Okay so how can I convince my dad to let me go out and meet up with a guy?

[acidicloser]

hey girls so i met this guy he's really cool and handsome but my dad (grandpa it's a long story) is really strict my mom would have understood me but since she passed away i live with him and it's really hard he won't let me have a boyfriend and if i do he will kill him and kill me i mean I'm 18 I'm old enough to know what I'm doing and who i am hanging out with right? i don't know what to do i really like him and if i tell him that my dad won't let me date him or go out with him he will laugh at him for sure and he won't wanna date I'm going crazy right now like what do i do and also my dad doesn't know that i met this guy if he knew it would have been a big problem

[Man-O-Metal]

First, it’s very hard for some parents (even grand parents) to accept that their little girl is grown up and able to make decisions for themselves. I have a feeling I will be the same way someday if I have a baby girl. You need to talk with him and find the real reason why he doesn’t want you to date. But here’s the thing, don’t make your argument. Just get the facts on why he feels this way. If you try to argue, his emotions will take over and he’ll never let you date as long as you live in that house. So find out the reason why. It might make sense or it might be stupid. But who knows unless you ask? Like I said, don’t make an argument against his thoughts, just hear him out. And keep talking about it with him. You may find out something you didn’t know before, and once it has been discussed more frequently, maybe he will begin to open up to the idea of you dating. Just hang in there. I know this is difficult for you.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are 18 and you are legally an adult, so you can move out, get your own home, and make your own rules. Problem solved.

[mermaidcancermoon]

you're an adult. Go out just dont tell him the details. you're off to the mall or with a friend. Text him that you'll be back around this time frame.
The end.

I understsnd how it is. My mom was the same way. My love life didn't peak until i moved out. I lived with a college roomie for 5 years.

[Guy13]

Give him a fatherly plan. Dress normal and not slutty like modern women... what you are doing, where you going, share location for GPS, time return AND DO IT...

[Anonymous]

You're 18 and an adult. He can't "control" you anymore. I think under this specific situation, you just just keep him in the dark for now. If you like this guy and things develop further, then worry about talking to him about it. But he's set in his ways, and for whatever reasons he's got, you're unlikely to convince him at this point. So for right now (short term), what he doesn't know won't hurt him.

[Opinion Owner]

"i did that i lied and he was following me the whole time while my friends where waiting for me to finish meeting up.. and when i went home he literally beat me called me slut" - OMG you've got bigger problems than this. I'd be focusing on getting the hell away from him and moving out. Super abusive. Verbally and physically. Maybe see the police and charge him.

[SAMI_DABBAB]

This is deeply complicated, it would require either a fight (unfortunately) or a long conversation of you saying you'll listen because you're a good girl not because he's right, effectively making him look like the bad guy

[exitseven]

It would be a hard sell to me as well. Maybe have this guy show up at your house and pick you up in his car like a gentleman would.

[FunkyMonkee]

Tell it's just me and there's nothing to worry about.

[Sparkie460]

Maybe if your dad met him and saw that he was a responsible guy ( which I hope he is) he would let you go out with him.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Be thankful he cares, I knew someone basically in an identical situation and she’s in Heaven early because of it

[Fuentes]

You must not be 18 if you can't make up a lie and say your going out with friends

[acidicloser]

i did that i lied and he was following me the whole time while my friends where waiting for me to finish meeting up.. and when i went home he literally beat me called me slut

[Fuentes]

Move out

[EaterPeter]

Keep trying to propose him in funny manners or use moms help hope she is around

[Anonymous]

Maybe its time for you to move out?

[acidicloser]

ur right but the thing is i have nowhere to go and i don't have my own money

[Opinion Owner]

Then you should get a job?

[Jamesshinobi]

you can grow up and live in your own house.

[Ericblue35]

if you follow me i can tell you

[lickysplit]

What if you group dated

[acidicloser]

what do u mean

[lickysplit]

Like 3 or 4 couples go out together, would dad go for that

[Iron_Man]

Bad idea