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Generally speaking: who are bigger players in dating, men or women, and why?
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From my experience, women. I've heard so many girld saying they go on dates just for free drinks or a fling. Men are often more nervous couse they don't invite out someone they don't like. And they are afraod of rejections.
Or false accusations.
The vagina scares me sometimes.
Both, they both use charm and good looks to play wiv someones emotions, generally speaking from experience men play more because it's more socially acceptable. Where as women who get called sluts for it.
Women have all the power and decides if they will let any man sleep with them.
Men have to work for it. Men play but the women are the ones who let them play.
Women set the rules.
So women.
Women are the ones that just have to say yes or no to getting laid they get to do whatever they want with barely any effort
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1. Any answer we give is biased by our gender and our experiences. Everyone will say "I am so sincere but my partners were not," so they will say that the members of the opposite sex are bigger players.
2. How would anyone be in a position to make a valid comparison between men and women on this issue?
3. Why is the answer important? I date women. Other guys being players make things easier for me because I am not a player, but having this question answered doesn't help me to make any decisions in life..
I think men have a greater natural urge to play the field.
Wrong we play because we're being played.
so it seems
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... yet practically every girl I've ever know has played the field more than any guy except the obvious hot guys lol... even my 300 pound bbw friend had sex with the hot Dominican ripped dude whereas the guys couldn't even get an average female employee lol... its a myth
@TripleAce I don't know, random stories like that... i don't think it speaks for what's happening worldwide overall lol
uh huh... Men might have a greater urge to play the field, but girls actually get a chance to play the field they want
im not sure If you realize how hard it is for the average bro to get the girl he wants in bed, practically impossible cause she's already hooking up with Chad... lol
and how incredibly easy it is for an average girl to get a hot guy for one night... like pretty easy
I've seen both, and don't see a greater tendency for either gender, TBH.
Hard to say since they play in different or sometimes similar ways but the ending result vary and the intention behind it varies sometimes also. Some women trap a man for money some for good/decent/or just to have sex xD or to force them into commitment. Guys may do it for money or sex or again sometimes for commitment. Now they differ in the methods guys are more subtle usually trying to butter you up or make you drunk and then get you to crawl into their traps so they can nibble on their prize. Women not all but some are very direct and leave you to choose then you have subtle ones who will plan and play along to get you where they need you then there's the whole get you to make a move kind of girl with the shy personality whether faked or real to get what they desire. Women can be more invested and dedicated and better planners whereas guys are willing to lure the girl like a rat to get the cheese until they realise there's no chance or sometimes they are smart or lucky enough to catch them. But hit and miss is more likely for guys a lot more women in my opinion accomplish their playing whether if it's how it was planned or not or if the planned changed several times as long as they won.
I couldn't say which gender is worst as a player, but from i have seen, both can be bad as each other. Women can use men for money, Men can use women for sex.
I have also both genders use each other things, like using a guy or girl, to make their crush or partner jealous.
Men and women can be bad each other, when it comes to the crunch, no gender is more innocent or less innocent.
There is would be less of playing games, if people use their heads, like if females stop letting men getting into their pants so quickly. Men use their heads, and stop parting with their money when it comes women. Women can earn the same and more than a man, So this nonsense that the guy should always pay, is bull. If you really like each other, then money shouldn't come into the equation when it comes to dating.
Money should enter the equation, when there are kids and bills to pay, But still everyone should pay their way in a relationship.
I think it would be men. Mainly because theyāre more dishonest and they donāt make their position clear as to where the two people stand romantically. Iāve always known women to be more upfront about the relationship/dating status. But thatās just my experience. I could be wrong.
"Mainly because theyāre more dishonest and they donāt make their position clear as to where the two people stand romantically. Iāve always known women to be more upfront about the relationship/dating status"
couldn't disagree more, my personal experience has been polar opposite
I'm pretty sure that's men. Our western culture is still very much footed on medieval ideals of how a woman should be. In America, puritan historical tradition comes on top of that. That is why slut-shaming and similar social occurrences are still very much present and prevalent. It would be great if we lived in a world where we could all practice free love without being insulted, ridiculed and shamed for it. Unfortunately, that is not the case - especially for women. And so, women get very much discouraged from expressing their sexual desires freely.
SOME MEN but overall women for sure, men would like to think it's them but it's not.
For sure men who are in high demand from women play them until the cows come home, this is about 20% of men who get laid at the drop of a hat...
So women are attracted to men that play them and leave the ones who wouldn't.. go figure.. That's why you're all complaining about it on here.
