Generally speaking: who are bigger players in dating, men or women, and why?

Generally speaking who do you believe are bigger players in dating, men or women and why?

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Generally speaking: who are bigger players in dating, men or women, and why?

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  • From my experience, women. I've heard so many girld saying they go on dates just for free drinks or a fling. Men are often more nervous couse they don't invite out someone they don't like. And they are afraod of rejections.

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  • Both, they both use charm and good looks to play wiv someones emotions, generally speaking from experience men play more because it's more socially acceptable. Where as women who get called sluts for it.

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  • Women have all the power and decides if they will let any man sleep with them.

    Men have to work for it. Men play but the women are the ones who let them play.

    Women set the rules.

    So women.

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  • Women are the ones that just have to say yes or no to getting laid they get to do whatever they want with barely any effort

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What Girls Said 35

  • I think men have a greater natural urge to play the field.

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    • Wrong we play because we're being played.

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    • uh huh... Men might have a greater urge to play the field, but girls actually get a chance to play the field they want
      im not sure If you realize how hard it is for the average bro to get the girl he wants in bed, practically impossible cause she's already hooking up with Chad... lol

      and how incredibly easy it is for an average girl to get a hot guy for one night... like pretty easy

    • do we at least agree on that?

  • Men.

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  • I think it would be men. Mainly because they’re more dishonest and they don’t make their position clear as to where the two people stand romantically. I’ve always known women to be more upfront about the relationship/dating status. But that’s just my experience. I could be wrong.

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    • "Mainly because they’re more dishonest and they don’t make their position clear as to where the two people stand romantically. I’ve always known women to be more upfront about the relationship/dating status"

      couldn't disagree more, my personal experience has been polar opposite

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    • And I'm not some fuckboi. I rarely get laid. So... My guess is cheating is kind of common...

    • Good for you?

  • Men, because they're so good at manipulating people into believing their shit, and are greedy, and if they can get away with it once they're gonna do it again. I think women can do/be the same, but not as much as men. (Before any men start crying, this isn't aimed at every man alive - just the fucktard ones)

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    • Humans are adaptable beings. They learn what they feel they need. (otherwise they would feel inferior)
      Basically the one manipulating is one that needed the skill because of his feelings of inferiority. In most cases.

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    • @Steve696 Hence why I said "Before any men start crying, this isn't aimed at every man alive - just the fucktard ones"

    • Good to know

  • Women. They love the free food & drinks. I’ve heard heaps of women go on a date just to get a free meal

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    • And they love to be worshiped.

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    • Haha I don’t bother drinking much when I go out just because they are so weak you can’t get drunk anyways! Waste of money

    • ya thats why you just drink before lol... even better 😛 pre drinking

  • Men, definitely. Because they crave for sex more. From what I've seen women don't prioritize sex much, they are usually after two things when playing a game: 1. Making someone else jealous and 2. Money/status.

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    • I disagree and see that as one of the reasons why it's women...
      Men to put it bluntly are desperate for sex and will do it with almost anyone. Women aren't which means you hold the aces..
      Maybe it's me but I don't find women easy to manipulate, I get better results when I'm not up to any games

  • Kinda equal tbh. but the ways in which they "play" are different. I feel men get really drastic with the kinda stuff they say to girls, like make them feel really special but then cut them off cold the next day.

    while females just keep the guy around, subtly flirting, while knowing he's really into her and its messing with his feelings.

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  • I think that both can be players. It's kind of a stereotype for men to be players but I've met a lot of women that just play guys. So I think that it's equal for both genders. Although it's more common for men to be seen as players because that's a stupid stereotype.

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  • Both genders are about equal, as they are players for different reasons and goals. But there are good non-players out there too. Sad that the player ways overshadow the good people that don't play games.

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  • I believe it can be from both sides... both sides as in not Everyone but to some people. It shouldn’t be practiced either way regardless. From my personal experience, I’ve met many players... but that doesn’t mean i claim that “all” of the gender is exactly n completely players. Know what and whom your looking for and mean your answers dangt. 😂

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  • Men, I'd say. Especially adolescent boys, who are running on only testosterone, and their pure goal is sex.

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  • Woman are frowned apon if they get être many guys, while men are applauded
    So I’d say most players are usually men

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    • Err... Okay, men may be applauded by other guys, but I think they get lots of envy too. And women certainly don't like it. I mean, they like a guy who all the women want, but they don't like a fuckboi.

  • Men for sure. A lot of men , especially younger guys, want to play the field, but women want to settle down in a serious relationship

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  • I think its pretty equal but that's just based on my experiences. Women are more sneaky about it but it happens.

