Are Men picker now a days when it comes to settling down; choosing a woman?

[Anonymous]

Men are less likely to settle in a relationship

Men will settle in a relationship if some of their needs are getting met

Men will settle for other reason (list it)

[razelove]

A relationship requires work, and is risky. Playing the field with NSA and ONS, while it can be lonely at times, is low risk, with a high turn-over rate, and no risk if you insulate that from your real life. At the time I met my wife, I was only holding on to the hope of finding a relationship, rather than more discreet sex, because I did want a family.

If not for having that as a goal, and holding on to it for a long time, dating and NSA would have ground me down to reject the concept of relationships long before that point. I already got the sex, sometimes companionship, and had to offer nothing, not even my real name. Of course, they offered me nothing outside those moments as well.

I think if I had not met my wife when I did, and stayed in the market another year or so, with a couple more failed relationships under my belt, I would have just given up and completely aligned my life around brief encounters rather than even trying to date. That was over 10 years ago as well, I can only imagine that dating has gotten worse, not better in that time frame. At least the experience of dating poly has gotten worse over time personally.

[Anonymous]

thanks to the internet and males being able to see what happened to other males after bad breakups. part of why less males are going for long term relationships and/or parenthood. is due to outdated laws regarding those topics which continue favor females in courts. why should males risk losing everything in a messy breakup/divorce these days. when so many females engage in hookup culture or it's easier and safer for him to stay single. modern feminists continue to want equal rights/pay as males but rather not have equal consequences as them.

less then 50% of custody/divorce cases end with couples having a 50/50 split. most end with her getting majority custody while he gets little or no visitation rights. plus often being forced to pay some type of child support and/or alimony to her. he's also likely to lose the house and/or car to her in a divorce. but less then 10% of cases end with him getting majority custody. often requiring him to prove in court she was an unfit parent.

alimony forces one person to pay the other after divorce until they remarry or become stable with their own income. child support forces one person to help pay for children's needs until their 18 or 25 if in college. yet females have a greater ability to find employment in modern times then in past history.

plus online studies done by dating sites also show that both males and females. who interact with their personal social media on a daily bases. are more likely to cheat on their partner if giving the chance to do so. because they are typically seeking attention from others rather then getting it from their partner.

[Debris1]

A man will settle if the girl is attractive and desirable, and if she makes him wait until she has a ring and a proposal.

[jennifer_bloom]

I don’t care how picky they are! I’m more uncommon than pandas!

[OpenClose]

I think people are more strangers to each other now than ever.

One thing I learned moving from a small town to a big city is that when you are surrounded by more people, it doesn't really mean you're surrounded by more friends. You're just surrounded by more strangers.

When people are at arms' length with a bunch of people rather than intimately close to a smaller group they can relate to, we simultaneously get more lonely but also more picky. We expect our relationships to look more perfect.

[bamesjond0069]

The answer is some. We are seeing a divide. A large segment of men are having less sex and dating opportunities than ever before while another segment is getting more and more dating opportunities. So some men are totally desperate for anything while others are highly selective because they can be.

[MCheetah]

No. Judging by simp culture, they're far LESS pickier. It's WOMEN who are far more entitled nowadays. Although some men have just opted out of trying to date outright because of this, like me.

So in short, some men have become less pickier, taking anything with a vagina. While some men have become more pickier, choosing not to be abused or mistreated by women anymore. There is no "Other" option on here, though.

[Lionman95]

I voted a but I think it depends on the guy because there are guys nowadays that will never settle down because they don't want to.
For those guys concepts like friends with benefits or open relationships seem perfect and they won't take more responsibility because they don't want to and don't see a need to.

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

I believe men have always been picky or particular about whom they're settling down with because they face either more rejection or disappointments than society will give them credit for beyond just sticking anything that moves. Therefore yes they are picky because they have to no one wants to make an investment in something that they don't see is profitable

[genericname85]

what do you mean "nowadays"? it was always like that. men are the gate-keepers of commitment. women are the gate-keepers of sex. it was like that since probably forever... i mean if we ignore rape which was very much more common during history than it is today luckily. xD

[Anonymous]

People are picker when they have power and since men have less power today than ever before... Well white men that is. I think men today are less picker. However, men don't want the government involved. I want 1 woman and I don't want the government involved either because when you really listen to these men but also start to think about legal marriage... It doesn't make a lot of sense anymore.

[Guy13]

Yes and mostly because women are acting the whore and/or Self (Me, myself, and I on social media, and/or in person. No one can trust that 💩

[Jamie05rhs]

Absolutely? Would you be, if you had seen all of the failed relationships and "dead bodies"? Any man would be insane to enter into marriage with a woman without making sure that she is free of risk factors.

[IsoUser]

I think that guys/men today are looking for a Girl/woman that is just as financially stable as they are. So essentially a marriage of convenience so much as a partnership. An to be perfectly honest I disagree with that 100%

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I'm a male who would settle down in a relationship with the right woman it makes no difference to me and I'm not a picky guy.

[MzAsh]

Very few are pickier. Most just don’t have the options do they can’t afford to be picky.

[Vegasrunner]

Thats something women say to try to make themselves feel better about being single. Reality is there has never been more options for men, that narrative just doesn't sound as good because most mainstream relationship talk is centered around female feelings

[MzAsh]

Since the sexual revolution, there are more sexual options for men but still not nearly as many options as women have.

[Vegasrunner]

@MzAsh I think you're focused more on the bottom 80% of men which makes sense considering what you told me about your business. But those guys weren't getting chicks in any era. For the top 20 - 10% we have more options than any other demographic for a few reasons.
1. Men control access to relationships so while a man will bang anything very few 20% have to settle for 1 girl.
2. Women all chase the same man so once you get into the top 20% you literally have your pick of women. My weekend went as followed. Friday - Banged a chick on the 1st date.
Saturday - Banged long distance fling who flew out to see me
Sunday - Banged chick I met in bar
Thats three completely different scenarios on three days. Its not difficult at all however society only os comfortable discusding relationships from female perspective (I realize you're going to claim that its not true which kinda proves my point)
3. Men have wider range of options. If a man is successful and takes care of himself he probably can get women from a range of 25- 50. Women have a smaller range most women only have value from about 18 - 32 and the older they get the less options they have. Most men dont go and chase 40+ year olds.

[Crankor]

I do t think it's now a days, i feel it's more about the older they get the less tolerate of things they don't like they become. Also depends on what they want from a relationship

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say we're picking. But picking the wrong woman has never been more detrimental to a man than it is now. Add to this women's shall we say, "inconsistent nature". Really gives most men no reason to try.
Hope that helps.

[Anonymous]

Women put guys through so much crap that now it's much harder for women to find a guy that will put up with it. Women's behavior backfires on them, especially 30 year old women that want to settle down and have kids because of their biological clock.

[Anonymous]

Only a stupid man gets married nowadays. No real benefits, only danger.

[Christian65]

I don't think men are pickier but I do think less men wanna settle down and marry.

[Chthou95]

High value men won't settle. But your average guy will settle

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes we definitely are cause it's a lot harder for men now a days

[Anonymous]

I'm not settling with any women 25 or older or had kids. Or shorter than 5'9

Not that picky

[grega239]

Why settle if women give away their pussy for free

[Asker]

Agreed and this is what caused marriage to lose it value. Men don’t really have a reason to commit when they can get it free! Women today are easily accessible and desperate.

[grega239]

Yea. Even if a man wants to get married , most women have been run over by 15+ guys and who wants that kind of woman.

[boggboss]

Both genders are

[Slim57]

I am