What should I do if a date Spit in my face? how should I feel?

[Savannah194]

[OlderAndWiser]

If a girl intentionally did that to me, I would stand up, walk away, get in my car and leave, abandon her to find her own way home, immediately block all means of her contacting me, and give her the ghost treatment. And I am vehemently opposed to ghosting under most circumstances but this behavior is the epitome of disrespect.

[Savannah194]

@OlderAndWiser I agree

[OlderAndWiser]

Any idea why this happened to you?

[Savannah194]

@OlderAndWiser yes the guy got mad cause I wouldn't go back to his hotel on the first date.

[OlderAndWiser]

Wow, what a selfish pig! How old is he?

[Savannah194]

@OlderAndWiser this was two years ago he was 25 at the time

[OlderAndWiser]

If you were 15 and he was 25, then he is even more to blame!

You understand now that all he ever wanted from you was sex?

[Savannah194]

@OlderAndWiser I agree and yeah I did figure that out when he spit in my face. never been madder in my life

[OlderAndWiser]

I guess your parents did not know about this rendezvous?

[Savannah194]

@OlderAndWiser no they still dont know

[OlderAndWiser]

I understand. That was two years ago and now you are older and wiser, right? :) :) :)

[Savannah194]

@OlderAndWiser yeah plus I got even so yes

[OlderAndWiser]

How did you get even?

[Savannah194]

@OlderAndWiser well i kicked him beat him up pretty good for spiting in my face

[OlderAndWiser]

Looking back, do you think that was a risky thing to do? Couldn't he have returned some violence in your direction?

[Savannah194]

@OlderAndWiser yeah I do think it was risky looking back on it, but to be honest I was so pissed off thats all I could see.

[OlderAndWiser]

I understand getting all wrapped up in the feelings at that moment!

[Staximus]

You sound like a person who is lucky to be alive and doesn't know how to keep themselves out of trouble. What the hell were you thinking?

[OlderAndWiser]

@Staximus She was 15 years old! We all have done stupid stuff when we were that young.

[Staximus]

I would take that motherfucker 20 miles down a dirt road in bear country and leave him tied to tree.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Staximus If I was her daddy and I found out about that, I would probably take him out in the swamp so the gators could get him.

[OlderAndWiser]

. . . or just cut off his nuts.

[Gutterscream]

If a woman spat in a guy's face (which I've only seen, not the other way around) and he did the same to her, how would that go over with you. If men are just supposed to 'walk away', how come women have a hard time taking the same advice, especially when guys in all likelihood can annihilate them if they chose to? Women are just lucky the majority don't because they have brains in their heads and are familiar with restraint. Of course both reactions are immature, but I'd hold him more responsible than a fifteen year old.

While this guy's a perv for going out on a date with a fifteen year old (assuming he knew you were that young), why did you agree to go on a date with a 25 year old (assuming it was apparent that he was older)? He's a complete idiot if he didn't know and didn't ask, but if he knew and still didn't care then he's an idiot for a variety of other reasons that are pretty obvious.

[Gutterscream]

Men and women giving you advice that advocates/supports (for) you, a fifteen year old girl, to react with physical violence (that in this case would be quite hard to call self-defense, technically) against a twenty five year old man - a stranger - that you know nothing about is unfortunately part of the reason why many girls are found dead in ditches.

This is one of many situations where you have to be smart, not emotional. In such a moment (and it is only but a moment), a person should/must (be able to) review the possible outcome (s) of whatever action (s) one's thinking of taking. It's necessary for survival. Besides, who's to say he's not out there planning his revenge on you right now?

[KrakenAttackin]

@savannah194. Level one troll.

[Hawaiikai]

Fuck him. I WOULD BE FUCKING PIST, HURT, FEEL DEGRADED, FEELING AS IF I WAS A SLAB CONCRETE THAT PEOPLE WALK ON. Honestly, being sensitive I would cry and become depressed and I would tell myself that I wasn’t good enough. It is up to you to go deep within yourself and decide how you really feel and what actions to take. However that shows you want kind of person you are dealing with. I would be thankful i found out early how they are before continuing any further. Life is sometimes and there are just dirty nasty disrespectful disregardful People out there that would others like this. Try not let this ruin you. It was a bad day, not a bad life. 💜💜💜💜

[Hawaiikai]

*life is sometimes hard

* people out there is that would treat others like this

[Emiliamazing]

And the date immediately and never go on a date with that person again. Wash your face off if a towels are available.