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    • I wanted to add that it's usually different things that each gender desires. With men its usually sex and with women it's usually money ( again from the peole i know) I know girls that date guys just to eat out or to pay their bills.

  • I'm going to go with men, generally men do like to date around non seriously and keep their options open before actually picking a girl they really want to date/build a family with.

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    • Especially they have the freedom and praise to do that.

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    • @skyx1 I could never pull that even if I wanted to which I don't.

    • @bitttbratt2416 then your a good women. Just saying i only dated 3 women in my whloe life. The first one lead me on for 12 months which i still dont known the truth till this day and the 2nd one cheated on me with her days best friend. So just saying it both man&women do it

  • From what I've seen, men. I've just seen fewer women doing it is all

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  • Women... plenty use their bodies and generally their looks to get what they want 😐 they even go on dates for the free meal lol...

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  • Impossible to make a distinction, players can be found amongst both genders.

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  • Men, I never heard of a guy complain about women being player or anything but I heard women complain about a lot.

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  • I believe it is women. Because if we want we can get any man. But I am not a player per se... Because I don't want the attention

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  • Majority of men are players but women are better at it. men aren't that bright

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  • Men are. A lot of men want to be with multiple women. Women do not have that goal

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  • Depends I think girls most are good at guys what they want. Men do it through promise.

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  • Men are but women are catching up.

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  • Lol Women. I’ll be the one to admit that.

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  • Probably women lol

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  • I would say it's 50/50

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  • Definitely gonna go with men on this one.

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  • Men, or younger guys.

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  • Men
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    ~ Mrs Manson

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What Guys Said 55

  • 1. Any answer we give is biased by our gender and our experiences. Everyone will say "I am so sincere but my partners were not," so they will say that the members of the opposite sex are bigger players.

    2. How would anyone be in a position to make a valid comparison between men and women on this issue?

    3. Why is the answer important? I date women. Other guys being players make things easier for me because I am not a player, but having this question answered doesn't help me to make any decisions in life..

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  • I've seen both, and don't see a greater tendency for either gender, TBH.

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  • See, women THINK it's men because all the guys they're interested in are the suave players. Meanwhile, all the guys that are looking for wifey go home and masturbate to twilight then cuddle with their waifu pillow.

    Women are the ones constantly looking to trade up men they're in a relationship with. They don't care who they're dating, just how valuable they are. If they have an opportunity to get someone better, they'll take it.

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    • You mean watch porn? I'm Pretty sure guys dislike twilight but not as much as 50 shades of grey.

      Anyway thumbs up for you 😆

    • @Unit1 I couldn't think of anything better in the moment that wasn't as crude as porn.

    • I don't think that we want to change to another guy... Most of the women do their choice before and if they are in a relationship they then to stay unless something happens... The guys want to see some times how many girls they want to bang and do the counts and some even brag about it.

  • Women generally have way more opportunities to cheat. Just from the amount of attention they get from other men.

    I think some women would never dream of doing it. But it really depends on personality. And circumstances. I think there's usually a reason women cheat. They're not getting their needs met in the relationship.

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  • Women have all the power in dating and they abuse it through shit tests, not paying and being awfully selective. Dates come to them with no effort and if it doesn't work out, they have 10 more coming their way. For guys... the majority of guys... not the lucky few who shag all the ladies and who ladies then assume all guys are like because it's the only ones they accepted to have sex with... The normal average guys can't afford to take dates lightly and be players.

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  • Guys and girls have different variation of player, but the players wanna play play play play play... To quote Taylor Swift

    They are the same, just use different techniques. I love Barney on How I Met Your Mother. Classic guy player with a play book. So who is the equivalent girl player?

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  • Men try to play women for sex
    Women try to play guys for free dinners, trips, and material possessions

    Who does it more? Hard to say. There are shitty people of both genders who'll try it and desperate enough people of both genders who'll fall for it.

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  • Honestly, I would say men. That's what it's been like in my personal experience, anyway.

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    • I've known a few male players, and no female ones. When I was at uni, there was a girl who had proper nymphomania, but I wouldn't categorise that as being a player. But some guys definitely were.

  • Women are... and why is because no matter how many girls a man has he still know who he loves, although he is cheating on her but he doesn't forget her... Let another man treat ur girl and treat her right u become old news.

