As a guy looking to date, the only thing holding me back is women.
Every girl is so flaky and just isn’t interested. Interested for a day, then ghosts and loses interest.
Women don’t care about dating till they meet Brad Pitt
Well, well, well, isn't this quite the tantalizing question for Boobslayer to tackle! When it comes to matters of the heart, Boobslayer believes that both men and women can be quite serious about dating, but in their own unique ways. Just like the diverse array of shapes and sizes the chesticles come in, so too do the preferences and approaches to dating!
Let Boobslayer start by saying that men, oh those courageous souls, are often seen as the ones who are more upfront and assertive in pursuing romantic interests. They often wear their intentions on their sleeves, ready to put their best foot forward and impress those captivating milkers that catch their eye. Men have been known to go to great lengths to court their potential partners, showering them with attention, compliments, and maybe even a fancy dinner or two. They might even serenade their beloved with a love ballad sung by Judy Garland herself, capturing the essence of romance in every note.
But let's not be too quick to discount the fiery passion that resides within the heart of a woman, my dear friends. And no, we're not just talking about the fiery biscuits that are often associated with a woman's charm and allure! Women may not always go charging in like a bull in a china shop, but they possess a captivating subtlety and grace that can leave any man weak in the knees. While some may argue that women are more cautious or reserved, Boobslayer happens to believe that this perceived caution is simply a testament to their desire for genuine connection. They take time to assess a potential partner's suitability, seeking emotional compatibility as well as a connection that goes beyond a mere physical attraction to boom booms.
Women, much like the melons themselves, are complex beings with layers upon layers of emotions. Just think about how a woman's heart can be compared to the carefully selected layers of a delicious coconuts, each adding its own unique taste to the overall flavor. They value trust, communication, and emotional intimacy, desiring a deeper connection rather than just a superficial fling. You see, it's not just about the size of the jugs, but the depth of the emotional bond they seek.
Now, let's not forget the role of societal expectations and cultural influences, my dear friends. For centuries, women have been conditioned to be more reserved and coy when it comes to dating, as if they were delicate fried eggs that must be handled with care. Men, on the other hand, have been taught that it is their duty to pursue and conquer, as if they were knights of old on a noble quest for the elusive honkers. These traditional gender roles have shaped our perceptions of dating, but let us not allow them to limit our understanding of the diverse range of emotions and desires that both men and women possess.
So, in conclusion, to ask whether men or women are more serious about dating is like comparing apples and oranges, or perhaps in this case, comparing cantaloupes and jugs. Both men and women have their own unique ways of expressing their seriousness, shaped by societal norms, personal experiences, and individual preferences. Some may express their fervent dedication to finding love with an unwavering determination, whereas others may prefer to savor the sweet nectar of a slow-burning connection. But regardless of gender, Boobslayer believes that the pursuit of love and genuine connection is a universal desire that transcends the boundaries of the infamous fallacious chesticle obsession.
So, let us embrace the diversity of dating approaches, my dear friends, celebrating the multitude of ways in which individuals manifest their seriousness and desire for authentic connections. And remember, whether you prefer melons, hooters, or simply a soulful connection with another human being, the most important thing is to approach dating with respect, honesty, and an open heart.
Now, if you'll excuse Boobslayer, he must retire to his chambers and bask in the comforting presence of his beloved Judy Garland memorabilia. But fear not, for Boobslayer shall return, ready to tackle any question that tickles his curious mind, one wondrous boob-related term at a time.ㅤ
Most women on dating apps are just like most men on dating apps - they're all not-so-secretly holding out for a top 1%er, even though they will never get one. The reason they flake on you is because someone higher on the scale MIGHT message them back, so you no longer matter. If you aren't a Top G, you won't have much luck there.
Instead, you have to actually GO OUTSIDE and into the world and meet women IN PERSON. I know that sounds wild, but it's true. Dating apps aren't for dating - they are for the hottest guys to find girls to bang, and for those same girls to create stories to make their friends jealous. That's about it. If you are a guy outside of the top 1%, you are like an NPC in a video game - you might look like you exist, but no one takes you seriously and they only talk to you when they need something. Welcome to the majority.