[Emiliamazing]

*End

[Savannah194]

@emiliamazing oh believe me there is no second date after and I didn't plan on that anyway beforehand

[Emiliamazing]

I figured that out after I read some of the other responses!. Spitting is just disgusting to begin with, let alone add another person

[Savannah194]

@emiliamazing yeah and it was not like someone accidentally spitting while talking, he got made cause I wouldn't sleep with him after the first date and he hocked up a big load of spit and got in my eye too

[DannyUk2017]

I guess you got your answer already from the most people on here... But i'm thinking... if it Would have been The Other Way Round! What would He Have Done? Slap the fk out of you? I'm sure he would got in his car, and left... let you where you stand, to find your way home... I don't encourage that type of behaviour... it is wrong what he did anyway... that is Disgursting and Degenerating!

[AviatorTom]

Your date is an uncouth idiot. You don't need to feel anything because it's your dates problem, not yours. And you should never see this date again.

[Savannah194]

@AviatorTom I agree with you nothing makes me madder than that, he did it because I wouldn't go back to his hotel afterwards, and I did beat him up and kicked him

[AviatorTom]

@savannah194 Your physical response might be a little over the top... but he deserved it.

[Savannah194]

@AviatorTom yeah I know it is and I go to the gym kick boxing, and martial arts to try to work on my temper. but when you spit in my face nothing makes me madder than that. and by the way Im not talking about someone who spits when they talk not realizing it either.

[Chazmatazz269]

You should feel however you do feel. I think the only wrong feeling would be no feeling. That would be a sign of sociopathy.

[Savannah194]

@Chazmatazz269 absolutely one of the best answers I have heard I had never been more furious in my life.

[Chazmatazz269]

I can relate. I tried to kill a guy that spit in my face once. It wasn’t a date though, and my friends stopped me. Fortunately.

[Savannah194]

@Chazmatazz269 yeah I almost got to that point. I left him with a concussion and I kicked him too. this was two years ago since then I workout, play basketball to relax and go to the dojang to control my temper. but if someone does it to me again I dont know If I would not do the same thing

[Blackcosmo]

Maybe slap him because technically he assaulted you. You have every right to be angry.

[Savannah194]

@blackcosmo oh believe me I did much more than slap him.

[Blackcosmo]

Oh my lol

[Savannah194]

@blackcosmo yeah I kicked him and I beat him up too. he had a concussion after I finished

[Blackcosmo]

WOW! Don't you think that's a bit much? I mean he spit at your face and then you caused a concussion. I feel like a slap would have been more than enough to be honest.

[Savannah194]

@blackcosmo he did more than that called me the c word too which I dont tolerate, it wasn't like someone just spiting not realizing while they are talking he just hocked it up at me. well I was extremely pissed wasn't thinking and this was two years ago I was 15 back then

[Blackcosmo]

Oh that's more understandable.

[Savannah194]

@blackcosmo yeah and I go to the gym kickboxing and play basketball to try to control my temper and rage

[Blackcosmo]

Oh that's good to hear

[Savannah194]

@blackcosmo but then again spitting in someone's face on purpose is the most vile and degusting thing you can in my mind. honestly if I was in the same situation same set of circumstances I can't honestly say I would not do it again. I should have just slapped him though your right.

[Blackcosmo]

I see and yes I agree with you.

[Savannah194]

@blackcosmo but am working on trying to modify my temper its just going very slow

[Blackcosmo]

I'm sure it will get better eventually. I wish you the best of luck!

[Philyouup]

well i’d it was intentional, that is considered assault ans you can have him charged. it also makes him a major asshole.


If it was by accident then you know that shit happens.

[Savannah194]

@Philyouup I agree and it was intentional he got mad because I wouldn't go back to the motel room after our first date for some other activity. I can understand however if someone spits while they talk and dont realize that is totally different than just hocking up a big load and going right for my face.

[Philyouup]

i hope all is well and you can move forward

[Wraven]

If it happened before the date started, re evaluate your dating profile for any inaccuracies that may be creating hate at first glance.

If it happens in the middle of the date, you may need to re evaluate how you talk to people or what you are saying.

If it's happening in bed, it's probably a kink thing.

[exitseven]

I wonder about the circumstances. I have been with girls who really deserved that treatment even though I would never stoop to that level of behavior. Maybe he was a jerk and maybe you should just break off all contact with him and forget about it.

[loveslongnails]

I don't agree that beating him up was the answer. Getting spit on sucks (unless you like it lol), but it's not like you were being threatened with real violence, or was it? If it was, you responded just fine. Otherwise, don't drop to his level. Just walk away.

[MCheetah]

That's a fighting action, there. If a guy did that to a girl, that's worth a full force kick to the balls. If a girl did that to a guy, that's worth a full weight, all upper body, open handed bitch slap across the face; the kind to drop her.

[Shy_Steve]

I reckon you should of slapped him and just left.

[Savannah194]

@Shy_Steve I did more than slap him I can tell you

[Shy_Steve]

Well you should stay away from him from now on.

