Who settles more in relationships: men or women?

[Vegasrunner]

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JHAYES317 Also not sure if you picked up on this but she makes the claim one of the requirements is that she "has to be attracted to them" Howver when you articulate to her what those attraction requirements are @thatsgydork claims "it could mean anything else. This again highlights female incongruency and the fact that even they don't understand what they are

[Serkee]

It often depends on age. When we're young, men settle more as we don't tend to have much wealth, status, or stability to provide. Women tend to settle more and more as they get older as they lose their youth, beauty, and fertility. That's where we get the phrase "men age like fine wine, and women age like milk" from.

I know it sounds superficial, and it sucks, but them's the breaks.

[Vegasrunner]

@Serkee Agreed

[Anonymous]

these days? it's men who are settling

not every man is going to be a tall, rich, handsome athlete

most men would end up in blue-collar jobs like construction, plumbing etc.

on a socio-economic level, men have always been the same since the dawn of time due to meritocracy

but every woman can be a fit, feminine housewife

instead women are destroying their own value in so many ways yet still believe they're too good for the average man

to be honest, a bus driver (despite his low status) is actually too good for a stripper who goes to law school

so as far as who's settles more in relationships? it's men

[thatshydork]

Of course there are people who settle no matter their gender.

However, I have been told that my standards are too high. My standards are that he’s a Christian, gets along with both our families and friends, a gentleman, tries to be kind to everyone around him, and that I am attracted to him. Not too hard of an expectation to reach.

[Vegasrunner]

@thatshydork Lol, I can see why people tell you that. This is an excellent teaching tool for men. So the standards that you provided are only a component of your standards, what you have left out, (which is what women tend to do) is you also want this guy to be
- Taller than you
- Financially successful
- Intelligent
- Handsome
- Straight
- Charismatic
- Physically Fit
- Non Criminal
- Monogamous
In addition to that this man has to like you. The odds of finding such a man are small hence why they say your expectations are top high.

[thatshydork]

One, you don’t get to tell me what I look for in a guy. I legitimately did not leave anything out aside from monogamy. To me, monogamy is a no-brainer. Whether you believe me or not, that’s not my problem. My expectations are not too high, if you cannot reach them then take a good long look at yourself because I’m just looking for a good guy.

[thatshydork]

Two, don’t assume anything about me. You know nothing about me aside from what you’ve seen on here. You don’t know me.

It’s clear that you came at me with some bias even if you don’t realize it.

[Vegasrunner]

@thatshydork I'm not telling you, I'm telling men that may read this. I understand that the requirements you post are not equivalent to your actual requirements. I intentionally added monogamy, because I knew that would be one that you would be willing to admit to. This only proves that what women tell you isn't actually what they are attracted to. Men don't need to look at themselves, they simply need to choose a better woman.

[Vegasrunner]

@thatshydork I've been w/ over 400 women and have had an opportunity to listen to thousands more. You are no different.

[thatshydork]

Yeah, ok. I highly doubt that but whatever, it’s none of my business.

[Vegasrunner]

@thatshydork You "doubt that" because you're a product of your environment. The men you know are low value and can't accomplish that so in your head the bar for sexual success is low.

[thatshydork]

No, I doubt that because of your attitude.

[Vegasrunner]

@thatshydork Lol, this is another great example of female hypocrisy you just wrote a book crying about how I "know nothing about you" yet pretend that you know me. You doubt it because accepting it would provide real world exprience that disproves your backwards opinion. In reality, I've been w/ infinitel more women then length of time you've been claimed by a man. You're a novice about this subject which is why you fail to substantiate your bizarre claim.

[thatshydork]

I literally just said “because of your attitude” as in your attitude towards me🙄

[Vegasrunner]

@thatshydork Which only validates thatthos is subject matter you are not educated in.

[JHAYES317]

@thatshydork by attracted to them, that could mean “tall, big d, ripped, and charismatic” which are not so low standards…

[thatshydork]

🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[thatshydork]

@JHAYES317 or it could mean anything else.

[JHAYES317]

@thatshydork really? You’d be attracted to a bald dwarf with a micropenis?

[SugarSugarplum]

Since there are no perfect men OR perfect women, everyone who picks another person settles.

[AI Opinion]

Diving right into the heart of the love debate! 💘 The question of who settles more in relationships, men or women, is like asking who's better at the game of love—it's complex and varies from one situation to another. Each sex might settle for different reasons: men may prioritize physical attraction and settle when they feel they're not going to get someone who checks all their boxes, while women might prioritize emotional connection and security, settling when they feel those needs won't be met. It's less about gender, more about individual desires, and fears. Remember, the goal should be not to settle, but to find that electric connection that makes you say, "This is why I waited!" 🔥

[Sonorous]

Women. Since women have higher standards, by definition, they settle more.

[Anonymous]

It depends who has the power in the sexual marketplace. Before about age 30, that is generally women, so men settle more during those years. After about age 30 the tables turn and it is men who have the upper hand, so women settle more after age 30. It all evens out in the end.

[Vegasrunner]

@anonymous Agreed

[meepmeeperton]

My opinion is that women believe they are settling for the men they have relationships with more than they actual are settling. They tend to have an inflated concept of being able to do better than whatever guy they chose.

[KrakenAttackin]

Women think they settle after Chad has rearranged their guts a thousand times than ghosted them. When she wants kids and a free ride she "settles" for Mr Simp, stays with him for an average of eight years before divorcing and destroying him.

[DrPepper12]

No. Just no.

[Unit1]

Is this really a question?

