Hi all.. I started talking to someone new last Tuesday and have been talking every day since I went on a date with her on Saturday & it went well.. we agreed to go on a second date but didn’t make any plans.. she hasn’t initiated any contact with me since.. I sent a goodnight message Sunday and she replied.. my question is how long do I wait for her to text me first or do I keep sending the msgs first? Thanks 🙏
Being that it is the week, I would wait a bit to send another message. Seeing as how you are both new to this dating relationship, you probably don’t know her routine. By routine, I mean what her typical week is like. Sure, you texted all week leading up to the date, but there was likely a lot of excitement that caused that.
There is no harm in waiting a little bit to see if she texts you back. She could be busy with the workweek and just didn’t have time to text yet. She may be the type of person that is up early, to work and then perhaps works out at the gym, gets home and has things to do there, etc.
Don’t overthink it. You also have to remember that some people are just not into texting much. I find this mostly with guys but some girls just don’t like texting. If the date went well and you talked about a second, I wouldn’t worry about it too much.
I would say Wednesday or Thursday (if you haven’t heard anything) you can send a text just saying something like “Hey, I really enjoyed our date and look forward to the next. Do you have any plans this upcoming weekend?”. See what comes back. Best of luck to you.
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Just give it some time man. People have shit to do and it's not always going to revolve around you and you're not entitled to know what's going on. She could be working a lot, she could be doing college classes. She could be doing any number of things.
Hell my girl is awful at texting people back, always has been. I have messages on here I haven't read in over a week because I have shit going on.
Just be patient.
She may think you ghosted if last Tuesday was last text. I would text her and ask if you may call her. When I got her so she can hear my voice, I would ask her out. Calling is serious and more intimate. Good Luck !!
I would say to send occasional messages. A lot of women don't like to send the first message. Just don't flood her with messages of course, but it doesn't sound like you'd do that anyway. LOL
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Just text her today and set up a date for this weekend
Text her and ask to FaceTime or call And then meet in person
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