My best-friend wants to become a stripper?

[Anonymous]

We have been knowing each other for a few years now (most of high-school) and we are now getting ready to graduate in May. She has brought up, (so nonchalantly ) every now and then since this summer, that she wants to become a stripper. She still wants to attend a university but also wants to strip. I'm not sure of the exact reason why she wants to strip. I can assume that it would be to pay for school. I am not in support of her doing this. The only reason I don't support her stripping is strictly because I care a lot about her. She has been through a lot and I doubt the stripping industry will do her any good or better. I can understand if she thinks it will make her some extra cash and that is is probably really fun. However, she is just so young and still very pure to be considering such a degrading career. I know a few strippers personally, and many of them are hooked on drugs, have been victims of rape, and live a really sad life. My heart really does go out to them! But, I don't want my best-friend to be like that! She has to much potential to give elsewhere. She is so creative, intelligent, innovative and sometimes a little witty... tehehe

Anyways how do I tell her this without hurting her feelings or sounding old-fashioned?

[normalice]

You can't, really. Even if you are okay with hurting her feelings, she's still not going to listen. The perceived glamor and promise of easy money from stripping is simply too alluring to some people - particularly girls, who are often raised being told their physical beauty is their most important attribute. I suppose the only thing you can do is hound her about what she plans to do after her stripping career is over. Ask her and keep asking her. She doesn't want to think about it, and that is partially what is driving her decision to go into stripping - it's a way to coast through the here and now instead of planning for the future. She may acknowledge this and say she's only stripping to pay for college, but this is a common lie. If you really want to get involved, stay in touch and keep asking her how her courses are going, which courses she's taking, and so on..

All that said, it's possible her plans are solid. Paying for college with stripping is sound in theory, actually. It's just that people tend to get distracted by the lifestyle.

[BuenoLeche]

Strippers make great money. She's not fucking anyone. She's simply teasing them. I don't see anything wrong with it at all tbh. I find strippers pretty hot. Most women don't have the confidence to get on stage and showcase their bodies in the way they do. That body and sexual confidence turns me on a lot. I say you just let her do what she wants. I'm about to become a male stripper and know plenty of female strippers. It's mostly just young attractive people trying to get through college, unless you're working in the ghetto or something. And guess what? I don't do drugs and I have a degree. 😮 I know you're looking out for your girl, but it's really as shady as you think.

[BuenoLeche]

But it's not* shady

[Asker]

mhm, well I guess I have to consider what you just wrote.. Thanks for your opinion ! :)

[BuenoLeche]

Ahah np

[SarahsSummer]

You could introduce her to your personal friends who are strippers to show their plight, you could ask her why rather than to assume, better understand her interest in doing it, and you could tell her a friend of mine did it briefly to pay for her nursing school costs and is now a successful RN.
You also need to ask yourself, is she lazy, does she have a good mind, has she shown through the course of your relationship she’d rather take the easy way out or has she persevered to accomplish goals she’s set. All of these things are aspects to take into consideration for what’s best for her rather than your own moral beliefs on the profession.

[Asker]

wow, I'm going to consider that approach!! Thanks!

[Band_freak]

I would ask her why she wants to strip and bring up your concerns but ultimately it is her decision and she has every right to do what she want with hard life

[Asker]

Ok I'll try that! Thanks!!

[oddwaffle]

It really depends on the money. What you want is alternatives to the stripping and look solely at the results and not the moral aspect. Only results matters, everything else is mere decoration.

There are 3 ways for young, beautiful women to make a fair bit of money short term without a lot of skill training: escort, sugar baby and cam stripper.

I recommend the 3rd one as it is the most safe and give her control over the situation. Not sure about their income though.

Sugar baby is the lesser version of escort. You make less than an escort but you can be very selective of the guys to take in as sugar daddies. Expect around 1-3k per guy per month. More is rare.

Escort is probably the highest earnings if she is doing it right. 300k a year working part time whenever you want is a tempting offer but it's a fair bit more dangerous as you won't have a lot of time to get your clients.

[oddwaffle]

Also save and invest if she has money. Don't spend them. Save at least 30-50% of whatever she make. Throw it into the S&P 500 or total stock market ETF or just make an acorn account.

[Casmith]

All I can say is can you prevent her going in the direction of drugs even with her going in to stripping. This is going to sound very selfish friends come and go. Things change if that is what you feel but they want to do it. Perhaps you shouldn't be friends. It is simple.

[karandhingra]

u can discuss with her, like do a basic discussion with her

discuss its pros and cons, focus on cons more

if u feel its nt right for her, then tell her. She may feel bad for 2-3 days, but later on u will not feel guilty

[Darkener]

Tell her your thoughts on it. Other than that you can't do much other than try to support her decision

[MichaelEllwoodJ]

I would tell her upfront how you feel, and if she doesn't listen to you, then she will just have to learn herself. Hopefully she doesn't get raped or anything.

[smooth_viking]

There is nothing morally wrong with stripping. If you feel this way then tell her how you feel but don't ask or expect her to change her mind. If you try to hard, you might lose a friend.

[Sixgun77]

I've known a few peoole who were strippers. Them, and all the girls they worked with ended up on drugs and not having much money no matter how much they made.

[wickedone619]

It's good money, my little sister is a stripper and she's paying her own way through college and life.

[readywriter]

Maybe she needs just what you have to say. She better do it with her eyes open.

[Anonymous]

Excellent career choice. If I ever had a daughter I'd want her to be a stripper at least, at least a stripper

[QueenofCups]

Tell her just what you said above.

[Canadaman99]

She is her own person

[Iamaguy4real]

a lot of horny guy comments lol

[Jonathan_T]

Take her to meet your stripper friends

[anametouse]

Well... how good is her stripper name?

[royboydisturb]

Just follow your heart

[Anon-ymous1]

Is she hot?

[BleepRawrsaurus_Rex]

Just tell her

[mrthickshafts]

Awesoe

[Anonymous]

Hwr own decision