How to get over the fact my boyfriend (20) isn’t a virgin and I am (19)?

[Anonymous]

I love my boyfriend to pieces but he’s already had all his firsts and 2 relationships while I’ve never even had guy friends before much less had sex. I’m not mad at him since I know he can’t go back in time but recently I’ve been thinking about how intimately he was with them and it grosses me out and makes me sad and scares me. I know to me he’s special but to him what makes me anything more than a future ex. What if I’m bad at sex and embarrass myself, what if he compares us, I’ll be in the same position as the girls before me, there’s nothing different to him this is just normal routine, date and girl and fuck her. I love him, how do I get over this?

[LazerBean]

If it bothers you then just find another virgin. But in my opinion unless you are waiting for marriage it's not going to mean that much anyway since you will still probably just be, as you put it, a future ex.

[kylee2437]

Most guys do not care about a girls performance for one. Two he’s probably more scared about his performance because even though you are a virgin, there’s still porn expectations to live up to. Third, you need to stop living in the past. Your boyfriend can’t help what he has done before you and that’s not for you to try and dissect that part of his life. Realize he is choosing you now.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Maybe think of how he is with you now, if those people he had sex with before were better than their pussy then he would probably still be with them don't you think

[Asker]

I have to keep reminding myself that I’m the one dating him. Thank you

[Berethor]

Usually guys care about it more than girls, but you can leave him and look for a virgin guy.

[Daniela1982]

Well, have sex and then neither of you will be a virgin then. As for being embarrassed, everyone has a first time so it's nothing to be embarrassed about.

[Avicenna]

Just don’t think about it.

[Asker]

I’m not choosing to it’s in intrusive thought that flashes through my mind when I’m with him. If I could just not I promise you I would.

[Avicenna]

Doesn't he love you too? And when you love someone, the sex is much better. You really have nothing to worry about, you just have to realize that. Sex is fun, you will be fine.

[Anonymous]

It is not a big deal, get over it.