He doesn’t want me to have male strippers at my hen do, but he cheated on me before?

[Anonymous]

My fiancé has expressed that he does not want me to have male strippers at my hen do and said he probably won’t marry me if I do.

I have multiple issues with this:

1) I wanted strippers mainly because it’s tradition and I never intended to cheat or do stuff with the strippers. I just thought it’d be a fun thing to do with my friends. Also my group of friends won’t do anything with them anyway, we’re just not that type of people. It’s purely just for fun.

2) He was the one that cheated on me!!! He cheated on me at the very early stages of our relationship and long story short we made it work and now we’re happy and engaged. But I’ve forgiven him and he hasn’t stepped out of line since. But I just thought, it’s stupid of him to be upset about this when to be honest, I don’t think he even has the right to be upset or demand this of me when it’s not even that deep.

Do you agree with him or do you think I’m right for saying he has no right in telling me what do do on my hen do especially when I’m not even planning on doing anything with the strippers?

[BrookeAZ90]

If he'd give up the marriage over something like this, you can probably expect that he'd be willing to give it up later over a bunch of other small things. The cheating by him alone would probably stop me from ever marrying him. I think you both might want to discuss re-considering this.

[LazerBean]

The simple answer is don't marry a cheater. Ever. And if you do, don't be surprised when he does and says the most absurdly stupid things.

[LazerBean]

Although to be fair, nobody who wants strippers at a party should be getting married anyway. So in hindsight it actually seems like you two are pretty good for each other.

[LiamJHayden]

He messed around "early in the relationship" and you "made it work." Except you are bringing it up as an argument now, so you really didn't. You should end the engagement.

[Anonymous]

He cheated on you, and you want strippers, sounds like neither of you are mature enough to be in a relationship let alone married.

[Kelly6]

Starting to disagree from each other on early time.

should think before you take further actions.

you both don’t have good trust on each other so this relationship won’t last longer.

[Kelly6]

Nothing wrong to have stripper at your party just to have laugh and fun with your friends.

Tell him that he can also have female stripper at his party

[NotTacocaT6969]

Sounds like he’s controlling and does not trust you.


These are bad signs.

[Anonymous]

why the fuck are you with this guy? you better really think things carefully through before going through with any ceremony because this guy is a major red flag

[LimitedBenefits101]

Hopefully he dumps your stupid ass

[KrakenAttackin]

Why TF would you want strippers?

[NotTacocaT6969]

Are you from a country where men don’t go to the strip club for their bachelor parties?

Because in America, visiting strippers is considered a normal thing to do for a bachelor/bachelorette party.

[KrakenAttackin]

@NotTacocaT6969 It has always been tacky AF.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Yeah, so are most traditions.