u The importance of a gift should never be measured in dollars and cents. It should be measured by the the time and effort that went into selecting and securing the gift.
For Mother's Day, I have my mother a throw blanket that she keeps on her lap while sitting in her recliner. Her old one was ratty and rough and I bought her a plush one that is comfortable and warm. She absolutely loves it and mentions it every time I see her. It cost less than $20 but I thought about what she needed and looked until I found the right one. That was a great gift for her.
Ir I could have given her a $100 gift card, but she rarely leaves her home and that would have been worthless to her.
Yes, I think so. If one is way richer than the other then they should still buy gifts at a price point the other person can afford so that other person don't feel pressured... it really depends on the couple though and what they want to do with their money. But gifts don't need to be expensive to begin with.
If the couple is serious about being together then in my opinion they shouldn't buy gifts for the sake of it but only if the other person really wants something... I recently got a relatively expensive gift for my fiance because he wanted it but I told him I don't want anything like that for my own birthday... because I just don't want anything specific and it's best that we save the money which at this point is ours anyways rather than spend it for no reason. Instead I was promised a nice dinner that he'll cook himself :)
Should women open doors for men? Or should women pull chairs for men? If you talk about gender equality then there are a lot of other habits that we women have to change in ourselves before we think of "it" being actually practiced in the society, Else it is all just impractical talks. Personally I would and i do spend sparingly and buy a gift that speaks my heart out to the person whom I love not comparing whar kind of money he spent on gifts for me. Lets not make gifts a means if trade, let it just be an expression of emotions. and i think everybody should do the same.
I dont think women should necessarily "spend" more or the same as a man, BUT it's the thought of it counts. I wouldn't say you need to match the spending but match the intention. If a man is giving you presents and you are not giving anything in return they will start to think that maybe you dont like them as much. They will get into their own head, OR some guys dont care, but I would say to be on the safe side at least getting a small gift to show them that you are noticing what they are doing for them will go a long way and that guy will value you more.
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Personally I don’t think men and women should spend a lot of money on presents for each other. My mom still has a dry rose that my dad “stole” from his neighbors garden to gifted to her (lol he was 11)… but she still has it because of his intention to make her smile that day. So to me, it’s not how expensive the gift is, but the intention that counts.
IF a woman wants to buy an appropriate present, say for a birthday or some other occasion after knowing someone for awhile, she needs to spend what she can afford.
This would be true for a man.
However, presents ARE NOT appropriate until you've known someone for a long enough time, and that the giver AND receiver don't feel uncomfortable about giving or getting.
Unless it's something very small and inexpensive, say bubble bath, I don't think present giving is appropriate until people are officially boyfriend and girlfriend. And then no one will feel awkward.
For me personally, I'm not materialistic at all, my girlfriend is also super busy as her family depends so much on her, she goes to college full time and she works with her mom and gets paid little.
Before you say "why the fuck aren't you tackling some tasks for her, you retard!" As you should be, but here's the thing, we're long distance, so I can't drive her mom and brothers to and from work for her.
It's about the thought for me, one time I asked her to send me a video of her blowing a kiss to me and she did, it was the single sweetest thing that anyone has ever done for me and the best gift I've ever received🥰
It's not how much you spent, it's how much thought has gone into the gift or time you're giving them.
This applys both ways, it doesn't matter what you spend on a guy aslong as it show you care and how much you know and listen to them.
Like say you like history or art so he takes you to a museum and dinner afterwards.
Say he like bowling or Lazer tag, you could set a day like that for you and him.
Gift wise is the same, could be a childhood memory object or a book.
It doesn't have to be expensive jewellery or big flowers.
It’s really not about money. It’s about principle. Some of the best gifts I’ve given or received were not always necessarily expensive. Rather they were THOUGHTFUL. That’s what matters.