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  • Hard to say since they play in different or sometimes similar ways but the ending result vary and the intention behind it varies sometimes also. Some women trap a man for money some for good/decent/or just to have sex xD or to force them into commitment. Guys may do it for money or sex or again sometimes for commitment. Now they differ in the methods guys are more subtle usually trying to butter you up or make you drunk and then get you to crawl into their traps so they can nibble on their prize. Women not all but some are very direct and leave you to choose then you have subtle ones who will plan and play along to get you where they need you then there's the whole get you to make a move kind of girl with the shy personality whether faked or real to get what they desire. Women can be more invested and dedicated and better planners whereas guys are willing to lure the girl like a rat to get the cheese until they realise there's no chance or sometimes they are smart or lucky enough to catch them. But hit and miss is more likely for guys a lot more women in my opinion accomplish their playing whether if it's how it was planned or not or if the planned changed several times as long as they won.

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  • Men

    Most girls don’t do it and even the ones who move from fuckboi to fuckboi... they’re the ones being played, not playing.

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  • Men are more because most women don't feel comfortable giving up the cooch just to anyone.

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  • Players v. s playets they both got them in women & men. Difference men players are like Car dealer Salesman. Where women playets are like woman you always dreamed off u know is too good to be true until she breaks your heart. Kinda like the car dealer who sales u a lemon. Lol

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  • Women as a whole... but certain men pull so much weight that even other men will move out of his way... and she'll be first to spread it for him.

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  • I couldn't say which gender is worst as a player, but from i have seen, both can be bad as each other. Women can use men for money, Men can use women for sex.
    I have also both genders use each other things, like using a guy or girl, to make their crush or partner jealous.

    Men and women can be bad each other, when it comes to the crunch, no gender is more innocent or less innocent.

    There is would be less of playing games, if people use their heads, like if females stop letting men getting into their pants so quickly. Men use their heads, and stop parting with their money when it comes women. Women can earn the same and more than a man, So this nonsense that the guy should always pay, is bull. If you really like each other, then money shouldn't come into the equation when it comes to dating.

    Money should enter the equation, when there are kids and bills to pay, But still everyone should pay their way in a relationship.

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  • I'm pretty sure that's men. Our western culture is still very much footed on medieval ideals of how a woman should be. In America, puritan historical tradition comes on top of that. That is why slut-shaming and similar social occurrences are still very much present and prevalent. It would be great if we lived in a world where we could all practice free love without being insulted, ridiculed and shamed for it. Unfortunately, that is not the case - especially for women. And so, women get very much discouraged from expressing their sexual desires freely.

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  • Us I think... girls tend to be more loving creatures that wanna stick to 1 guy... but us fellaz don't really get emotionally attached and jus want a hot chick we can stick our dicks in

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  • Obviously man nowadays since the girl brain can be manipulated, sorry girls its true, man can also be manipulated and easely but as guys have to make their first steps they control the plays

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  • Both. If the person isn't looking for anything serious or is just having sex all around, then they can seem like a player.
    When people want to settle down, those player tendencies usually stop.

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  • Until they turn 30, women have a much greater opportunity to fuck around.
    Whether or not they do is up to the individual.

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  • Men because women wanna secretly bang that guy like all month but when he wants to its like omg nooo lol

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  • Guys
    I know some guys that only need to open their mouth and within a minute can get nudes from even random girls

    And of course they get girls all the time

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  • girls cuz they can do whatever they want and guys will stick want to fuck them so they dont care if they get shit on

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  • SOME MEN but overall women for sure, men would like to think it's them but it's not.
    For sure men who are in high demand from women play them until the cows come home, this is about 20% of men who get laid at the drop of a hat...
    So women are attracted to men that play them and leave the ones who wouldn't.. go figure.. That's why you're all complaining about it on here.
    It's just the way the dynamic works, we need to woe the lady not the other way around. It's not a power war and most people get on just fine...
    If I had three dates next week that would be a great week. Most women if they wanted to could have sex with 20 different guys next week

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    • I was going to comment, but I think that's the right answer. I think a certain percentage of men do have lot of power in dating as they know they are attractive and girls want them, but women also have control on whoever they are going to date, it plays both side tbh.

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    • That sounds adorable.

    • @JamesCarterBegin I think every guys do have a chance, but yeah I can understand the struggle some guys may face.

  • Men for one night stands.

    Women for emotionally cheating, and for keeping their options open and "monkey branching"

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  • Hard to say. More about personality. Maybe women in average.

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  • Eeeewwww their staring at her butt in that photo 😷😷😷😷😷

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  • Women are teasers men are tossers but women are more deadly than the male

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  • The women, just pull the average woman and check her DMs and it'll be filled with guys

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    • Doesn’t make her a player necessarily. I get a lot of messages from dudes but they’re mostly uninvited. All it really means is that there’s something about the girl that men like, thus the constant DMs😂

  • Girls nowadays are more big players ( heartbroken person founded^_^

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