somehow I felt a little insulted of this comment. I think it was the part where he said that strong legs and arms would make me look hot. The comment makes me feel like I’m not enough for him. And I feel pretty objectified too, which would be nice to not be by someone I’m dating since I deal with it everyday even though I dress conservatively.
I voiced most of this to my date that the comment made me feel objectified and not enough for him. His reaction was that he is sorry and didn’t mean to make me feel that way and was trying to compliment me and feels embarrassed.
I still feel upset over the comment. I think I just need time alone to blow off steam. I’ve always been objectified since I was a teenager and it never makes me feel great. I got therapy for it but the objectification still happens. Dealing with objectification is actually one of the things I have to go through at work everyday and I know there’s nothing I can do about it, but it’s exhausting. I just want an escape from the objectification but my date didn’t make me feel great with that comment. I even told him we should move our date to next week as I’m tired. Was I overreacting? How should I approach him if I still don’t feel great even though he apologized?