In the morning, he woke me up because he was getting ready to leave and he said I had been snoring.. (lol so embarrassing). Then he was just standing like waiting for me to do something, but I just stayed in bed and said bye and he was like "ok..bye..." and after I woke up I got a text from him saying "so nice!" Why is he upset with me? I'm so confused... I asked him if he was upset but he said of course not and then he asked how my exam went...but then after I told him I was having a going away party and he should come and he just responded with "ok"...then yesterday I texted him saying "I want to see you :)" but he didn't respond.. what is his deal? What did I do wrong?
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You led him on. That's why he got mad. OK let's make things clear. Yes, he's acted quite inconsiderate and pushy - even self-entitled. But you acted poorly, so I can understand his frustrations. He seems young. An older, more mature man probably would have realized you guys were incompatible in what you were looking for and wouldn't have wasted his time dating you/ wouldn't have end up in such a cranky mood. I'll tell you how it's done, and you'll see.
You've dated this guy for 3 months. That's a loooong time. I've never dated someone for that long. Usually, I date a guy for a few weeks, well under a month, and it goes one way or another after that: things progress to an exclusive relationship OR the guy pressures for sex a little, and it becomes a casual no strings attached relationship based on physical intimacy. I can't really speak for his persistence. To me, you guys were dating casually and he was hoping he'd get sex with you if he was persistant and patient enough.
Length of dates. 9 hours is a reallly long date. Usually leads to physical intimacy. That's normal and expected, IMO. He brought you places, probably paid for dinner and all that yada. He's made huge effort. When you invited him over to ''watch a movie'' and ''study'', he wasn't expecting to do either of those things. That's code for fooling around in bed. No people dating can manage to actually watch a movie at home. It's impossible. Yes, you told him you didn't want to have sex. But you DID let him remove your clothes, underwear AND finger you. That's contradictory. Yes, I've done it too, I get it. But when you invite a guy over and you let him do all those things, you can't expect him to get sexually frustrated. If he invites you over and whatnot, I think it's a different story. ANYWAY, the rest is all silly immature game IMO. He was rude with the gum and all. He wasn't worth sex with you anyway, if he acted so poorly in the end. BUT you didn't even get up when he was leaving. That's really rude and selfish of you. Yeah, he played dick moves on you, but if you allow him to sleep over anyway, you should have the decency to say goodbye and give him a peck or something. Personally, if things went down like that, I would have just kicked the dude out. Wouldn't have to deal with the crap in the morning.
Oh and I'm sure your text got under his skin. Guys hate teasing girls and that I'm sure he got real irritated when you claimed you wanted to see him but didn't even lift a finger when he was leaving. I'd say don't expect you two to go out or date again. You screwed your chance but his intentions weren't the best either, so it's not a waste for either of you.