[Sour-rose]

Just walk away. Everything says you need to beat their ass but just... leave. I mean EVERYTHING SAYS YOU NE-

But it's time for you to go, it ain't working out. :)

[BullShark]

Knee him in the balls as hard as you can and as he crouches over to howl in pain, slap him to the ground. Then proceed to kick the shit outta him and remember to spit back in his face before you leave

[_deeznuts]

omg😳

[BullShark]

@_deeznuts sorry if that came off as a bit too aggressive lol. But spitting in someone's face is one of the single most disrespectful and disgusting things you can do, and for me, that's even worse than getting slapped or hit either. It shows that you disgust them and you're not a real man/woman

[_deeznuts]

fair enough lmao

[melanieeeB]

The fuck ! Definitely call him out on that and never talk to them again. Ewww

[Savannah194]

@melanieeeB yeah I know and I did actually beat him up for it too. nothing makes me madder than that

[glennos89]

Spit in your face? For real?

If it was a guy... kick him in the nuts inmedietly
If it was a girl... bitchslap her right that moment

Such behaviour is totally unacceptable and nasty 🤮

[slatyb]

That seriously happened? Wow, who does that? “Should” doesn’t apply to feelings. We feel what we feel. “Should” applies to conscious choices that affect others or ourselves.

[Billlewis]

If the woman I'm wining, dining and spoiling were to spit in my face, I'd probably fall in love with her instantaneously ❤️

[Amy10223]

Oh, Lord. I hope that doeasnt happen to me! I would simply leave the date without even saying anything.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

That's sad for a date to spit in your face, my opinion is to move on and find someone better but take a break from serious dating, just be friends for the mean while.

[Ghostluck]

Did you kick him in the balls afterwards? I mean, if a guy spits in my face I'll break his scrawny fuckin neck... but that's me. So I hope you at very least planted a right foot square between his legs and left him gasping for air.

[Nathan25]

The same you would do if someone is harassing you. Walk away. Run away. Get away who cares leave mfer

[VanillaSalt]

Call cops that’s assault. STIs and other diseases are transferred like that.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Well I can't tell you to assault the person but you know

[FilmGuy93]

Did you enjoy it? If not, then don't go on another date with him.

[TroyDT]

I'd walk away. In your case I'd press charges. Doing what he did is considered assault (legal terms differ) in many jurisdictions.

[pizzalovershouse]

Well sounds very rude no matter what he thought of you if he did that he is a jerk an he dint deserve you

[Guardian45]

Someone spitting in your face is a highly emotionally charged response.

What did you do to elicit such a reaction?

[Staximus]

Stop meeting up with weirdos you meet on the internet. You need to keep yourself safe and out of trouble.

[driven159]

Won't be a date anymore she would be gone in a second spitting is so gross and for a woman to do it means she has 0 class

[goodgirlsteven]

Date or who ever! should never spit at your face! walk away and never look back! and who could ever spit at a beautiful face like yours?

[Dinosaursandanime65]

[maximumpower]

First - you should consider the date "over."
Second - don't waste your time waiting for him to call.

[controlleddecent]

Actually, you should turn and walk away and call the police for assault, but based on what you said you did you should be in jail for Assaulting him, two wrongs do not make a wright and beating him up just shows you have way more problems then he does also you failed to mention what you did to cause him to spit at you would you like to clear the air?

[Savannah194]

@controlleddecent ok buddy he did that cause I wanted go back to motel for sex afterwards and let someone spit in your face on purpose and see how you feel. how about that mister?

[controlleddecent]

I have had someone spit in my face before however I did not bring myself down to their level I walked away and what you said makes no sense he did that because what? also if it makes you feel better calling me buddy that's fine it shows you do not want anyone to voice an opinion other than agreeing with you not really the way the world works princess!!!

[Savannah194]

@controlleddecent well good for you sounds like you enjoyed and if it was me it says to me I can just violate you and you just take it sorry that isn't me and I think based on your reply you deserved it. im going say this one more time and that is he wanted sex on the first date and because of that he made the choice to spit in my face and by the way the police determined that it was his fault and their was witnesses. I dont mind you voicing your opinion your just uncomfortable with a young girl challenging your opinion cause you think you know it all and sounds to me you would beat a woman if you could or do I dont know and dont care. by the way its scumbags like you who made me turn to girls instead. you truly disgust me. have a nice day by the way im usually not this polite.

[controlleddecent]

I finally understand the circumstances thank you for telling me why and i agree you should have walked away from that advance on a first date however, I am the farthest thing from a scumbag I have never struck a woman nor would I and what you did was wrong. and I think everyone should express their opinion and you should not be so upset when someone disagrees with you, it's the reason i spent most of my life in the military was to give you the wright to say whatever you want so good luck and maybe see a therapist for your anger issues !