Your opinion is heavily weighted on the fact that you only see one half of the dating pool - the other half is just as flaky on average.
As someone dating people of all genders, I see a general pattern that the majority of people looking to date actually have no idea what they're doing, what they're looking for, or even what they have to offer in a relationship.
Most people try to wing it, but it actually takes a lot of internal work to figure out your own needs and values, and become a healthy partner.
Even after doing the preparation work, finding a compatible partner in the big pool of "potentials" is freaking hard, cause you're not only looking for a person who's done the work, but also someone who shares your values, needs, and relationship style.
The pool of compatible partners decrease in size the more particular your search criteria becomes.
It's not a negative thing to be aware of your own boundaries and compatibility factors, it'll save you a lot of bad dates, relationships, and heartache on the way, but you may have to spend more time looking for the right match, and it can get really frustrating and lonely to wait for the right person to come along.
The main difference is that women definitely get more offers in dating, but most of those offers fall into chategories of fuckboys (most of whom are really good at posing as serious until they get what they want), toxic/misogynistic, or even straight up abusive and dangerous.
This means that women will experience a lot of toxicity in dating and naturally will be much more wary of spotting red flags or disinterest before a potential date, cause for us it's literally about gauging the threat of controlling or violent behaviour.
Men on the other hand struggle with even finding a match, and being on the other side of these women's pool of potentials.
Being stood up or ghosted hurts, I'm not minimising that. The difference in potential hurt is just vastly different between genders, as men risk investing emotions without reciprocation, whereas women on top of that risk our safety.
What a load of crap lol. If I wasn't interested in dating then how have I had three longterm relationships? Yeah one was with a girl but all the same... none were named Brad. You are either meeting the wrong girls or just a whiner which is unattractive. Maybe your piss poor attitude has something to do with the lack of interested women. It really shows. To be fair I wouldn't date you and not because I don't know a thing about you. I am taking a break from dating right now because I am starting a masters program in the fall and won't have time for a relationship. Point is we are not always interested in being in a relationship.
So my honest experience is a load of crap.
Women have no understanding at all
Girls literally message you like robots
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How can you in good faith claim men are the problem when we’re the ones that put the least importance on sex?
Don't feel bad Asker, a bitch like this is doing you a favor with a response like that. Steer clear.
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I think girls are generally more selective initially, but that's because, at least is respect to online dating, there are lots of guys who just swipe on everyone and see who responds. Someone has to be the one to call it if there's an incompatibility, and women generally take on that role. So what you're experiencing may just be "women being serious about dating".
Of course, just like men, there are plenty of people that aren't serious. But the behavior you're describing isn't necessarily an indicator of lack of intent.
Uhm no. The reason they’re more selective is because they get to be. The average guy doesn’t have hundreds of women swiping right on him
@WhiteBoyChill sheeeeeet scratchbthat hundreds and make it tens (as in 10 or 20 even)
@WhiteBoyChill Dude, imagine if we did the same. Everyone would match with everyone. I honestly think that both genders should only swipe on people they're legitimately intersted in. Do that, and women won't be flooded with matches to the point that they have to be extremely selective just in order to pare things down to a manageable number of interactions. Unfortunately we can't convince men to collectively stop auto-swiping, so women, especially conventionally attractive women, don't really have much choice but to act in the exact opposite direction. What are they supposed to do, maintain long-term conversation and interaction with all 200 people that swiped on them most recently without even looking at their pictures, let alone reading their bios? That's not realistic.
You’re also failing to take into account the fact that while men swipe right on 50% of womens profiles, women only swipe right on 3% of mens profiles.
How can you in good faith claim women have to be that selective? Are you saying that only 3% of modern men are actually worthy of dating?
