What is an absolute deal breaker to you that might seem petty to others?

Question

My deal breaker is If they aren't Disney fans or dont have good music tastes

ethanallen · Accepted Answer

1. smoking

2. women who have college degrees in stupid stuff like Psychology or East Asian Studies. The worst is "Women's studies" followed only by "African American Studies." Don't forget "Business Administration. Why can't women take on the serious subjects like Math, Computer Science and Engineering?

3. She had kids. No guy should ever date a woman with kids. Stay away from them.

4. Old fat women. Women after 30 start a downward spiral with their beauty declining so fast that if they don't marry by 35, statistics show they never will.

5. Deadbeat women. They live in their parents house at 30. They have had kids without being married. They have been to rehab once. They don't have any career or plans for the future. Their only goal is to find some dick who will provide for them

6. She is a closet alcoholic. If you spend time together and she insists on having alcohol, she is probably an alcoholic but you can't see it because she is pretty and has amazing pussy.

7. She has sexual problems in the bedroom (is boring). No facials, no swallowing, no anal, no sex outside the bedroom, no submission. She thinks sex is for making babies. IF you aren't making babies, you aren't having sex.

8. She is aligned with a church and cannot think for herself. Worst examples are Catholics , Baptists, Mormons.

9. She does respect monogamy which in turn means she respects you.

10. She discusses information that you tell her is confidential with her girlfriends and Mother. This one caused me to continue dating a woman for a year just for the sex and then I dropped her without warning when I graduated from college.

You now see why men think that there are few quality women worth making a marriage commitment.

TruthBringer · Accepted Answer

If I'm dating for long term reasons, then these are my dealbreakers that others consider to be "petty":

1. When she is overweight (I'm a fit guy so I have the right to prefer a fit girl)

2. When she has a high body count. Why The Number of Sexual Partners Matters

3. When she doesn't have conservative/traditional values (I have them and I'm not going to settle for headaches with a "modern" woman).

4. When identifies as a feminist.

5. When she got guy "friends". Why it’s almost impossible for men and women to be “just friends”

Despite I'm probably going to receive some butthurt replies, they will pale in comparison to the fact I'm in a wonderful relationship with someone who lives up to these requirements. And our relationship keeps getting stronger.

Smashingdoozy · Accepted Answer

Hmm petty to others... I think all my deal breakers would seem petty to the guys on here.

I'd drop a guy in a second if he shows any (what I think is) negative conservative views. Says anything against LGBTQ+ or tries to get me to have a conversation/reconnect with my family, despite knowing what happened.

Whatthefluff · Accepted Answer

Not respecting boundaries, even small ones. If you continously have to tell someone "no" or "stop", even for a small thing, it shows they aren't going to respect you when it's a big thing. Relationships of all kinds cannot be healthy without trust, including respecting boundaries and consent.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Mine is they don’t kill insects or won’t take out the trash.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Poor hygiene and lazy 🤮

Wraith_Cemetery · Answer

I don't think a lot of these people understand what "petty" means. A lot of what is listed isn't even petty. A lot of it is reasonable.

A petty thing that is a dealbreaker for me is fashion style. If she dresses like she just woke up out of bed all the time, then it's a solid "nope". If all she wears are yoga pants, crop tops, and athleisure... NOPE.

She has to have class and has good fashion. A lot of girls today don't know a single thing about dressing well.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

If she has zero interest in leaving out of her parents house and not becoming independent. I will tell everyone right now I am a guy who still currently lives with his parents and sisters but eventually I am interested in getting my own job and moving out. I don't mind if my future girl is exactly like me she still living with her parents but deeply want to move out and have her own life, I don't mind that but what I don't like is a lazy, unmotivated bum who still want to have mommy and daddy support them I ain't interested in babying someone who isn't my future kids if I have any.

NZGirl07 · Answer

Not wanting a dog! I've wanted one all my life, my previous boyfriend didn't want one and I never stopped thinking about that haha. Also probably my partner being okay with a threesome, because to me that shows I'm not enough for them/grosses me out.

oneHuman · Answer

An instant turn off for me is when a girl takes her "tests" too far. I know u girls do it to see wether the guy lets himself be disrespected or not but u can take it too far.
For example once I went to the gym with a girl and before leaving we went for a shake. They are usually prepaired by the gym staff and the women who did our shakes spilled some of the powder on the floor. I got up and helped her clean it since she always makes the shake for me. The girl with me then said sth. along the lines of "I like to watch you clean". Call me insecure but this is what makes it petty. for me it was already a turn off, that she didn't help to begin with. long story short: A bit fun is alright but I dont waste my time on people that play silly games.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Doesn't like dogs... sorry I have one, not giving her up for anyone.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

I was a Disney fan, now I dislike it. They ruined star wars and now all they do is lazy film writing, greed and putting political correctness agendas into their movies

Dealbreaker for me would be:

-tiktok star

-self entitled

-Golddigger

-fake, lying

-rude, berating, no respect or empathy

-having no matching interests

alice55 · Answer

If they're leftist I would never date them, they're the worst hypocrite on earth.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

If they try to one up something i show them.

