Do men or women "settle" more often?

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As time goes by those high standards begin to drop!Do men or women "settle" more often?

PeiPei627 · Accepted Answer

it really depends on the woman, but you definitely can tell if they accept a guy or something less than their expectations.

I don't think women will tell you directly they've settled, and I think most people communicate this way, in an indirect way, but they will say 'my guy won't stick up for me when it counts' or 'he disregards on things that are important to them (ex: my shoe collection or not calling me back when her guy said he'd call back or something').

I think (and I may get major backlash for saying this but.) that most people do settle for less, whether they are guy or girl. I won't .stick as close to people I know when they 'accidentially' goose me, inappropriate talk to me, make fun of me and etc. Most of the time people make mistakes, but when you notice that the things they do is part of their character and they won't adjust for you.it doesn't show they really care what you think nor bother to see the importance of what is important to you, what is really important to you, even it may be something small. And if you see someone put up with someone who doesn't care what is important to that person.then you know for sure they have settled for less.

ex: my coworker.yes.he 'accidentally' goosed me and would time to time talk inappropriately around or to me.but he nonetheless adjusted for me.and quickly too! and he kept adjusting for me.I don't know many people in my life who would do that for me.specially when it is someone I barely know. I would have remained in contact and be friends with him.but he.i guess wasn't interested enough or willing to do that with me.so you move on.

PeiPei627 · Accepted Answer

i don't think men are willing to put up with as much than women.  Women will put up with crying babies, carry a child for 9 months, take care of the house, a business - all at the same time.  I just don't see men would stick around for that, at least for most.  So I think women are more likely to settle, because they are willing to put up more.  They will put up with abuse from their husbands or boyfriends, and well, I could make other examples, but I'm not sure for men in general.

princess25sarah · Accepted Answer

Sad but true. It's really not right either. I don't think anyone should settle. I'd rather be alone than miserable

AmeriCanadian · Accepted Answer

Sadly, I'd have to say that women tend to settle more often than men. I think this may be in part because a lot of girls in their prime tend to keep 'holding out for a hero' if it will, wanting their knight in shining armor and shunning / leaving every guy in their wake in their quest to find that ultimate partner that's absolutely flawless. Sure, some guys have this habit too, but it's almost 80% more women I find.

By the time they come to realize that they probably have already let go of so many other guys for possible trivial reasons (usually at the time friends are with guys), a lot of these women cave into simple peer pressure and try to hook up with a guy as quickly as possible, sometimes even throwing all ambition and standards out the window to do so. No offense ladies, but I haven't seen a guy do this before, though many of us simply just want to find a woman who understands that they can't change who we are, and us them; to accept our flaws as something that we will TRY to change, but cannot be done overnight and not without your support.

Of course this isn't vast majority here, the same can be said about 'guys who leave their pregnant girlfriend,' it's just not completely true. I personally can't stand guys who can't man up and take care of their children, no matter the cost, simply because they 'want to have a good time'.

GoodManDave · Accepted Answer

Depends on the definition of settling.

Some 20 year old girl who craves a wealthy bad boy rocker type might thing a woman in her late 20's or early 30's is settling when she stick with a guy who has a stable job, a kind heart, and average looks. That doesn't mean that they are.

You can settle for what you want, or what you need, or even what you should have.

In my opinion, a girl who takes a bad boy (where the guy is nasty or abusive) because of money or looks is settling, but in a different way.

We males do it too, but usually less. I think generally speaking, we're less willing to put up with cheating, abuse or other craziness that women tend to stick with more on the male side.

Plus I think a lot of guys a complain less or don't care about certain aspects. She's a slob? Usually a guy doesn't mind. He's a slob? He better change right away. She leaves the toilet seat down? Who cares, just put the seat up. If a guy leaves the seat up, it often becomes world war 3. Girl isn't pulling in 40,000 a year? That's ok, she can stay at home. Guy doesn't pull in 40,000 when he just got laid off? Dump the loser!

I think there are so many factors that would make this a tough question to answer, and I think it depends on the person, more than the gender.