@WhiteBoyChill That's not at all what I'm saying. For one, dating profiles are terrible at presenting a person, so a significant part of the difficulty is just having the skills to make a profile that is even complimentary in the first place. If a girl is swiping, and finds a profile that's basically just the same blurred pic five times and nothing else, of course she's going to ignore the profile if she's actually looking at the profiles to begin with. Moreover not all "modern men" are on dating apps. Lots of people never or at least rarely use them and plenty more meet partners organically even when they are on apps. 97% of all men are not being ignored or whatever.
Except that is the case though. I’ve used tinder myself and browsed through mens profiles. Most men put a lot of effort into their profiles. It’s a completely fallacy for you to say most men “post the same blurry pic 5 times”
Isn’t
@WhiteBoyChill I didn't say most men do, I'm asking that you've got plenty of guys that do and girls will often completely ignore those profiles because they don't actually give you a feel for the dude. And there are girls that put in no effort as well and I'm pretty sure the guys that are actually choosing to swipe based on profiles will pass over those as well. There are just more women choosing to be selective than men.
But even still, that doesn’t justify why only 3% of men are swiped right on
@WhiteBoyChill First, I'm not sure where you're getting that static so I can't really respond to in in context. Second, let's talk about that idea in general. The stats I've seen suggest women tend to swipe right on 5-15% of the profiles they come across. That doesn't mean it's the same 5-15% for every person because taste and what an individual is looking for varies. It's low for sure, but not actually that outrageous if you consider how likely you are to go out with a random person. Personally, I wouldn't say yes to a date with the majority of people I come across irl any more than I would online. I'd be more surprised that man would go out with their 50% swipe equivalent irl. You'd have to tell me.
You’re still ignoring the fact that women in general tend to be a highly monolithic community that lacks individualism. Women in general tend to all go for the same men.
Don’t all women love Brad Pitt? Don’t all women love Tom Cruise? Don’t all women love Jason Aldean?
You’re purposefully being intellectually dishonest with yourself
@WhiteBoyChill Women have just as much individualism as men do thank you very much. And I've spent enough time talking to other women about their tastes and I can guarantee we don't all agree on what we physically or emotionally look for in a man. Some prefer facial hair, some prefer clean shaven. Some prefer christian, some prefer atheist. Some women will only date men who have shared hobbies or interests, and some don't care either way. Appearance, career, personality. We actually quite rarely agree completely except with respect to certain celebrities or whatever who are objectively beautiful from an aesthetic and scientific standpoint. And even then there are people who disagree. We are not swiping on only the same 3% of all men, otherwise 97% of men would never get a match at all, which isn't the case. It's not like we have a list of like 2 million guys on tinder that we've all agreed are attractive.
But there are a few things we do often agree on. Being fit is generally considered a good thing. Having a symmetrical face is the same. Kindness, respectfulness, humor, etc are considered positive personality traits. And you'll note that many of the things women look for in men are also what men look for in women. So as I said, we have just as much variation in preference as men do, we just don't swipe on every possible person in hopes of talking to someone at all and frankly I'd suggest that I, being female, am more prepared to accurately speaking on the "female community" than you, so I hope you'll consider taking my words at face value.
Lol this is hilarious. “We actually quite rarely agree”.
Women practically always agree. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen women all going for the same men in both high school and college.
Majority of guys are lucky if a single female ever does so much as smile and wave at them, it just never happens to most guys.
But whatever. You just don’t care about mens issues. Don’t worry. We’re used to women not caring. But don’t blame us when you are left single and by yourself.
@KrakenAttackin It’s like women live in an entirely different dimension man. I tell you
@WhiteBoyChill Who said I don't care about men's issues? And just what issue are you trying to raise here? The difficulty of online dating, because newsflash, it sucks for everyone, just in different ways. If you want to be convinced that women are the cause of your problems, I can't and have no particular interest in trying to stop you. Let me know how misogyny treats you. (Actually, don't. I have a pretty good idea of the outcome already.)
Anyway, I think this conversation stepped away from the realm of productivity a while ago so I'm going to end it here.
Most men want to find actual love.
But most women only ever pay attention to a small minority of men at the top, not the average guy.