The fact that you are thinking about dollar signs (or most likely have friends who think this way) is a fundamental problem with women. Yes it’s sexist for me to say that but it’s truth. Seriously how often do you see guys seeking out women for money? It’s extremely rare when they do.
Anyway you see your boyfriend or husband is just a ATM machine with a penis than you are perpetuating sexism in our world. If your married then he has a job to provide and protect but not spoil and enable. There is a difference.
I ghosted a girl who tried to do this bullshit to me a years ago. It was never agreed upon either she just assumed she was entitled. It really wasn’t a money issue but a respect issue. She didn’t even say thank you.
Nobody is obligated to buy anything. I do suppose income does make a difference though. A relationship is a give and take though. You buy gifts to be nice not to make the other owe you something.
If one person is doing more then the other though that is a problem... Again it has to work BOTH ways.
Women spend more thought on presence and It should impress us but we fail to realize the significance.
Men spend more money on presence and it should impress ladies but they fail to realize the significance.
So I wonder if we swap would it be better?
If your partner spends a lot of money on a gift for you that’s fine but they shouldn’t except you to spend just as much or even a lot on a gift for them. Honestly I prefer a man to make something and not spend heaps of money on gifts.
Gifts don’t need to be expensive nor should you be expected to spend a certain amount of money on things.
If they expect you to spend a lot of money on them then I’d say dip😬
Whether female or male, no one is obligated to buy expensive gifts because it's optional. If the person who makes more money chooses to dote on his/her partner then why complicate it by making it an equality issue, just accept the gift and be happy.
Gift giving isn't about keeping score or getting something in return, it's about expressing your love for another person.
Shiii... i ain't buyin' his ass anything. I'll bring my attention and respect for the guy but that's it. He wanna bring me a present... maybe he should keep it. If it's not my own servant to go to walmart for me and I supply them with the money, I don't need it
I am somewhat against presents. But if it is appropriate (eg Birthday) I would. I am quite conscious my dollars are not her dollars and most likely I am earning a lot more than she is. So I am happy to spend more and for it not to be matched.
Highest priority is I think she will like it and it is good quality but I'd try for it not to be obviously expensive.
To me, it's more important that the present is thoughtful, or that someone made an effort. Some of the best presents I was ever given were homemade stuff or even just stuff someone owned that they passed onto me. But those things matter because they remind me of someone I love.
I wouldn't keep tabs on it. It's the thought that counts. My ex used to get me lots of thoughtful little gifts when we dated, if anything she probably spent more on me than likewise. I often forget to buy gifts for loved ones, but when I do it's usually a spur of the moment thing coz I saw something abd thought she'd appreciate it.
Difficult question
I dont think either side is entitled to presents when giving, but both should at least be doing their best to reciprocate the gifts and show they care.
If a guy is making millions and showering the girl with gifts or vice versa, I dont expect her to spend the same amount. Its more about the thought and effort then the amount spent (unless you get something like an erasor for him)
depends on both partners financial situation. If one person is hurting economically the other should spend more if they make the same they should buy eachother gifts that are on the same level.
Woman do spend money on gifts 🎁, but some times is a watch, or it could be singing you like or love, it all depends on her budget, because I have seen women who bought from a pin to a car for her man, but most times men are the ones who generally give gifts
I don't think presents are really necessary while dating. I think that it's okay to start giving presents once you enter into an official relationship, though (even if you're not engaged yet.). But I would still caution people to stay focused on the relationship and not get distracted by materialism.
A lot of people do use gifts as a crush to avoid emotional vulnerability and intimacy and building a deeper bond with their partner.
In relationships I'm guilty of spoiling my partner with gifts even if it's expensive. I love shopping so every time I go I'll get them a gift
If both have the financial stability to afford expensive gifts to each other then why not? However, is not the monetary value of the gift that matters.
Presents are not about the money, especially not in a relationship. I really don't care. I rather want a present he thought is something I would really like instead of just buying a kinda random expensive jewelry or so.
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