We're both 23. I'm around 5'5 and 210 on a weight loss journey, but I have a figure and larger assets I guess. She's around 5'2 and I'm not sure the exact number, but a lot bigger. We have different fashion senses, I tend to dress down, while she's always in a bunch of makeup, fake hair/nails, and show-y clothes (I'm not saying this factors into attractiveness, just for reference.) I also take my time to open up to a group, and she typically steals the "limelight" so to speak.
Most people would say "you're jealous! Try being care-free instead of worrying about your looks!" That's not the case. There's someone for everyone, and she spends a lot of time on dating apps, so I don't care that she gets attention. BUT, my boyfriend (also her ex who cheated) texted her for sex, and we confronted him, he wanted to hurt me on purpose by saying he never loved me & loved her instead**, among other things. After the b/u, we planned to move in together and spent a lot of time time house hunting. She would always rub other men & her boyfriend in my face, commenting on how she always got attention, and how "she made every man she's with fall in love with her**."
I tried to not let my feelings about my breakup get in the way of what she wanted to talk about, but whenever I mentioned "wow, I've been getting a lot of guys looking at me recently." because it's something she talked about, she got annoyed & said "Yeah, that happens to everyone." She would try to one up me, laugh when guys wanted me for sex, tried to make me look dumb in front of others, & always got defensive/started arguments when I asked follow up questions about her boyfriend, or talked about me (our) ex. Tbh, SHE seemed like the jealous one. But, when I tried to be carefree, & just love life, I would get made fun of or even ignored. Yet it seems like guys like her more despite her negative personality and lower quality looks. Even my ex felt he had to hurt me & not her.
Most people would say "you're jealous! Try being care-free instead of worrying about your looks!" That's not the case. There's someone for everyone, and she spends a lot of time on dating apps, so I don't care that she gets attention. BUT, my boyfriend (also her ex who cheated) texted her for sex, and we confronted him, he wanted to hurt me on purpose by saying he never loved me & loved her instead**, among other things. After the b/u, we planned to move in together and spent a lot of time time house hunting. She would always rub other men & her boyfriend in my face, commenting on how she always got attention, and how "she made every man she's with fall in love with her**."
I tried to not let my feelings about my breakup get in the way of what she wanted to talk about, but whenever I mentioned "wow, I've been getting a lot of guys looking at me recently." because it's something she talked about, she got annoyed & said "Yeah, that happens to everyone." She would try to one up me, laugh when guys wanted me for sex, tried to make me look dumb in front of others, & always got defensive/started arguments when I asked follow up questions about her boyfriend, or talked about me (our) ex. Tbh, SHE seemed like the jealous one. But, when I tried to be carefree, & just love life, I would get made fun of or even ignored. Yet it seems like guys like her more despite her negative personality and lower quality looks. Even my ex felt he had to hurt me & not her.
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For clarification, she spends lots of time on dating apps to as to find another guy when her boyfriend is unavailable or annoys her. Apparently they're "just friends" and they just hang out, late at night, 1 on 1, at the guy's house, and do drugs, and nothing else.
One of those men have now happened to be my/our ex, who cheated on us both, and mistreated/felt he had to hurt me more.
One of those men have now happened to be my/our ex, who cheated on us both, and mistreated/felt he had to hurt me more.
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1 y
We're not friends anymore, and I've cut her off, but she shoved it in my face so much, it begged the question of why, despite her personality.
F/U Question: Is loud confidence often preferred over quiet? She's definitely loud/boastful/braggy, but it comes off as confidence masking insecurity.
F/U Question: Is loud confidence often preferred over quiet? She's definitely loud/boastful/braggy, but it comes off as confidence masking insecurity.