OverThePlace · Answer

Being late. I've dealt with one guy who was always constantly late! Never ever again. If someone was in hospital, I would be understanding but if they are late because they are so unorganised. I'm not wasting my time with that person.

dustybiker · Answer

People who look down on animals. As if their lives don’t matter.

DirkCoenen · Answer

She must be a christian, but if she doesn't believe in infant baptism then she and I can't get married because I want my children baptised. I only date with the intention to marry.

AviatorTom · Answer

If this happened...

NathanDavis · Answer

if you actually think that Aaron Rodgers is better than Tom Brady...

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

If they smoke. I don't know, I feel like most of my dealbreakers are pretty acceptable, I don't see them as petty

convo_king89 · Answer

Smoking, I hate the smell. Plus I can see she would chose the cuffs over me due to the addiction. Then again this isn’t really petty. I don’t think I have petty one since I’d be willing to work with it.

globetrotter22 · Answer

Not shaving legs/armpits may be “petty” to some men. But it’s a deal breaker for me.  But I have a long list of very legitimate dealbreakers.

SaraSmithishere · Answer

(1) Someone who doesn't value their health (wear sunscreen, eat well, work out, etc.) (2) Someone TOO socially awkward

iSlipKnot · Answer

I don't like people that are heavy into Disney.  Some petty deal breakers are clothing choices. If I see: Birkenstocks, pajamas in public, Crocs or uggs, my interest turns off.

anon1903 · Answer

Homophobia and transphobia. Huge deal breakers. It means next stop is sexism.

dudeinohio · Answer

A woman I'm getting into a relationship with being in communication with guys she slept with in the past...(guys she has kids with are an exception)

TonightYouu · Answer

If she sleeps with socks on or thinks this is a fucking lobster 😤

Intothevoid666 · Answer

If they are not interested right off the bat. If they fuck someone else after they met me but before we are exclusive then I’m not interested anymore

Blackcupcake · Answer

if they can’t laugh with me about the dumb things I laugh at…

Moose304 · Answer

Politics, Smoking, Visible tats, and horrid personal hygiene.

Juxtapose · Answer

If you get offended easily then I lose my boner to the point where my dick shrinks back into my body.

Valso · Answer

Religiousness.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@smahala1991 My absolute deal breakers are saying my name incorrectly, no shared musical tastes, supporting liberal beliefs, riding a motorcycle, & hate playing video games.

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Lack of common free time. Though I don't know if that really qualifies as "petty".

Lotusinmud · Answer

If there a leftist a communist or don’t like animals

Babygirl_S · Answer

A height less than 6 ft. I can attract tall guys so why not?

Titanic1912 · Answer

Not liking music, different religious beliefs, opposite political views and not wanting sex.

Beardedman1996 · Answer

Wanting kids or extreme baby fever, gotta respect what your partner wants but if you have a hard boundary they can’t respect gotta cut the cord

Vegasrunner · Answer

I dont deal w/ chicks that dont give blowjobs.

llorando · Answer

They aren't a fan of the Big O. If they can't enjoy his music, that's an instant turn off.

Agape93 · Answer

Thinking you're at all in charge of me

Still-alive · Answer

I guess if im just not attracted to their face. thats like my only physical requirement.

Ronnie_Tulsa · Answer

This is my new deal breaker, I want a child, If she can't or won't have kids it's not worth my time advancing into a relationship

Shy_Steve · Answer

If they are more Confident than me I find them Unattractive.

bbjo- · Answer

lacks character (lazy, dishonesty, rude) & not a practicing Muslim.

Manab · Answer

Licking all fingers while eating and making noises...

HighValue · Answer

If they are a liberal/democrat.

susie22 · Answer

Smoking, poor hygiene, rudeness

KBird · Answer

Lack of motivation or ambition :-/

Pink2000 · Answer

Not liking animals.

Avicenna · Answer

If she has a bad diet (too much fast food)

catlover713498 · Answer

Not liking cats DUH

msc545 · Answer

Dislike of Animals is a deal breaker.

loveslongnails · Answer

Ugly hands and feet

Anonymous · Answer

Calling people 'mate'.

Po1989 · Answer

If they want to talk about their ex.

Zolly99999 · Answer

To high a body count

OddBeMe · Answer

Disney movies are the opiate of media.

SaoirseS · Answer

Tattoos.

Qdbrown · Answer

tattoos.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Smoker

Slim57 · Answer

Not liking animals

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Weak conversations

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