Does this stripper like me?

[Anonymous]

I went to my local club 2 nights ago. I was feeling fresh after not going for a while and I decided to contact my favorite dancer (she knows I have a crush on her). I told her that I would be there, so we both made plans to spend the night together.

So we get there and she tells me how nice I look, how muscular I got, and how I look different. I liked the compliments and I told her some as well. So fast forward, we got some dances and she was acting extra sexual and what not. But what tipped the iceberg was when she kissed me on my LIPS and allowed me to grab her "private area".

So yeah that threw me off a bit, we kept talking the whole night and people kept asking her for dances and it felt like she didn't want to go with them. It's her job so I respect that she gives dances to other customers.

So what do you guys think? Does she like me?

P. s. she has also bought me a drink and food while in the club.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

When I was younger, I dated a couple of strippers. I met them in the clubs they worked in.

Strippers don't like most of the people they interact with. This is for a variety of reasons. Most guys who show up at a strip club are some combination of douchebag, rude (potentially abusive), pompous, pathetic and/or creepy. There are guys who think being rich/intelligent/successful is impressive. There are White Knights who try to "save" strippers by offering to take them away from their miserable existence. There are guys looking to pimp them out. There are alcoholics who prefer to drink around naked women. There are guys who try to buy their affection. There are bikers and gang bangers and rednecks and Nice Guys who expect favors for being who they are. There are guys (usually older) who think strippers are prostitutes. There are college kids who think they're better than anyone who would work in a strip club. And once in a blue moon, there is a normal, relatively well adjusted guy.

The one thing that all of these guys have in common is that it's the stripper's job to get them to give her money in some way. They put up with the guy's bullshit in order to achieve this objective. Most of the time, this means making the customer think she likes him. It's a fascinating study in human behavior to watch some of the things they do to get guys to think this.

There is only one sure-fire way to know a stripper likes you: she meets you outside the club and does not try to get money or gifts from you.

[Asker]

From your experience, does the process of meeting outside the club take a while? Or is it relatively quick?

[Asker]

Does it make a difference if we talk on the pohone as Well?

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

I think it's usually more quick, but it depends on the individual. If I were you, I'd cut to the chase and ask her out. Yeah, she probably gets asked out by customers like 27 times every night but if she genuinely likes you...

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

re: talking on the phone: no. That's one of the tactics they use.

[Asker]

Oh I see.

[Asker]

So we setup a day this weekend to meet up outside the club. Is that a good sign?

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

Yes, it is. Now pay attention to whether or not she tries to get you to give her money or buy you things. Or, she could wait a while and hit you up later with a sob story about how she needs some large amount of cash quick for some reason.

If that doesn't happen, you're gold.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

*buy her things

[Asker]

Well she is going to show me the drawings she made for me; so I can use them for my school project. She was thinking about emailing them to me but she said it would be best to sit down in person so we can discuss what I like and or dislike. Not sure if this info helps at all.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

Well you should probably try to turn that into a date. Otherwise, it sounds like you're dangerously close to the friend zone.

Oh yeah, that's another thing with strippers. They don't consider what they do at work to count for much. Don't assume that because she's sexual with you there that she'll be sexual without outside unless you make a move like you would any other girl.

[Asker]

Ok got it. She just told me that she is excited to show me the drawings. That she has been working really hard on them and wants to really impress me. Does that signify anything Good?

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

I'd say so. Just play it smoove and you'll be fine.

[Asker]

Ok cool. She also texted me saying that we can turn this into a weekly meet up if I like. Not sure what's going on. She went from not wanting to hang out to all of a sudden wanting to see me.

[Asker]

I feel like I'm over thinking it haha

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

It's prudent to put some thought into it. Right now, you don't know what her motivation is. There are about five different potential reasons she might want to meet with you, from my experience, in decreasing likelihood:

1. She is cultivating you as a regular. If she meets up with you outside of the club, you'll think she's genuinely interested in you and that'll keep you coming back to visit her inside the club.

2. She wants to get you to give her money. She'll suggest going shopping or a trip to a casino or tell you her car broke down or her mom is sick or she needs money to get her kid back or she needs to pay tuition or she's late on rent or some other thing.

3. She's looking to be a Sugar Baby. Most likely without having sex with you.

4. She wants to be your friend.

5. She wants the D.

So, just show up and see what happens. Play it like a potential date unless it goes sideways.

[Asker]

Ok. I will update you how it went. Thank you for your help so far!

[Asker]

Ok so this is how the date went down:

She arrived before me and texts me if I would like anything to drink. I said of course. So when I arrive we do small talk and then she shows me the drawings for my project. She showed me about 5 pictures and ideas.

So the date goes and she says that she feels hungry. I offer to pay for the Food since she bought me a drink. She recommends me what food items to try so I order them and didn't like them. So she offers to eat them for me.

We talked about some personal topics as well. She talked about her family and her self. She told me her dislikes and vice versa. We scheduled another day to see each other.

So what do you think?

[Asker]

Oh another thing, she wore makeup and a dress. I've never seen her with makeup before. She also was teaching me how to draw a car and I can see her glancing at me through the corner of my eye.

[HungLikeAHorsefly]

Sounds like it went well. Full steam ahead, young man.