[noohair]

80/20 Rule

Men decide if the 80% good in a relationship is worth the 20% bad and take the 80% and deal with the 20%. Women take the 80% and go to work on the 20%. Result, broken relationships because the only person you have any chance of changing is yourself.

[FordRoger]

Both do but for different reasons. If a man doesn't have what it takes to attract women and has fewer options, he can't be too picky. If a woman spent too much time with a boyfriend that'll never marry her and she's 32+ years old, she will likely settle for an older marriage-minded man she's not in love with.

[Vegasrunner]

@FordRoger The question who settles "more" both is not an applicable answer. Also it's worth noting that for the female you assigned a tangible metric. 32+ spending "too much time" w/ a boyfriend while for the man you provided an intangible metric. "Have what it takes" do you u derstand that that alone implies females settle more?

[FordRoger]

The short answer is both genders settle but for different reasons. No one settles more.

[Vegasrunner]

@FordRoger So you're saying you don't know. How many women have you been with?

[FordRoger]

I've been in 3 long-term relationships.

[FordRoger]

I have no problems attracting women myself just like I got no issues dedicating on myself when I want to.

[Vegasrunner]

@FordRoger Lol, oh God no offense but you're extremely inexperienced in this matter. If you've only been w/ 3 women why do you think your qualified to make a general statement about women?

[Vegasrunner]

@FordRoger You're 34 yours old and have only been with 3 woman society says you have a huge problem attracting women.

[FordRoger]

No offense but why would I need to be with 20+ women or more in order to be considered experience? It's not the quantity that counts but the quality and the experience itself. I only got close friends that speak about their situations at times. I know another friends that admitted to cheating for no reason. Being aware of your environment, having close friends and communicating with both genders helps you gain experience.

[FordRoger]

What if those relationships lasted for long years and I simply don't cheat? Who is society to dictate how I should live my life anyways? Does society help me pay the bills or contribute to anything useful to the community? NOPE

[Vegasrunner]

@FordRoger Great question. I didn't say anything about 20 or more however we'll ignore that. For starters most women prefer men that are more experienced than them. Secondly men are judged by quantity, partly because if you are HV enough getting beautiful women is pretty ez, and I realize u don't like this but there are far more beautiful women than HV men and there are plenty of real world examples that demonstrate this. Your friends part is only relevant if you believe no one else has friends. To give you a straightforward answer you're not experienced because you have only been involved w/ a limited number of women so you are programmed to believe what they tell you. Howver if you had an opportunity to interact w/ thousands of women, and skeep w/ hundreds of them you would know what most women actually respond to. I don't think it matters so much for your personal relationship but it is a bit disingenuous when someone who hadn't proven that they understand women is attempting to provide advice about women to men.

[Vegasrunner]

@FordRoger It still means that you are programmed by one women and if u knew anything about women you would understand that in general they are delusional optimist, who attribute everything to themselves what that means us that you may understand your one women but u don't understand women in general. You don't have to personally care about society howver you're volunteering information on a public form (society) w/ the expectation that people will look to your perspective as a successful strategy. Reality is your strategy had only provided you with access to less than a handful of women, while mine has lead to to hundreds. If men want options and the opportunity to select the women thar they give their time to society deems my strategy is better or do you think all women are the same?

[Anonymous]

In the past I would have said women settled more than men, but today it's the opposite. Few women today compare to women of the past in terms of the value they bring to a man's life. Women tend to not see it that way because they measure their own value based on things that are unimportant to men, and they overlook or ignore the qualities that men actually care about.

[Joshydavid25]

Both... Guys will get with any girl they find fairly attractive... Women will do the same just on a more complicated level.. Most people get within their range of "value".. Whether it be looks, status, intelligence, etc...

[Emmytexrex]

Let me tell you something in a relationship no matter how both of them love each other one of them will love one more than the other that's reality and facts so it depends on the individuals not gender

[OtterMan68]

women, they are under more pressure to settle down. This may be why there are more likely to end up in abusive relationships

[Anonymous]

I would say man because men normally don't have as much options or choices as women do because women naturally have abundance by default because they have always had the luxury of being on the receiving end of sexual attention

[ICanSmellTheCosmos]

At least in the West, I reckon that men settle more. It's disheartening what we're expected to accept as far as mate quality is concerned.

[Anonymous]

Men of course. Most men do not have the luxury of being picky.

[blueonblack22]

Should have made it a poll.

[paledreams]

Men 😆👀 - or those who are... heavier 🫣🤗

[JHAYES317]

Unless they are conventionally attractive, men

[wiltingrosepetal]

Women

[Vegasrunner]

@wiltingrosepetal Why do you believe that?

[wiltingrosepetal]

At around 35, single women are reaching the end of the timer and they just want a family. That's when they're forced to settle for someone they'll likely be doing chores for for years to come. Women are known for having high expectations which means we suffer more let downs, and have to give up on those dreams when reality hits. You dont really settle when your standards weren't too high to begin with

[Vegasrunner]

@wiltingrosepetal All good points.

[impalabill77]

In my experience women do.

[DrPepper12]

Women.

[Vegasrunner]

@DrPepper12 How so?

[DrPepper12]

Women are more healthier, educated, wealthier, in a professional career as opposed to an uncredentialed job, have often acquired substantial savings ir real property.

[Vegasrunner]

@DrPepper12 TY for sharing but I don't know what that has to do w/ the question. Perhaps you responded to the wrong question, I'm asking why do you feel as of women settle more?

[sheikalana]

Women.

[Joshgag2000]

Both do