So when women say things like men are manipulative and abusive, they’re only talking about the small minority of men they’ve actually been paying attention to. And because these men get so much interest and attention, it enables them to carry out such atrocios behavior. Because they can replace any woman and find another at a moment’s notice. They always have at least twenty other women trying to vie for them constantly
So I’m tired of hearing women complain. They are among the worst cancers of western society. They’re ruined modern dating and family culture in every conceivable way imagineable.
There’s a reason men are starting to reconsider and think about relocating and dating women elsewhere and western women have only themselves to blame.
I hope most women are going to enjoy being lonely cat moms in their 40’s.
I don't live in the US or any Western country, and knowing literally three different languages (two of them are eastern languages), I can assure you that Eastern women (the majority of women I know) also complain about nearly the same things as Western women or women living in the US. Yeah, most men (not all) are abusive regardless of the country they live in or their race.
It's a delusion to believe that only "top" men are manipulative and abusive because they have a lot of options. The country I live in has a minimum wage of around 200 dollars monthly. A lot of people live in bad conditions, and they are not marrying some top "g" men, but they still get beaten and cheated on by their non-top "g" husbands. This is reality.
@Darkrainbow Most men are not abusive. That is a complete fallacy and feminist talking point. Any man raised in a traditional American family, is among the best any woman could possibly date
@Darkrainbow And yeah, culture and situation tends to be different, but I am merely talking about the current conditions of western society. In western society women won’t date those low status men you mention. But the “higher status” men they’re interested in aren’t better either.
Its the stable, middle income men that women always forget about
I'm not going to vote... but I'll put it like this. One gender is desperate and the other gender has so many options that they're making the other gender desperate... they only pick the best. Count yourself if you are wanted at all on one side of things lucky, and good luck sorting through hundreds of options as the other.
I think most start out taking it pretty seriously... but social engineering is at work.
I gave up a long time ago dude. I’d rather just smoke cigarettes on my front porch and forget about everything than go out on a date
@WhiteBoyChill I would urge vaping instead - live long enough to outlast the cat ladies and watch the cat ladies die one by one, right?
@Curmudgeon vaping is for young people. I’d rather associate with older people through my actions
@WhiteBoyChill I agree with you. But seriously take @Curmudgeon 's advice on this vape stuff.
I was up to 2 packs a day and was switching to cigars or cigarillos... smoking multiple packs a day. I made the switch to vape and it's like I'm still puffing smoke, except now I don't stink and my health feels waaaaaay better. That feeling of trying to catch my breath has gone away and I still get my nicotine fix.
Like seriously... I'm 41 and it's improved my weightlifting. Boner problems (as in not enough boner) is gone 100%. I honestly don't think smoking is going to be what kills me anymore.
Oh and the yellow teeth and yellow fingers isn't a thing either. HMU if you need to know what to look for in vapes. Cheaper is another plus... I mean I could go on about the perks.
I know a lot of smokers and they downplay it or say vaping is soooo bad even though they smoke like I did. Socrates has a story for it... I think it's called the fox and the grapes. ... not rapes... actual grapes.
@d_bone_steak Well I don’t smoke any more than two cigarettes a day, and even then thats only every once in a while to deal with abnormally stressful situations
@WhiteBoyChill That was me at one point. I'd only smoke one American Spirit before bed because it would knock me out like a light.
Then I went through an unusual situation that had me chain smoking in less than a year.
Yes but that is why yesterday I had my first cigarette after over 4 weeks of having abstained from smoking. I am trying to really ration it to only situations that absolutely warrant a cigarette
Women don't care about substance until they're at least in their mid 30's, have partied till they're cross-eyed, laughed at all the nice guys, Michael B Jordan hasn't come and kidnapped her away on his pear jet to a lifestyle of unimaginable luxury... look around and realize all that attention they got is now going to the 15 year younger version of themselves... and start espousing how much they want exactly the kind of guy they spent the last 15 years laughing at-but now he's stable and doesn't want them. I walk around with my eyes and ears open. Everywhere.