John-Bee · Answer

I have seen where women settle more often for a lot of reasons. Sometimes they are just looking for a father for their kid or they find that Mr. Right was two guys ago & he is now taken. I knew a girl who just wanted a guy she was a bit lonely and wanted sex so bad that she told me that looks weren't that important anymore. NO I would not have sex with her or be FWB's with her because I knew that she would become attached to me & there was no chemistry. She just wasn't the girl for me. I did take her to lunch or dinner and spend some time with her listening to her but in the long run that was a mistake because she kept after me to give her a jump.

It turned out I was a butt hole in her eyes (for being nice) & wouldn't give her what she wanted.

John-Bee · Answer

NO they don't tell you! Do you want to hear that looks are not that important.

I have two friend that are girls and I KNOW that they both settled.

Girl A settled on a guy 14 years older than her because he had a house & a decent job. She didn't really have anything to her name not even a car. So she saw what this guy had (material wise) and settled for him.

Girl B was sooo desperate just to be with a guy that wasn't a looser that she also settled for a guy that had a steady job. I remember she told me that at this point in time looks were not that important.

I guess if these guys are good to them & provide what they need emotionally & material wise, well then it's their decision so what's the difference?

hedwidandtheangryowl · Answer

i think many guys are willing to stay single for a long time/forever.

there is much more of a stigma around being a single woman over 35. if you're a woman and you're single, there's something wrong with you.

plus, if you're a man you've got like a 50-50 chance of just getting hotter as time goes on.

ih82w8 · Answer

To tell you the truth settling is no different from compromising. It's a series of trade offs or concessions you are willing to make in order to gain a better outcome than you could have hoped for with out doing so.

So to answer your question, everyone settles weather they want to admit it or not. The only one I can see as an exception is a monarch. Which reminds me, "It's good to be The King".

-quote from Mel Brooks, History of the World, Part 1

brunohusker · Answer

Usually bad looking guys have to settle. Better looking girls usually think because a guy is not good looking that he's lazy or stupid or creepy or just plain wierd, and thus we have to settle with less attractive girls. I mean even nice girls have told me "i like you, but you are just too average" So I'll probably have to settle with some girl who's a little on the unnatractive side

justme45 · Answer

Yes. I think so. In the beginning they have high standards. But those high standards are a lot sometimes.When they "lower " their standards. Its because they start to see that they are asking for a little much and NOBODY is PERFECT!

dohcrwd · Answer

i think men settle often,

look at your dad, he was one a strong young man, who give up freedom to married your mom and give up the Maserati because of you. and he trade freedom for a lifestyle that he is not happy about.

Anonymous · Answer

I think women settle, because by the time they realize what they want in a guy, it's often to late to find that perfect guy.  Women at younger ages generally don't know what they want in a guy and always go with the asshole type that they find interesting. Later on, when they want to settle down and start a family, they realize all the great guys in their life they shunned away are gone and then are forced to settle for something less of their dreams.

vsss223 · Answer

women settle more often then men. You never hear a guy talking about his biological clock ticking do you?

Anonymous · Answer

I think women settle more than guys. I cannot pin point a particulal reason why but I guess it comes down to things like the biological clock - she wants kids and mr. right is taking too long to show up etc.

forsakensoul · Answer

I think women settle a lto more than guys do. Most women just think that they can't get any better man.

lildessie3 · Answer

women definalty settle more unless they are whores and stuff like that obviously

Anonymous · Answer

Women want relationships more, so they'll date a guy they don't want to sleep with and/or don't love because he is so in love with her that she feels obligated.

Hercules · Answer

I would say women, but I think it's hard to tell because I've never dated a guy.

Elle0214 · Answer

I don't know why men/women have low standards now. I defently think women settel more tho.

EnglishGentleman · Answer

Women because they are more responsible.

Jamerz · Answer

its  sad but I know so many more girls who settle

Anonymous · Answer

I think that women settle more often

Anonymous · Answer

Women settle more often than men

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