Girls, will you put a job first over dating?

[red324]

I went on a date like probably 4 months ago with this girl and she bought some $400,000 house and we had 2 or 3 dates I can't remember. Anyways, since she bought this house she had to pickup a second job to pay for it. The problem is she she doesn't set aside any time for me. The house is actually too expensive for her and I can tell she's struggling to pay for it. The thing is here is that she'll text me randomly like a month later saying sorry she's been distant bla bla bla after i've tried to get her on another date and she's done this a couple times. I don't get it. What's she doing dating other guys and keeping me as plan C? I get it people are busy, but nobody is too busy to not go out on a date i'm not stupid.

Opinions?

[On_cloud_wine]

That’s actually a HUGE investment for her if she had to pick up a second job. I wouldn’t make accusations like that since that’s proof in itself. Be patient with her. Her time is precious and she’s doesn’t have much to spare to just anyone, and sometimes being alone is a good way to recharge.. so I say I’m busy when I’m alone too, lol

[On_cloud_wine]

I have a sense her schedule is written down.. work and play time.. this kind of girl doesn’t like anyone being late or canceling last minute, makes plans in advance.. so if you do make plans with her, stick with them. Otherwise, she won’t give you a second chance.

[red324]

I've been on a lot of dates as you know and I think she's a decent girl worth seeing where it goes. I'm not one to cancel plans, but yeah her main job they cut her hours back so she had to pick up a second job make up for it.

[On_cloud_wine]

Cool beans.

[red324]

I can't remember when we went put last though it was like 2 months ago so I'm not high on her list.

[On_cloud_wine]

That’s not a good sign.

[LazerBean]

I wouldn't have bought a house I couldn't afford in the first place. But who gets how much priority really just depends on how far into the "relationship" we are

[red324]

Yeah I never get very far for whatever reason.

[red324]

2 dates usually.

[red324]

2 dates then life gets in the way for these girls. Usually work is there excuse.

[LazerBean]

They may just not be into you and are using that as an excuse. Either way, I personally would rather get my sign to move on after 2 dates than after 6 months.

[red324]

I think she really is focusing on work because she's kind of said that from day 1. She's got a baby daddy though so i guess she still gets her sex from him or something I guess.

[Guy13]

Is she one of those must always be busy and if I’m not I’m lonely and must fill my time. Ask why she don’t rent half of that house out to friend or some 60 year old…. Might be something to talk about…focus on her well being etc…🤷🏻‍♂️

[Dinklex3]

I prioritize my job over dating. My partners are pretty understanding about that though.
Doesn't sound like she's that into you though tbh.

[sheikalana]

Well, you're not a priority to her. Seems like she's not that interested. Just move on.

[red324]

As usual. What else is new.

[WhitneySnow]

She’s got two jobs. She probably is too busy to go out all the time.

[Nikki1989]

Nope. My husband is my everything.

[red324]

So what do you think she's doing? This is a common theme I run into with girls I meet online. They work all the time and don't know how to manage their social life.

[red324]

She's mentioned she work like 60-70hrs/ week from the beginning so I'm not doubting she works a bunch.

[red324]

I just don't know what to do at this point. She's probably the most normal girl i've been out with in the last year or so and I'm comparing her to like 10 other girls I went on dates with.