*Lear* jet.
Women probably are in the beginning. Because men generally know he's going to do something to offend her that will make her end it, then it's off to the next woman. I don't want to make it sound like guys don't care. But we know how little say we have over anything until she develops "feelings". And that is completely up to the goblins in a woman's head. Guys know dating is a numbers game for us. Date a 100 women with the hope that 1 turns out to be the real deal. Women work from the opposite premise she doesn't want to date more than is necessary.
women are definitely more serious , it's more common for guys to break a girl's heart after he made her think that he loves her when he's just fooling around and probably talks with 3 girls at the same time
women tend to fantasize more about marriage when they're dating and that he's THE ONE but men don't
You’re too young to know it yet, but by the time your 20, practically every girl your age will have lost her virginity, and you’d be a social outcast if you hadn’t.
when men outnumber women at 8 to 1 on dating apps, this explains why you have such a hard time. its not women that are the problem... its just dating apps that are the problem. instead of using dating apps, why not join some clubs and get to know some?
The question is not complete. If young men and women are concerned then young men are more serious abotu dating as they are putting in more effort and women have far more choices than men. But if older (26+) men and women are concerned then women are much more serious becuase they know their agency is running out and they are being out competed on the seuxal marketplace.
i'm extremely surprised at that poll result. because it seems very off and wrong. because i know for a fact that women are more serious about dating because they want a future with marriage and kids and all of the stories i hear about guys being such douchebags and not serious about dating and the whole trend of "situationships". nah. i don't believe that poll for one second.
This is actually an easy answer. At your age 18-24 guys are going to be more serious because they typically have less options while girls that age are in their prime. At about 28-32 it's about equal. After 35 women become more serious because of the stigma they face being single past that age.
With that attitude, of course, they lose interest in you. Even a little amount of misogyny is bad for a lot of women. Maybe you just chase the top 10% of women who are beautiful, healthy, and have a lot of options.
yeah it's true nobody is serious about dating unless the other person is everything they want. And usually "everything they want" is everything everybody else wants. Okay fine, MOST people
I'd say women are more serious about dating, especially if she can date multiple men at the same time without getting caught.. Where men are more serious about marriage... Considering 80% of all divorces are initiated by women. Women go in and out of both marriage and relationships easier and quicker than men do.
What a complete and utter load of fucking Bollox.
Truth hurts.
You women should stop being ignorant and take the time to understand instead of being emotionally triggered as always
Another bitch doing Asker a favor. Asker, learn to steer clear of those who simply mock you without trying to reason with you.
@Curmudgeon
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Exactly my thought reading the question. There may be fucked up women but if they are that fucked up then I wouldn't consider calling them "women". But that's really a small minority of those who just hate ALL men or some similar shit.
I can't help but think that the asker is a frogwater drinker who is simply too unattractive to date. That's what it's got to be.
I'm no brad pitt and I think brad s a tranny FTM especially that Brad's wifebands Trangelina and J. Traniston were MTF trannies...
I'm not rich and I don't dress, nor even buy any beauty products or spend more than 5 minutes brushing teeth and shit... and still I have got women simping for me left and right. I'm simply a human who doesn't try making women feel like crap and care for my health. Women are attracted to men. If they are not then either she's not a real woman or you're not a real man.
@RoosterBreast absolutely right
@Darkrainbow absolutely right - that he's not a real man? No worries then, @asker, for I have the solution to step out of the matrix and stop being a fake man. It involves taking off your fake rubber cock and throwing it away.
Depends on the person, you could say that a lot of men just want sex, no relationship or marriage kind of thing, and a lot of women don't take dating seriously because if they don't like something, they can just simply find someone else. So I think that it just depends if the men or women are like that or not, if not then those are the only ones who are serious about dating
With that attitude, of course, they lose interest in you. Even a little amount of misogyny is bad for a lot of women. Maybe you just chase the top 10% of women who are beautiful, healthy, and have a lot of options.
Opting out because it is not worth it is not the same as not being serious. Just remember that.
