Girls: Do you accept dates from guys you aren't into?

[yupyup]

I asked this girl in my class

"Would you want to go out for dinner sometime?"

A few days ago, she said yes, and we made plans for later this week.

So maybe I am thinking into this too much, but asking a girl out like that obviously means I am interested, and I have seen nothing from her to show that she in interested in me after I asked her. In class she barely notices me anymore(it's not that she seems to be distancing herself from me, but she kind of treats me like I know her the least out of everyone, while people I introduced her to, she seems more friendly with).

She has complained about this one dude she has known for a while being a creep(although she has known him for over a year, and known me for less than a month), but seems to prefer his company over mine, etc, etc...

I don't feel like she is trying to play hard to get or anything, just because she still acts friendly, but it's just, I showed that I am interested in her, and she accepts a date, then turns around and acts distant.

So basically, did she just accept to not be mean? Is she trying to play some game? Or am I just thinking about this too much because I like her?

[friedaboisselle]

I'd have to say that you should talk to her about this BECAUSE...

What she did to you was exactly what I did to this guy I know. The only difference is that I actually went on the date with him.

But then I discovered that he just wasn't the kind of guy I thought I was interested in. It wasn't his fault, but if you're not interested than what can you do? . So, I tried ignoring him after that at the same time trying to act friendly.

It could be the same thing with her. I don't know.

The happy ending to this tale is that after a lot of rejections from me, 3 years later he know has a girlfriend...and I'm still single.

[yupyup]

I don't know about talking things out. I may as well shoot myself in the leg if I walk up to her and say "Hey remember when you said you would go out with me? Yeah so did you really mean that? I am so insecure you know, so like I would really appreciate some validation from you." (as true as that may be)

I just want to know what to expect I guess. It would be pretty lame if she dismissed me before even going out with me once. I guess I am just going to play it like everything is fine and dandy.

[friedaboisselle]

HAHA come to think of it, that is kind of weird :P

Fair enough. Play the 'yeah nothing happened' card. :) Good luck.

[eskimo_girl]

Maybe she's quite like me. Just don't know where or how to take the next step, without awkwardness. Maybe her worries seem to allow her to escape from what might happened. I mean, how is a girl suppose to act, or how to make it work out? I am asking that, because I'm not much experience, maybe she worries alot. What would you do to allow her to be herself, and appreciate you. Maybe she just worries alot. Lol I just said that, but I am quite the confused one. This has been done to me before, but all I did was worry, and to make it worse, I'd feel comfortable in the 'yeah nothings happend' zone.

what do you think?

[yupyup]

Idk, why would a girl be nervous if they like you and you ask them out? I pretty much may as well have said, hey I like you, would you really try and keep yourself away from a guy in that situation? Those would be some retarded nerves.

[Michelle276]

It kinda depends on the situation when you asked her. Was she excited when she said yes?

[yupyup]

I don't really know how she acted... She instantly said "sure, where are we going," and I asked what kind of food she likes, and then she got a little weird, like talking about irrelevant stuff before answering the question. I initially thought it was nerves and excitement that made her act that way, but after the past few days, I'm a little worried it was an "oh sh*t, why did I say yes."

[Michelle276]

She might be second guessing it..A sure isn't really the most excited answer.. And irrelevant subjects before answering what kind of food she likes is..not excited. You may wanna see how she is on the actual date. Because, yes, sometimes dates are accepted and they mean a lot more to the guy. Especially if she's a really nice girl.

[yupyup]

Yeah, I certainly don't think that as of now she's all that in to me. We're going out for lunch Wednesday, so I'll just see what happens. She is really kind of p*ssing me off with the way she's acting. I texted her tonight and asked when she was available, she came off really disinterested, and said she was busy except for maybe Wednesday. I gave her an out like "Well Wednesday is fine with me, but if you are busy, that's fine" And she said she would go Wed.

[yupyup]

So I figured, alright, I gave her an out, she didn't take it, so she must actually wanna go. But then I saw her tonight later on, and again with the f***ing disinterest. It seems so f***ing genuine. I'd much rather her just not go with me than me waste my time, and throw like $20-30 down the drain, not to mention all this thinking about what her deal is. Plus I worry she might like just really be thinking about this as a friendly thing, and I need to figure out where to take her for lunch.

[Michelle276]

If I were in your position, I wouldn't go.

You're only setting yourself up for disappointment.

Not to mention, to not be upright mean,I've made myself too busy to get time for people I really didn't want the same way they wanted me.only, I never actual agreed to a date. Only said I was busy to not have to reject them like that. So I say unless she seems more interested, don't go and don't waste your money.

[Kushmall]

should of told her where you are taking her like a resturant TGIF or something lol don't ask her what she likes otherwise its the same with the family where they ask you where you want to go and then they disagree ALL THE TIME just have to be the man and TELL the next girl you like that for a future reference.

[Anonymous]

I hope she's not like me but, sometimes I get bored and say yeah sure let's go while not at all interested in him. Then after going out with him I find out he's nothing fun after all, and just kinda distance myself so he stops liking me or following me around like we have something going on.