Girls, how do you prefer a guy to ask your number who you won’t see again?

[blissinanarchy1]

So, guys. Maybe you belong to a gym, or a regular at a store you work at, I don’t know the situation. You see the girl multiple times, you get her number. I have a hard time getting girls that I encounter. You see the girl once, and if you don’t shoot your shot then and there, the opportunity is forever lost. If I see a girl multiple times I can usually get a number. I’m very confident, I listen more than I talk, I ask questions, smile. I don’t say creepy or sexual shit. I’m 6’3… yet I still get rejected. Is there another way?

[TheSpaceGnome]

"So, guys. Maybe you belong to a gym"
= Nope.


"or a regular at a store you work at"
= Nope.


"I don’t know the situation. You see the girl multiple times, you get her number."
= Nope, I don't ask for stranger's numbers with intent to date.


"I have a hard time getting girls that I encounter. You see the girl once, and if you don’t shoot your shot then and there, the opportunity is forever lost."
= What opportunity? The opportunity to look desperate enough to hit in some girl that at best I barely know?


Word of advice, only date female friends, being a pickup artist is worthless.

[Juxtapose]

I go for a female friends as well but I feel like in order to realistically get somebody you have to go on hundreds of dates or some shit.

[Juxtapose]

You and I have not been having much success with our method.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Maybe so in terms of the needle in a haystack issue, but there isn't enough time to get to know someone if you do that, hundreds of women you can't spend enough time with to get to know, is still zero women you know well enough to marry.

Even if you go on 500 dates a month, how are you gonna form a bond with any of them? how are you gonna test to see if the sex is good in each without becoming an std cesspool? how will you have time to hang out to see if you relate? How is the entire concept not cheating on all of them?

I would love it if "speed friending" with a card or profile you fill out was popular, the card/profile would have your interests, lifestyle preferences, hobbies, views, etc.

it would match you with only people who matched your selections, and you would get to see all of them in a huge list with search functions and organization and gender selection and location selection, and an option to filter for only your country.

You shouldn't need to date a person to learn about them.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Even if stds didn't exist, What if one got pregnant and she wasn't the best fit for you?

[TheSpaceGnome]

It makes more sense to have lots of female friends, get to know them well, then when one reveals herself as a perfect match, you date, then test sex, then marry.

[TheSpaceGnome]

the reason my way isn't working for me has to do with not having reliable way to meet friends in general, its an obscure problem, I don't fit most social norms, I prefer only artistically talented gamers who like science, Its the how do you meet 500 shut-ins a month for new friends question.

[Juxtapose]

Lots of female friends would help, I have a tendency to have a smaller social circle though. I like your card idea, it sounds a lot like dating websites so it would need to avoid the pitfalls of them.

[TheSpaceGnome]

All my hobbies require 1 to 4 people in most cases so my circle is usually small too, and I get along better with women who don't have toms if friends, so my suggestion wasn't making 500 friends a month, but rather filtering through 500 people a month and then settling on the best of them for friends

[TheSpaceGnome]

the pitfalls of dating sites are the paywalls and full inboxes, it would need to be 100% free, and store your inbox on your local storage so you don't have inbox limits

[TheSpaceGnome]

this would also decrease the price of multi terabyte storage drives as more people would be purchasing them or products with them

[RedStiletto88]

I prefer he doesn’t ask me anything.