Guys: Do you or would you still ask girls out on dates if you're having money issues?

[moonpie89]

Yes

No

[ohshee]

. To each there own but for me if for some reason I didn't have money there is no way in this world I would anyone out

I am the type of person if I asked you out and I want to take you someplace and I want to have fun with you and that means it's all on me and I had better be prepared to take care of business now that was just totally embarrassed me I could never asked anybody out

I looked at the guy if I asked you out on paying for everything no matter what that's just who I am that's who I've always been that's who I will always be

[NathanDavis]

that would depend on what is considered money issues...

if I were broke and out of a job then I would for sure focus on that alone, as it would be an indication that a lot of other things in my life went wrong, for me to reach that point

first things first... lol

[HighValue]

In my experience years ago, being low income is the main reason why a woman loses interest.
So, when making good money, treat them like prostitutes. It is okay because that is the way they behave.
Or treat them normally and she has to pay her own way for everything and she doesn't get any financial benefits from being with me at all.

[Adronicus]

Haven't went on a date in years (not because of money issues), in the modern scene that's setting yourself up as a provider & collectively women do not value that anymore until they've had their fun. Once they've had their fun I'm no longer interested in being a provider.

[PastorJohn69]

Sure.. you don't have a deep pocket... coffee shops, hikes, a walk in the park... so many things to do on little money
If she is insistant on a date above you budget, you already know she's not for you

[PastorJohn69]

I retired at 48, and I have to wise with my money. I never ask for donations or offerings from the people who are placed in my path, needing help or guidance. Most are homeless and addicted to something. Often it is the money from my pension that exchanges hands. I have learned to not care or put a high value of money.
Bills need to be paid sure... necessities... well.. called that for a reason.
Often I can never afford a fancy restaurant or weekend trip.
When the potential prospects come of dating someone opens up, they soon realize that I'm not stingy, or a tight wad, but I certainly live within my means.
They can either accept that about me, or they can't.
Know that there are plenty of people not looking for a sugar daddy, and prefer good company over expensive evenings..

So, just be you and do what you feel comfortable with.
I hope things work out well for you

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Love is love & like is like & if I like someone & she happens to be available I’ll ask her out. If money happens to be an issue I’ll be open & honest with her & ask her out anyway I’ll find a way to make her smile.

[Anonymous]

Define money issues. I'm not quite a millionaire yet. That's an issue to me.
What may be an issue to her may not be an issue to me.
I will say this BOTTOM LINE if how much I make, or how much I'm worth is an issue to her. I'M NOT INTERESTED.
Sorry if I din't give you the answer you were looking for. But that's the only way I know how to answer. Life doesn't come with guarantees. But a person who has character will always have character.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Probably not, on the first date I’m not spending much if not much at all. I rather her get to know me instead of my wallet

[moonpie89]

Have you ever been in a situation where you had to ask her to pay for you early on?

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Nope never.

[moonpie89]

At one point do you expect or want her to pay for your dates together?

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Not really. That can wait till we are in a relationship and I would like for her to pay once in awhile as a courtesy. Until then? I don’t expect her to do it

[moonpie89]

What's the average amount of dates it would take for her to consider be your girlfriend? Obviously it varies. Based on what you said , you're paying for the dates early on so does you paying factor in what you'll be doing on the date since you're paying?

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

3-4 dates gives me enough time to consider if someone is the best candidate to become serious with.

Hmm sometimes but I have a format to my dating process. 1st date : coffee and go for walk in the city or an area. 2nd: dinner and some sort of activity such as bowling, festival, carnival, etc. 3rd: Fancy dinner and long walk.

Around this time I should have an idea if she’s my ideal woman or not

[moonpie89]

Do you tell her about your dating process? What if she wants something higher scale than what you're offering? Is that considered a strike against her?

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

I don’t tell them but if she’s suggesting a restaurant that might be upscale then I’ll go AND still pay without any concerns but I’m not the guy who enjoys fancy things. If she likes the finer things in life , I’m not going to fault her for being her, I just have a more laidback down to earth perspective.

It might effect my opinion of her later but if she’s overall a fantastic women but just likes flashy things? She’s worth a try

[moonpie89]

I love that opinion. What if you're in a relationship with a girl and you're financially struggling? . You werent before but now you are. How would you prefer her to help you through that?

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

I wouldn’t ask for her for help but I’d just handle it on my own

[PastorJohn69]

Right, fully agree, it's cool to splurge occasionally...
I could eat at Cattlemen's once a month and take four people with me.
But I use that as a treat from time to time, and I would only set the standard like that if I didn't need to plan 10 years down the road
Not 53 yet, been retired for a few... VA pension does not pay the bills.
I have to be smart

[20yearsolder]

I sure would, You don't have to have a lot of money to go on dates. If she's a gold digger I don't want to date her anyway

[motownplayer2000]

Yes. Because if she says no because I have no money.. we know exactly what she is about and I don’t want that type of woman to walk up too on a daily basis.. fuck once or twice, sure. But she ain’t meeting the parents or family

[exitseven]

Yes, I dated a few girls when I was in college and I was broke most of the time.

[Anonymous]

No, you should be too busy solving them to have time

40 hours plus 10 more on overtime, 20 part-time elsewhere and ideally a side hustle to put cash into your pocket

[Sparkie460]

I'd solve my financial problems first so I can take women out to the places they deserve

[TallAnon]

Sure, might need to change where you are going, but that's it

[Avicenna]

Yeah, there are cheap dates after all

[Mate100]

Nothing is wrong with that

[VV3ZZY]

Yeah but they dont accept

[Slim57]

Yeah I am now but she accepts it