for you, make out with you, and flirt with you essentially.

The overall rule of thumb. Strippers don't like you... and even if they do. Their job is to dance, grind, and be naked in front of a bunch of other guys, one of which is you. How do they make more money? They pretend to like the guy, and he shells out more cash, coming back more and more, instead of just going that one night. Happens all the time. But I'm sure there are some guys they like, be real with yourself. Are you THAT guy? If you had a lot of luck with women, I doubt you would be considering this one, so I'm going to guess that you are not THAT guy.

You want to see if this girl really likes you. Invite her out for a real date. A nice dinner somewhere. Don't go to the club anymore... Your last day in that club was yesterday.
Your job should be to form a relationship with this woman outside of the club, and eventually get her to quit. Unless you are fine with that. Most guys would not be. But does SHE want to quit is the question.

All of these are things you should have considered, and you should keep in mind if you move forward. Also, the fact that she is in any sort of "situationship" that she is telling you about, is a bad sign. I say run, you do what you want.

[Chris_8806]

This has been the most helpful answer so far. Thank you for actually analyzing my post and giving me an informative answer

[nitsuj86]

Strippers are still women, they will like some of the guys.

I had a friend from college that is a stripper. I commented on one of her photos one time when I was single, she asked me to come to the club. I was not stupid, I knew what was up, but I always wanted to see her naked. So I went. She didn't want to ask me to do a private dance, but I was at a strip club so I did it. But I knew that would be it.

We talked and hung out a bit the rest of the night, then I left. The thing is, she is hot and nice, but also 6 years older than me, has a kid, and chooses to be a stripper along with a lot of other lifestyle things that I don't really respect. She acted like she was interested in me, and asked if I would date a woman with a kid, and I was honest. I said it would depend, but I haven't in the past.

She tried texting me a few times after that to get my attention and get me to ask her out, but I never went for it for all the reasons I said above.

1. I don't want to raise someone else's kid, just a thing I have. Her circumstances were a bit different, the dad died, but I still find it hard to get past.

2. I know this girls past, she has had sugar daddies, used dudes for things, etc... I'm not so stupid to think I would be different

3. I would never date a stripper, porn star, or only fans girls. Fun sure, but the mother of my children is not gonna think it's ok to resort to any of that behavior just cause it's easier to make money that way.

[Chris_8806]

Update for you.. she hasn’t been really active talking to me on snap chat. I told her if I don’t talk to her again to take care of herself. She finally responded and said she likes me but I overwhelmed her. She has been so busy with her two jobs and doesn’t have any time for herself let alone another person. She said she feels bad she can’t give me what I deserve right now which is her attention bc of her being so busy.

She said in text everything she said is genuine but “this is a lot right now” maybe I came on too strong which I’m known to do. When I like someone. I let them know.

Then she said her emotions are all over the place and apologized again.

I told her I would give her space and I can’t see her in the club anymore. No when/if she’s ready to reach out to me and we can get to know each other. She said “for sure thank you so much💕” so we will see

I’m expecting to never hear from this girl again. She probably just let me down easy. But you never know

Thanks for your input 👍🏼

[nitsuj86]

Eh, you could have come on too strong, it happens. I have done it in the past. But what I have also realized, is that if a girl REALLY likes you. Like actually seeing a future with you, it's not gonna scare her off, she would just ask you to slow down, and continue to see you. Now, that's assuming you didn't say any crazy shit like I love you or anything like that.

YOU really liked this girl, and it's was coloring the way you see things between you and her. Sometimes it's hard to take a step back and ask yourself, does this person actually like me? Women pursue men they like, it might not always look the same, but they will be available to you, and make sure they fit you into their schedule. It's never a "bad time" for the "right guy". I've seen and heard it many times. I've been the guy on the other end, and I've been the guy saying it. It's just a nicer way to say I don't want to be with you.

It does sound like she was nice about it at least. I'm sure she has had a lot of practice delivering that speech though. You learned a lesson. Just remember it. You are right in thinking this girl is gone. And you should keep it that way. Even if she comes sniffing around again (she won't), I wouldn't take her seriously.

You shouldn't have to pay someone to get attention from them. Even when a woman isn't a stripper, if I have to spend money EVERY single time we hang out, and she never offers to pay for anything, or never spends any of HER money, never shows any appreciation, not even a bit, she would be gone.

[LikeALog]

Go the the club on a busy night when she's working. See who she sits with. Probably the guy (s) that are big tippers.
She is probably telling you a sob story so you feel sorry for her and will loan her some money.
I had a female friend that was a stripper. (I did not meet her initially at her club, but at a restaurant.) We became friends. She told me how some strippers manipulate guys to get money.
Beware.

[PrettyPriya]

Yep, you nailed it with that last sentence. You are being played. What would make you think otherwise. Her sole purpose is to please men and make money from it. Of course she is going to be nice.

Certainly worked too! You keep going back and I would assume spending more and more money on that entertainment. Now, I also see she has hooked you with a little backstory of this 'other' guy 'one his way out'.

That is just to keep you interested and coming back. My guess is that will never be resolved and she will keep you on the hook until you figure it out. If you ever do.

[Ms_Facesitter]

She likes... good customers. Her job is to be a people pleaser. You're being played.

[Stevepro68]

Well this is a year late but may help someone. girlfriend is a stripper and at one time I was a customer. She may be fond of you even attracted to you. She has to keep he RL self away from her work self. When we fell in love the work situation immediately disappeared. We became OTC only. Girls can't handle their boyfriend in the club long term. If they see you at work your still on the outside no matter home much she can make it feel like the inside.

[Fireguy17]

Ya right.
They know how to work the crowd and end up with your money.
You are not the first guy who has thought this, nor will you be the last.
They are there to make money, and not to have someone save them.
Just stay away before you lose your money and or your dignity.

[UniquelyBasic]

Thats what they do. They give you a good time so you come back.

[Staximus]

The easiest way to figure that out is don't give her any more money and see if she keeps talking to you.

[Wise4myage]

No, she just likes your money, but ask her out if you feel that strongly about her.

[Anonymous]

Hahah No dude... No.

She wants you to spend money on her.

[Anonymous]

They're paid to like you. It sounds normal for her to do this to every customer

[Guy13]

They loooooVE you🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑
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[LadyCroft]

omg! she likes your money dude

[Kichbazp_]

@how much strip club cost to you?