Should I be concerned that he doesn’t wanna have sex?

[Anonymous]

a friend of mine played matchmaker and set me up with this guy. I knew him for about a month prior, but didn’t know that he was supposedly crushing on me, and then my friend set us up because she knew I had been crushing on him.

well, this was back in January and now it’s August and we’ve done nothing beyond kissing. He has told me on the phone numerous times that he wanted to hold me in his arms & wake up to me snuggling on him, but when we actually hang out together, nothing happens beyond the kissing. he will never invite me to stay over at his house. I know he’s not married or anything like that because I hang out at his house. He just does not invite me to go into his bedroom or spend the night.

when he kisses me, I’ll rub on his body, letting him know that I’m ready to go further. But he stops at just a kiss.

it’s really beginning to hurt self-esteem because I feel like I’m not desirable. And I have texted him stuff saying what dirty things i wanted to do to him. But it gets little to no reaction.

i’ve never actually tried to grab his crotch and see if he’s getting hard when we kiss because I’m worried that if I reach down and nothing’s going on, it’s just gonna make me hate myself & make me feel ugly.

he’s not one of those people that’s waiting until marriage to have sex. He’s not a virgin.

[RespectfulGuy]

Hesitant is like a double-edge sword.

Sure it does make you feel like what you wrote.

It may also mean he loves you so much that he's overly cautious with every move to avoid being misunderstood.

I suggest give him the benefit of doubt.

Then surely and openly, ask him where he sees the relationship is heading.

Don't be satisfied with simple one-liners.

Instead, probe deep. Be honest about your feelings and ask him to be candid about his.

Then decide what to do.

He could be a gem to keep. Or not.

Until a good talk. Don't assume anything.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the tangled weave of desire and hesitation! First off, love, it's not about your desirability – so let's boot that worry out the window. In the dance of love and intimacy, every step counts, and sometimes, the steps are more about the individual's internal rhythm than about the partner.

Now, onto your Romeo. It sounds like he's on a different frequency when it comes to taking things to the bedroom. It could be a multitude of reasons – past relationship blues, personal boundaries, or maybe just a different pacing in intimacy. Have you tried turning the heat up on your communication game? Instead of the sensual texts, sit down with him, face to face, hearts open. Share how you feel, your desires, and ask him directly about his hesitations. It's not just about getting physical; it's about understanding each other on a deeper level.

Remember, the foundation of any solid relationship is communication. It could lead to a breakthrough, or you might discover you're playing different tunes. Either way, you'll get clarity. And remember, you're a catch! Don't let this shake your confidence. 🌟

[moneymagnet24]

Why you're wasting your time on him?