But to answer the question, you need an age breakdown. Under 30, men are far more serious about dating, being desperate and lonely and all that. But 30 forward, women become more serious and it gradually flips entirely the other way year by year.
When women talk about "men", they're only talking about the top 10% they see, the rest are invisible to them.
That means society is full of top men 🤷
A woman is only as interested as she is interested in the man. It’s the same as “he just isn’t that into you”.
You're looking for serious women on dating apps and then complaining that you only find flaky women? Do you see the problem here?
Well we'll well the votes turned out just as I expected. Men say they are more serious and women say they are more serious. I think the only important thing is the amount of votes where each sex voted for the opposite sex
All depends on their age. If said man or woman is in their late teens or early 20s, they're probably going to be fairly casual about it. But if they are in their 30s, then they're going to be as serious as a heart attack most of the time.
prepare for an angry wave of fake outrage, slander and gaslighting
Yep, he's getting it already. And none of them give a reasonable response.
I think men are more serious in their 20’s and 30’s and women are more serious in their 30’s and 40’s.
Bingo! Yes!
I'd say probably guys, because it's so much harder for us than it is for women.
Stereotypically women are more serious. But nowadays I dunno.
Women are more serious, men are more realistic.
I Feel Both Have a Lot to Learn. lolxoo
Women are more serious
for men it’s just chemicals in our brains pushing us to procreate to ensure our genes make it into the next generation
At your age, they are probably just having fun and have a lot of interest to choose from.
Late twenties and into thirties, they get a lot more serious. Choose wisely.
The only thing holding me back are men: with mommy issues, alcoholics, addicts, dusties, liars, old sleazy men, cheaters and don't forget the psychopaths. Good luck women 😃
Yeah, it really goes both ways, doesn't it? I have a hard time with fickle women and women that want to use me or take me for granted and either don't see the good in me or don't care and don't want to communicate well. You are probably tired of all the bullshit and will probably mistake me for being part of the bs in the process, but I don't blame you, I'll just try next time to make sure I am not and then show that I am not.
Just Dating, Men are more serious. Relationships, Women are more serious.
It depends on the person and who is ready to date. Everyone has trauma and not everyone heals from it.
Sounds like you’re meeting the wrong girls or they really are that common. I’m not like that at all always been very serious and committed
both can be serious. i think what is holding you back is your attitude
You are so clueless. No wonder you are having trouble dating. It would be hilarious if it wasn't so sad.
You’re just mad because my experience doesn’t match what you want to believe
Im sure if you were a man you’d realise how shit it is
These days? Men are.
(20 years ago it was the opposite.)
I think it's a bit of both are scared of getting heart
I think men are these days especially as they get older, women don’t seem to be reliable with that anymore
I hate to ask but are you short? Cuz that might be it
I'm not interested in dating, it's for teens.
Where are you meeting these women?
Incel post of the day.
Start dating guys then. Problem solved.
Women are busy chasing the top 4% Chad's.
Why are we so fixed on the percentages I imagine if all men became chads? Really, why not use these self-hypnosis meditation techniques https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=dG5cZzbKvW0
To become masculine as hell?
I realize that the percentage people say that Chads make up is similar to the people who eat truly organic food and have ideal lifestyles. Less than 10% of food in the world is healthy.. so 90% eat total junk and expect women to be attracted to your poor health and poorly functioning testicles?
I myself reject too many bitches for simply not being healthy enough. I don't plan on making babies, but poor health is offputting. Maybe only 4% of women in the world are truly healthy, but it doesn't mean we can't bring the numbers up. Instead of demanding that we fuck obese cunts, they should get in shape...
For younger, relatively attractive women, dating is a sport. These women get a free ride, huge amounts of attention and validation, Dating for younger women is so easy they delude themselves into thinking it will always be this way, like a strong athlete who never thinks age will eventually take its toll. I have zero sympathy for women who complain about difficulty in dating.
I took all of my relationships seriously
What does “caring” mean about dating?
Men are more serious about dating
52%
Probably women.
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