[Savannah194]

@controlleddecent glad you understand and I will admit I have some anger issues especially because i was abused by my father for years until I got the guts to become an emancipated minor a year and a half ago. one thing I will not tolerate is someone spiting in my face on purpose, I am glad you have not and im sorry I accused you of that without the facts and appreciate your service in the military, but I am sick and tired of men thinking and violating me in anyway the please and the moment they stand up for themselves you blame us im tried of that. yes I am in therapy and have been since that incident and I also go to a dojang which is martial arts and kickboxing to control my temper. but if someone did the same thing to me today I can't say I wouldn't do it again.

[controlleddecent]

Hey, I'm sorry for your past abuse that's beyond fucked up and I wish you only the best in the future and please do not paint all men with the same brush your dad and this piece of shit you went out with. there are a lot of good men out there and they come in all different packages.

[Savannah194]

@controlleddecent it is not your fault and your right I did do that I apologize. I appreciate your good thoughts as well and Im sure I will find one at some point. I dont think all men are bad and jerks but I do think they multiply every year unfortunately

[Open2It]

What on earth did you say or do for that to happen?

Unless you're into the 70's punk scene, spitting in someone's face isn't exactly a compliment or foreplay, I wouldn't think...

[Wise4myage]

You should have kicked him in the balls.

[Savannah194]

@Wise4myage oh I did believe me more than once and I beat him up on top of that

[Wise4myage]

Awesome, he had it coming.

[Savannah194]

@Wise4myage yeah I do feel about it though so I play basketball on the side and kickboxing to control my rage and temper

[Wise4myage]

That's normal, but your rage and temper needs some attention.

[Savannah194]

@Wise4myage yeah I left him with a concussion for sure. normally I dont and try to control myself but when you spit in my face nothing makes me more mad than that other than being called the c word which he did that too

[MikeInHawaii]

Hopefully, it’s your last date.

[Savannah194]

@MikeInHawaii no worry it was he did it because I wouldn't go back to his motel room afterwards

[MikeInHawaii]

Your profile says you’re seventeen. I don’t think hotels rent rooms to minors. How old was this jackass? Not that I’m that hung up on age differences. If you were me daughter, I’d much rather have you go out with a 25-year-old who treats you like a Princess than someone your own age who’s just after your body.

[Surely]

Can’t add anything more than what has already been said!

Hope you got him good!

[AimeeKyle]

When did it happen? What was happening / cause that response? (Or you believe caused that response?)

[RealDaveThomas]

People often spit, in the faces of people who don't want to be cool

Thanks, Carlito, lol

[Anonymous]

That is assault and you can press charges for that too.

[Anonymous]

If this happens enough that you need to ask this question. I think you need to re-evaluate who you interact with and why. 🤣

[SexyAsian]

I'd slap the shit out him and leave.

[Savannah194]

@sexyasian I actually kicked him and beat him up good after that. and then went home

[SexyAsian]

Good. There is no need for him to do that to you.

[zagor]

Head butt time. And don't see him again.

[Savannah194]

@zagor I did beat him up and kicked him and I try to work on my temper in the gym by kickboxing.

[The_Naughty_Guy]

Punch him on his face and kick his balls as well

[Savannah194]

@the_naughty_guy I did beat him up and kicked him so if that counts

[9inchestrong]

And it wasn't a sex thing? Well, insulated. People should not spit in your face.

[legalboxers]

walk away.. far far away.. or have them arrested for assault

[TonightYouu]

Wipe it off and ask them to please refrain from doing so in the future

[johnnygodeeep]

Was it during sex and dis you like it?

If so let him mnow you werei into it and when you break up with him come gwt more from me... :)

[Xtendable]

Sounds like childish behaviour and he doesn’t deserve any more of your time

[Con29]

For one spit back in their face and then report it

[Savannah194]

@con29 I actually beat him up for that. nothing makes me madder then being spit in my face.

[Con29]

I like being spat on lol you could do it too me all the time lol

[Savannah194]

@con29 I understand I don't mind it in my mouth or just about anywhere on my body but in my face absolutely not.

[Con29]

Would I have to pay you to do that to me?

[Savannah194]

@con29 I can do that for you.

[Con29]

Really how about the other things which you could see on my profile?

[Anonymous]

It's like you won a Oscar award...

[Savannah194]

I would have been mad and I have had that happen

[Sandeeppingping]

Gooey, I guess

[Savannah194]

@Sandeeppingping yeah I felt pissed

[ethanallen]

Where do you meet men?

[jengeorge26]

Grab his balls

[jengeorge26]

@savannah194 maybe bite his balls

[LexiXide]

I definitely would NOTlike that, gross

[Lynx122]

How did that happen?

[boredgal]

what? why did they do that?

[LiamSawyer]

He was extremely disrespectful to you.

[Sarahplus2]

Sucker punch him in the face.

[Anonymous]

File a police report against him. That is assault.

[Jamie05rhs]

Kick him in his nuts!

[smilelots]

move on and get out of there.