At 19, you are still very young. It may not feel that way, but trust me you are. Plenty of people your age have never dated. You may not realize this because the people who are dating get all the attention, but a significant number of people have never dated at 19.
I never dated anyone at 19... and I actually went a VERY long time without dating or being in a relationship. I'm embarrassed to publicly admit how old I actually was before it happened... but it was way way after age 19...
Anyway, here are some tips:
1. If you are at all able to ask a guy out, go for it. One of the main reasons I stayed single for an eternity is because I'm very shy, and when I was your age, it was impossible for me to ask girls out. In fact, it's still really hard for me.
There are so many times when I've wondered if a girl might have been interested in me, and I blew it because of my inhibitions. The thing is I don't even know if people realize how hard this is for me, because I don't act shy around friends and I can hide my shyness in most public situations.
Honestly, I would still have gone through life without dating, if there weren't a small number of girls in the world willing to take a bit of initiative. I feel really bad admitting that. But I also think it's kind of dumb that we still live in a world where guys are expected to take all the risk.
And while probably most guys don't have hang ups as bad as me, most of the ones I know don't find it terribly fun asking girls out all the time. So I think most guys will appreciate when a girl occasionally takes the lead or at least breaks the ice. Some, like myself, are quite grateful.
2. Don't completely rule out online dating. It never worked for me, but I see more and more people meeting that way. I think it's almost the norm right now. Two of my good friends found their long term partner through online dating.
Online dating has two advantages -- it makes it easier to meet people outside of your social circle, and it helps you focus on people who are actually (hopefully) single. I wasted a lot of my time getting my hopes up over people I later learned were in a relationship. Of course, online dating also has a lot of disadvantages. Some guys will spam a million women pretending to be interested in them, when they're only looking for a casual hook-up. The apps are also designed poorly, and usually don't make it easy to find people you would actually be interested in. So it can be very frustrating, and everyone I know who was successful with online dating put a decent amount of effort into it. Finally, there are a lot of weirdos out there, and you don't have the protection of having the person vetted by your social circle. However, the one sociopath I dated who I wish I never met, wasn't someone I met online -- I actually met them through an acquaintance.
3. Have friends of yours set you up on dates. This is one of the best ways to meet people, if you find online dating too impersonal and aren't having any luck on your own. This of course depends on having good friends, who actually know what you're looking for.
4. Consider if you're in too small of a community to meet enough people. Many people don't start dating until they're in college, because their high school simply didn't have anyone who was a good match for them. This is also why most high school relationships don't last long -- because most couples in high school are not good matches. But if you don't go off to a big university or big city, and remain in a small town, you may simply not be meeting enough people.
Some people get lucky, but for most of us, I don't think finding true love is very easy at all. At the end of the day, you want a relationship that's actually going to work...
You're 19, most 19 year old guys are single and it's 10,000 times harder for them to get a date then for you.
How are you approaching? Do you approach? Are you only going after certain types of guys , have a list of requirements, height income etc? Do you give guys CLEAR PERMISSION TO APPROACH, or do you play games?
This was me. You need to start going out more. Parties, events. Look cute a guy will approach you and if they do don't turn them all down right away. Taking a number won't hurt
Hi there! I didn't go on my first date until I was 19! Don't worry!
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Well if you are vaccinated, it also means you are not pureblood and makes it even harder to find a good husband.
I am virgin too, I am proud of myself.
Can't say I really know either but I do know the dating world is a bit messed up and skewed since all the social media and dating apps. My best guess is a good majority are prob people they knew from work
Well you are the same boat as me and i don't feel weird about cause i haven't been attracted to any woman the way it should be. So its totally normal
Where do you live? Go to school or work? I can think of a lot of possibilities. Long discussion, but message me if you like.
I'm exactly your age and everything you said applies to me.
many of them are online now it's the new date system just need to be careful
I got so many questions
Have you ever asked someone out?
I'm single too so I know the feeling.
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