[Arbalest]

She likes you, yes. However that doesn’t mean she wants to date you.

I’ve heard from real strippers that they basically hate like 95% of customers in strip clubs. Men are horrible to them apparently.

So when they come across a guy who is kind and likable and attractive, they give him extra. Kissing, extra touching, you get more cuz you’re a good dude.

Will she date you? Probably not lol. I wouldn’t push it. However, It is possible to date a stripper. How? I don’t know. You probably gotta be a hell of a guy though lol. If you’re asking on here, you probably don’t have those player skills.

Ultimately I think you get extra benefits cuz she likes you but she probably isn’t into you enough to date, that’s a hard mountain to climb I think lol.

[Arbalest]

I’ve had a similar experience. Strippers will kiss me and let me feel them up but other guys have boring and shitty lap dances. I’ve fingered strippers before. One didn’t want to go on stage, so she gave me like 6 free dances in a row so she could hide and she stuck her hands in my pants and tried to make me cum for “letting” her stay and hide from the stage action lol. Being a genuinely good dude in a strip club is a big bonus I think just don’t expect them to date you lol.

I have a couple friends who are strippers, girls who got fit in the gym I go to and went on to be strippers lol. They basically confirmed all of this as true for me. Said they treat sweet dudes great and they give asshole guys as little as possible lol.

[Asker]

I'm not looking to date her. Maybe fool around.

[Asker]

So you think that there is a small chance then?

[Arbalest]

Welp, maybe. I’m not a player dude, so I can’t help you lol. But I think the potential is there. You won the first part of the battle, the next step is convincing her you are worth seeing outside of work. What experience can you bring to a stripper that she can’t already get anytime she wants? You gotta be a unique special interesting guy to get her to risk seeing you outside of work. I mean it’s potentially dangerous for one. But other than that you gotta show her you are worth it.

[Asker]

Yeah I get you man. Thank you for your advice! Just followed you for being so helpful.

[Asker]

So here is more info. I asked for her help with a school assignment. I can't draw for shit, so I asked if she would be willing to help me draw 4 drawings so I can submit my project. She said yes. Is that a good sign as Well? She isn't going to draw anything basic. She is going to use a drawing software.

[Arbalest]

That sounds awesome to me lol. I’ve heard of strippers giving out their info so they can text guys when they are working so they can get more money. But they will never agree or even talk about anything other than when she can be seen at work.

So you’re way ahead of the game man lol. At least as far as I can tell. It’s uncharted territory! You’re doing good. I’d suggest... keep being yourself, or doing w/e it is you’re doing cuz apparently it’s working.

[Asker]

Yeah at the beginning I was only able to talk about her schedule, but now we talk on the phone and text about ours days and etc. So hopefully that's good haha

[Asker]

She has told me some very personal info and I have as well. So hope I'm on the good track lol

[Asker]

I'm still not able to meet her outside, so I guess I need to keep trying harder or let her come to me?

[Arbalest]

Where is she gonna draw that shit? At the strip club?

[Asker]

At her home when she has free time

[Arbalest]

Ok so at this point you’re waiting to see if she will actually say yes and invite you over.

Well, the project has a due date right? So you can use that. It’s gotta be done by X day, if you want to help me it’s gotta be soon!” Or w/e put your own personality on it. I suppose you could just wait. If she never says anything do it yourself, show her next time maybe she will feel bad for not helping. Maybe she will see you didn’t harass her about it and think you’re not a desperate creep. I’m not sure what path is best lol.

[Asker]

Yeah I told her that I need a rough draft by this weekend. And the final draft next weekend. So yeah she is working hard on it, because she keeps asking me questions about it and seems stressed/nervous on the phone lol.

[Arbalest]

Oh is she drawing it for you at home in her spare time?

[Asker]

Yes.

[Asker]

So we got a date. I want to call it a date haha. She agreed to meet me outside the club so she can show me the drawings in person and sit down to talk about them.

[SarahsSummer]

stop paying her will be the best way to find out.

[Asker]

I didn't go to the club for two weeks. Prior to going she agreed to help me with my school project.

[SarahsSummer]

Ok? your point?

[Asker]

So I didn't "pay" her for those two weeks but yet she was still willing to help me with something really important. Maybe she may have an interest?

[SarahsSummer]

Are you saying you met with her outside of the strip club?

[normalice]

ask yourself if her actions have resulted in you giving her more money or less. My guess is going to be 'more,' and you are thus getting played.

[Asker]

I've been giving her less

[normalice]

she may be into you, then. ask her out?

[Asker]

I'm trying to see how to incorporate that into our normal convo. We text and we talk on the phone but I'm trying to ease into it. Does it make sense?

[normalice]

yeah. just tell her about stuff you do and if she seems interested in any of it, invite her along.

[Asker]

Got it! Thanks bro

[ARandomIndivual]

You are getting played. She might like you, but she seems to clearly like the Green dead presidents a lot more

[iFarted]

OMGGG SHE SAID THE SAME THING TO ME AND LET ME TOUCH HER TOO!!!
I also gave her a lot of money all the times I've seen her.

[H2OHydrox]

Wow. For once I’d say yeah, she might do.

[ShesAmerican]

no she dont want you