We started talking about finally actually seeing each other, but niether of us have driving licenses and/or access to cars, so we're basically dependent on a six-hour, 240-mile, bus journey with only one return journey available per day. She cites financial issues as why she can't come to me, whereas I just want to know that she picks up my phone calls before I commit to that bus journey.
I remember being like this while dating a crush, call her Brenda, in high school as well. Distances and travel was not as much of an issue as she lived in a suburb within my city, but I was really dependent on buses, which are infrequent to that suburb. I basucally said no when she asked me over to her place to hang out with her and her friend one day, because it was too much of a hassle for me to get there.
And now I find myself in a similar situation with Jodie, but more exaggerated of cours with a 200+ mile distance rather than the three miles between me and Brenda at the time we "dated".
So why do I have such a need to control the terms when meeting up is even remotely complicated?