It's just the way the dynamic works, we need to woe the lady not the other way around. It's not a power war and most people get on just fine...
If I had three dates next week that would be a great week. Most women if they wanted to could have sex with 20 different guys next week
I was going to comment, but I think that's the right answer. I think a certain percentage of men do have lot of power in dating as they know they are attractive and girls want them, but women also have control on whoever they are going to date, it plays both side tbh.
I would also ad that for some guys at the other end of the scale i. e. unwanted by women at all being a guy is difficult...
So when a geek plucks up the courage to talk to you in a bar, don't be rude and go easy on him, he might be doing quite a hard thing
@JamesCarterBegin I think every guys do have a chance, but yeah I can understand the struggle some guys may face.
Men, because they're so good at manipulating people into believing their shit, and are greedy, and if they can get away with it once they're gonna do it again. I think women can do/be the same, but not as much as men. (Before any men start crying, this isn't aimed at every man alive - just the fucktard ones)
@acooke-13 just because your ex was shit doesn't matter everybody is.
See, women THINK it's men because all the guys they're interested in are the suave players. Meanwhile, all the guys that are looking for wifey go home and masturbate to twilight then cuddle with their waifu pillow.
Women are the ones constantly looking to trade up men they're in a relationship with. They don't care who they're dating, just how valuable they are. If they have an opportunity to get someone better, they'll take it.
I don't think that we want to change to another guy... Most of the women do their choice before and if they are in a relationship they then to stay unless something happens... The guys want to see some times how many girls they want to bang and do the counts and some even brag about it.
Women generally have way more opportunities to cheat. Just from the amount of attention they get from other men.
I think some women would never dream of doing it. But it really depends on personality. And circumstances. I think there's usually a reason women cheat. They're not getting their needs met in the relationship.
Women have all the power in dating and they abuse it through shit tests, not paying and being awfully selective. Dates come to them with no effort and if it doesn't work out, they have 10 more coming their way. For guys... the majority of guys... not the lucky few who shag all the ladies and who ladies then assume all guys are like because it's the only ones they accepted to have sex with... The normal average guys can't afford to take dates lightly and be players.
Kinda equal tbh. but the ways in which they "play" are different. I feel men get really drastic with the kinda stuff they say to girls, like make them feel really special but then cut them off cold the next day.
while females just keep the guy around, subtly flirting, while knowing he's really into her and its messing with his feelings.
I think that both can be players. It's kind of a stereotype for men to be players but I've met a lot of women that just play guys. So I think that it's equal for both genders. Although it's more common for men to be seen as players because that's a stupid stereotype.
Guys and girls have different variation of player, but the players wanna play play play play play... To quote Taylor Swift
They are the same, just use different techniques. I love Barney on How I Met Your Mother. Classic guy player with a play book. So who is the equivalent girl player?
I believe it can be from both sides... both sides as in not Everyone but to some people. It shouldnāt be practiced either way regardless. From my personal experience, Iāve met many players... but that doesnāt mean i claim that āallā of the gender is exactly n completely players. Know what and whom your looking for and mean your answers dangt. 😂
Women. They love the free food & drinks. Iāve heard heaps of women go on a date just to get a free meal
And they love to be worshiped.
ya and I know a ton too lol... so that makes two of us hahah
actually like 70% I know, if not more... always get full free drinks when they go out --> so they don't even spend money to go out
I as a guy need like 100 bucks just for a club night... that girl needs 5 dollars for a mcdonalds combo thats it lol...
What is disgusting?
Oh well I don't go clubbing so whatever, I always thought people needed more.
50 bucks gets you barely 5 drinks... are you kidding? ...5 drinks for the whole night? are you joking LOl... If I buy a girl a drink I'm doing to 4
thats not including, the night itself... the parking if any, the gas, the food before or after... always after though... like brah...
Men try to play women for sex
Women try to play guys for free dinners, trips, and material possessions
Who does it more? Hard to say. There are shitty people of both genders who'll try it and desperate enough people of both genders who'll fall for it.
Men, definitely. Because they crave for sex more. From what I've seen women don't prioritize sex much, they are usually after two things when playing a game: 1. Making someone else jealous and 2. Money/status.
I disagree and see that as one of the reasons why it's women...
Men to put it bluntly are desperate for sex and will do it with almost anyone. Women aren't which means you hold the aces..
Maybe it's me but I don't find women easy to manipulate, I get better results when I'm not up to any games
Honestly, I would say men. That's what it's been like in my personal experience, anyway.
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