Why do guys become shocked and become disintersted when I tell them im almost 30?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Biology maybe. Men have always desired women in their youth. Right from puberty to their teens simply because the biological need when choosing a mate to have as many children as possible and of course the younger a mate he chooses the longer she will remain attractive.
I see the same thing so many times with older single women, the pool of quality men they can choose from shrinks. But it's the choice we make whether it's marrying late or choosing career over family or kids. Sure you can have a career and kids but you sacrifice one over the other either the time spent raising your kids or your commitment to succeeding at work. Hell even having a child could mean taking off work a minimum 6 months to a few years and then add multiple kids to that. Soceity tells us women we can have it all but we really can't, we can have at most nearly it all and even then we are just putting stress and impossible expectations on ourselves. I think we'd be all happy if we accept the truth.

[Asker]

very true! i wish i dated when i was younger im not going many guys now

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe but I'd keep my eye out for the diamond in the rough.

[Hellomeeee]

Because some guys are superficial and only want very young women, younger Than them. But don’t lose hope and don’t worry. There are some guys still sane looking for people their own age or aproximatively

[WindAtMyBack]

Most likely you look young for your age. So it's a shock when they find out how old you are. For you, this should be a good thing.

If they suddenly lose interest, the reason depends entirely on the guy. If he's 20, he might think that's too old for him. If he's 40 he probably thinks it's young.

In general, guys get with younger women, and women get with older guys. But the reason a particular guy loses interest could be just about anything. I could only guess at the reason.

[Asker]

yes i look 22 and still get student discounts for things

[WindAtMyBack]

When I was 50 people said I looked in my late 20s or early 30s. People were usually completely shocked when they found out how old I was. I've even had a hard life. I don't know why it didn't age me more.

It does have it's downsides, but I'd MUCH rather look young for my age than look old for my age. I think the pluses far outweigh the minuses.

30 is still very young. You just need to find the right guys. If you look very young, it's the first impression that you need to get past. Most people will figure it out fairly quickly by the things you say.

[Asker]

maybe im just going for those idiot fuck boys. I was talking to a guy and he wanted me to find a girl from tinder to send him pictures

[WindAtMyBack]

If fuck boys aren't what you want, then don't go for them. The thing is though that if it's all about sex, then your apparent age matters far more than your actual age.

But yea, you might need to fish in a different pond.

[Asker]

what do you mean my apparent age matters more

[WindAtMyBack]

I mean if it's purely physical, what you look like is far more important than your age.

[OlderAndWiser]

Your profile says that you are 30-35. Maybe they sense that you are telling a lie.

[Asker]

Telling lies? OK. I didn't even know this guy. He asked how old I was and looked shocked.

[RuthlessAggression]

Lots of men think that women aren't in their prime during their 30's. They of course are. They're at their peak in their 30's but the unfortunate thing is that as women get older, they start to lost their fertility, so, men might think well "I'm not ready to have kids but she's not getting younger". That MIGHT be what they're thinking, as is with my case but, I'm not him.

I'm just telling you what MIGHT be going through their heads

[jshm2]

Same reason a potential employer would. There is either something wrong with you, or you're a problem to deal with.

[SeekingVirginWife]

Not to be rude but this is how most men feel of 30 year old women. I hope you find someone.

[bamesjond0069]

Older a woman is less attractive. I dont mean looks. You sound like you look much younger but all the aspects of a relationship are far less attractive.

[Asker]

I'm 29 and people assumed I was still a student at university.

[bamesjond0069]

Yeah, that makes sense. Men as a whole prefer a younger woman. Plus their age matters many guys wouldn't like if you're older than them ha.

[Asker]

What about a guy 2 years younger than me

[bamesjond0069]

Depends on the guy but if he goes in thinking you're 22 and he's 27 and it turns out you're 29 that would be a dealbreaker for many men.

[Asker]

Well he's 28 and I'm 29

[bamesjond0069]

I don't know. Too specific i dont know the man or the situation. Personally id be just fine for casual sex still but i would not date. Too old, it won't turn serious and just dead end.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on the age of the guy and what he's looking for. It seems to be human nature that most guys are attracted to younger women and most women are attracted to older men.

[Asker]

he's 28 and im 29

[Opinion Owner]

I really don't know without getting into his head.

[Intothevoid666]

Because older women are less attractive this isn’t some cruel joke guys keep saying it’s a fact. Older women are less attractive for sex for a relationship for anything

[OldWorldOrder]

Would you rather eat a fresh cooked meal or leftovers? Somebody else's leftovers, at that.

[Zolly99999]

Age is just a number... It does not define the person.. some people are immature about age.

[Anonymous]

30 is when a female changes from a beautiful carriage to a pumpkin

[Asker]

Yes if you smoke/drink and sit on your arse all day

[Opinion Owner]

Nah not even.

Women have thinner skin naturally and it starts to crack and wrinkle at 30 and their looks go down hill fast.
Women also get dumpy hips and ass more quickly at 30.
Even women like Jennifer Anniston looks like dirt without cakes of makeup.

[serious]

30 years is not old at all.

[Jamie05rhs]

No clue. Are they like 25 or something?

[Asker]

They thought I was like 22 so maybe they were much younger lol

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah, maybe so lol.

[Jmmmfi4]

I wouldn't care a less

[Asker]

🤣🤣

[blowmedown]

that's a joke yeah?