Is it a red flag if he has many female friends?

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should I be worried?

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

I will tell you its a concern for me when I mean a women with a lot of guy friends, so yes I would think you should be concern for you as a women.

This "Friends" question comes up a lot honestly and some people get defensive about it so I just want to say from the start I am only speaking for myself, and in saying that I mean like 90% of most average guys out there.

Me, as just myself, I don't maintain relationships with any women unless on some level there is some type of attraction. You can label those relationship whatever you like, "just friends", " possible girlfriends", or "Women I would date if they offered the opportunity." Again for me, if I definitely would never date a women, or have sex with her if I had the chance... then chances are she would never fall into any of those categories.

For me the women I would call, "Just Friends" are the women I maintain semi-acquaintance with because they are women I would have relations with, but not date or I would date, currently but they are taken. So I maintain the acquaintance in order to remain relevant on some level to them without getting to close as to fall into the Friend Zone Trap. Once you fall into the Friend Zone Trap, that means she is only thinking of you as a friend and has made it very clear that is all you are to her. Once a women consider you a friend they tend to only see you as such and nothing more. Once this happens any possibilities of a romantic relationship become very long odds type of endeavors. But as man if you think there is some type of chance later you maintain the relationship on some level with your fingers crossed.

The other type of acquaintance guys maintain are the "possible girlfriends". This is the girl where you seriously see her as some one you would consider dating and maybe even on a committed level. But for what ever reason your are not sure about her. She not in a place yet where you think she would or is ready to date. There might be some other factors involve were you are not sure she is would be ideal girlfriend material, but you still have some level of interest. So you maintain some type of relationship with her, but again you don't want to get to close, just remain relevant in some way so you can try to move it to a romantic situation if the opportunity presents itself.

Then there is the last category, "Women I would date if they offered the opportunity." These are the types of women that you feel might be beyond your reach. But if they wanted to date you or showed any interest you would jump on the opportunity immediately. So again you maintain the acquaintance on a more flirty level, again staying relevant without getting too close and avoiding the Friend Zone Trap... but still expressing a interest in maintaining some type of relationship.

So guys with a lot of "Girl Friends" that they clam are "Just Friends", well if he is a single guy then he is really just a guy with a lot of hooks in the water. So as a women you have to ask yourself why does he have so many women as friends and still available? What is it you don't know about him that possibly, other women do and just want to be friends and not romantic with him? What makes him so likeable, but not dateable? Or is he a guy that is attracted to these women beyond his reach and is interested in you until something better comes a long? Because let's be honest ladies there are a lot of guys out there that worm their way into these friendships, and once he starts dating someone else he suddenly because more attractive to you. Because you never saw him as someone you would date, until you see him with someone else, and you as his "friend" because less relevant in his life.

NottaNatty · Accepted Answer

I personally would say no as long as he's got a few guy friends and makes sure the woman know he is just a friend. I personally have more female friends than guy friends and they all know we are just bro's. While it's not as common it does happen. I'm 110% straight and for the people that say it makes you guy or whatever are honestly just plain stupid. Because like 90% of guys are toxic dumb Bata makes that try to make guys that have female friends weak, because they think that your supposed to want to bang every woman you see but they can't even talk to one as a friend so there is then this stigma that the person in question should be watched or judged. So yes this can be normal. but really maybe just ask him kindly as to why he doesn't try to make more guy friends, he could have a completely logical reason.

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

Its funny guys are saying no, cause when it's women with a whole bunch guy friends they see it as a huge red flag 😂 um maybe... they could be all friends, or few of the girls secretly like him and competing for him, maybe he likes some of them... but who really knows for sure. You could cut throw all the girls by making a move first and see how some respond, if they are cool and don't care, then they are just friends. If they become jealous and angry then they like him or might have something going on.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

What kind of female friends? From work? Church? Are they his childhood friends? Do they have families of their own? Or significant others? Are they always together alone with your man? Depends! If he’s loyal and faithful to you, he could have a million of friends, they won’t matter if his heart ♥️ and eyes are only for you

coachTanthony · Answer

Unless they are ugly then yeah he is waiting for an opportunity and that is super sad.

Ukrainianbuddafly · Answer

It depends on the man and who these friends are. If they're ex's and/or people he has had sexual contact or interest in I'd call that a roster not friends. If they're platonic or someone he grew up with I feel there's no issue. Only a problem if the line has been crossed or if they aren't being respectful. Most of my friends are men because I find it easier to relate for whatever reason. It'd be hypocritical for me to say someone else can't have friends of the opposite sex

petitedollbabee · Answer

No, I have many male friends so I don’t see how him having female friends is any different. Ofcourse, if I felt that something was off or had a gut feeling that he was cheating, I’d get proof and go from there. But otherwise if they’re just platonic friendships that he’s having, then there’s no issue at all.

TenderFantasy · Answer

Yes. But I also think:

1. How deep/solid is your trust for each other?

2. Are any of his "friends" hot/cute/single?

3. Does he ever prioritize hanging out with his girl "friend" more than you, his GIRLFRIEND/WIFE/FIANCE? ? !

4. Does he prioritize his girl "friend" over hanging out with his children? ? !

Girlfriend, girlfriends, same thing. One or more.

ohsheeT · Answer

No we'll I don't know the guy so I can't really say I can just speak for myself I have many female friends and we are just friends it's funny tho because when I do get in to a relationship I go to the same thing it's where I kind of have to give up my friends to be with this new girl because just out of respect first of all but she doesn't understand that you can just be friends without anything else

Guardian45 · Answer

If he has many female friends it is NOT a red flag. I have MANY female friends, both single and married; it DOESN'T mean ANYTHING by itself.

Look at the TOTALITY of his actions and behaviors with you and others. If you're STILL suspicious, then discuss it with him. If you CANNOT resolve or get over your fears, then your relationship is DOOMED!

Moose304 · Answer

I have many friends with benefits that I see from time to time. I have several good friends that happen to be female. I am NOT in a relationship and have no plans to ever be. I am also not gay. I make no secret how I am. If a female can't handle my open relationships she needs to go find another man. In general, though female friends can be a red flag. Just like everything else, look at the context of the relationship.

Lynn2001 · Answer

It depends. If his friends just happen to be girls or if he just has a lot of friends in general then it’s fine, as long as they’re not interacting a certain way. But if he is hanging out with a lot of female friends in a weird way then yes it’s a red flag, especially if he is hanging out with them more than you.

Vegasrunner · Answer

The biggest red flag is that girls are typically dishonest W/men when it comes to relationships and the games they play. If He has female friends he'll be able to get info about your behavior which is going to limit your ability to manipulate him.

Anonymous · Answer

Na, it just means that he knows how to treat women respectfully... Or he could be gay. The guy in HS all of us were friends with surprised everyone but me apparently that he is gay... I called it from a mile away... My GRANDPA called it from a mile away! Lol

JDavid25 · Answer

I wouldn't say a red flag per say, but if they look decent I would be a little cautious.. But, if he shows no signs of being attracted to them or has never hooked up with one of them or wanted to, it should be fine..

taraburtch · Answer

no. just be on the look out for any heart eye emojis you may see in the comment section of his posts lol

Rania05 · Answer

He may just be a friendly and helpful person.  Many women tend to treats their male friends as brothers. I don't see red flag steaming from this, but it may be also my inexperience.

Anonymous · Answer

I had a girl who had close friends she knew since high school and before. She would stay with her often. Turns out her friends and even family would help her cover up lies and create BS to make it seem friendly when she was actually just going on dates and cheating.

Lustybliss · Answer

Not necessarily, he probably feels more open with females. Only a insecure female would have a problem with that.

Anonymous · Answer

If he'll also let me have many male friends too, then it's a deal. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Pfft. I think a man can have some female acquiantances, but not more than his guy friends. That'll ring a bell for sure. 💁🏻‍♂️🎀✨

slatyb · Answer

It's a sign he actually likes women. I don't think it's a red flag. You'll know soon enough by the way he treats you.

Sarahr123 · Answer

It is definitely a red flag and vice versa. If someone only or mostly has opposite sex friends they’re either banging them or waiting for the chance to bang them.

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

No, it's not a red flag on its own, it's a red flag if combined with other things

Nikki1989 · Answer

Nope. I have many male friends, but that is all they are, friends.

Lilymaryloui · Answer

Ummm for me depends tbh, if they are know him from long time ago it's normal and not red flag, but having female friends which is they are new? Hmm it's a huge red flag, unless he's gay

FreyaRed · Answer

No, but surely he deserves to participate in loyalty test before setting any kind of other questions.

DermalPunch · Answer

Yes. They are all potentials for him. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Well, I don't know your boyfriend or spouse. But listen, if a person is going to cheat then they are just going to do it.  Friends or no friends, if the opportunity presents itself they would do it.

JosyJosy · Answer

Not to me, I'll keep an eye out on how they interact, but if they're just friends, nothing weird should happen.

Belgie · Answer

If you're that paranoid and insecure then yes it's a red flag - FOR HIM.

burlen · Answer

No! Why should having many female or male friends a red flag?

dustybiker · Answer

I don’t think that’s in and of itself a problem, no.

rienna888 · Answer

Yes I’d be worried if my boyfriend had too many female friends. See how he’s around them

clampfan101 · Answer

Guys can have 100% casual friendship with women. I’ve had some in the past.

Valso · Answer

Most likely he's gay. I've seen it before quite a few times. In all cases the guy was obviously gay (at least to those of us who can instantly identify a gay) who later came out as such.

RavVid · Answer

No. But the lionesses will call you out if you don't treat him right.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Unless gay the good friend bullshit is just waiting for their chance to get in there.

JPresidente · Answer

Yes. He’s either gay, a soft soy boy or he has some side pieces

DancingQueen16 · Answer

No my boyfriend is friends with other girls and I'm not worried

CloudMassacre · Answer

I have four girl friends and I haven’t ever done anything sexual with them in the 4 years we’ve been friends

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, could be red flags if he has many female friends.

exitseven · Answer

Unless he had dated them or had sex with them it is not something you should worry about.

richgentlem4n · Answer

It's not a red flag unless they're flirting with each other

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

He's hiding his gay tendencies.  Stay away from men that have female friends Men and women can't be friends end of story.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Yes Definitely, He is most likely going to Flirt with every Girl he meets so if your ok with that then go for it.

OfDeath · Answer

Yes. It means he is actually a flaming homosexual and obviously closeted.

Luopio27 · Answer

No I wouldn't be worried. If she respects you, she won't cheat.

macjets007 · Answer

Yes. I can't name a female friend I didn't want to at least have sex with lol

Wise4myage · Answer

Only if he is screwing any of them. If you. think he's cheating, then get proof.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Why is this a thing to be worried about?

jshm2 · Answer

No. Not at all.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Depends. Depends on a bunch of factors

Anonymous · Answer

personally yes...

es20490446e · Answer

I guess it's the opposite.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

No; not at all. Unless he's fucking them.

Blackcupcake · Answer

yes run🙄

Clyde_123 · Answer

Not a red flag unless he is flirting with them.

Fuentes · Answer

A flag he may be SuS lol

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

He's either gay or a cocksman extreme.

texas_giiirl30 · Answer

Yes, usually

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.

chocomilk99 · Answer

Yupp

LavLavLuv · Answer

for me.. nope

In_Trance · Answer

Huge red flag

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